Thankfully I haven't run into that problem yet with any partners I've had. If i did and it couldn't be rectified through communication and it bothered the guy THAT MUCH, i might not stick around. It would just bother me and bring me down if I was told I can't do something, it offends him, etc etc, when it's something I've done for a while and it's healthy and natural.
Does your partner get angry or offended when you masturbate?
05/30/2012
My partner encourages it. As do I for him. I tell him the more I play with myself the more I want to play with you
05/30/2012
Thank you EVERYONE for your wonderful answers, I've found a lot of them very helpful. A lot of points that I tried to make to my boyfriend are in here, but there are a lot of better ways of explaining it and points I hadn't even brought up that may help me explain it to him without hurting him. I appreciate everyone's input and hope this question was able to help others in similar situations.
I'll try talking to him again after compiling more reasons about this, and I'll post any update I come up with.
I'll try talking to him again after compiling more reasons about this, and I'll post any update I come up with.
05/30/2012
No... I don't think I could be with someone who did feel that way. I hate that masturbation is often seen as something you do only when you do not have a partner.
05/31/2012
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I feel the same way, which is why this is such a problem for me.
Originally posted by
solitudinarian
No... I don't think I could be with someone who did feel that way. I hate that masturbation is often seen as something you do only when you do not have a partner.
05/31/2012
Unless you're masturbating so much you don't have time for them, I don't see a problem. I've never gotten any grief for it and if I did, I'd think they're a control freak.
05/31/2012
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No, I've only masturbated like 5 times in the last 5 months of us being together, BECAUSE he was getting offended and/or angry about it. So it's not like I do it A LOT (compared to the 5 times a DAY I did it before I moved in with him)
Originally posted by
Khanner
Unless you're masturbating so much you don't have time for them, I don't see a problem. I've never gotten any grief for it and if I did, I'd think they're a control freak.
05/31/2012
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That's what I'm starting to feel now. I mean, I don't WANT to leave him, but I also don't want to argue every time I decide to masturbate.
Originally posted by
Envy
Thankfully I haven't run into that problem yet with any partners I've had. If i did and it couldn't be rectified through communication and it bothered the guy THAT MUCH, i might not stick around. It would just bother me and bring me down
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Thankfully I haven't run into that problem yet with any partners I've had. If i did and it couldn't be rectified through communication and it bothered the guy THAT MUCH, i might not stick around. It would just bother me and bring me down if I was told I can't do something, it offends him, etc etc, when it's something I've done for a while and it's healthy and natural.
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05/31/2012
It used to bother Mr when I would do it. Only because early in our marriage I was a sexually repressed person who felt that it was a betrayal of our marriage covenant... blah blah blah. I was dumb.
Anyway, now we both encourage masturbation. He encourages me if he wants me to be in the mood. I encourage him if I'm not in the mood!
I encourage him other times as well, but yeah.
It's really important for women to masturbate. It helps build blood flow in the genitals, increases sex drive, and leads to more fulfilling sex.
Anyway, now we both encourage masturbation. He encourages me if he wants me to be in the mood. I encourage him if I'm not in the mood!
I encourage him other times as well, but yeah.
It's really important for women to masturbate. It helps build blood flow in the genitals, increases sex drive, and leads to more fulfilling sex.
05/31/2012
My husband loves when I masturbate....which is good, since there's no way I'd stop.
05/31/2012
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So, what that last few sentences translates to is that it would be better for him, too. That could be the winning point.
Originally posted by
BBW Talks Toys
It used to bother Mr when I would do it. Only because early in our marriage I was a sexually repressed person who felt that it was a betrayal of our marriage covenant... blah blah blah. I was dumb.
Anyway, now we both encourage masturbation. ... more
Anyway, now we both encourage masturbation. ... more
It used to bother Mr when I would do it. Only because early in our marriage I was a sexually repressed person who felt that it was a betrayal of our marriage covenant... blah blah blah. I was dumb.
Anyway, now we both encourage masturbation. He encourages me if he wants me to be in the mood. I encourage him if I'm not in the mood!
I encourage him other times as well, but yeah.
It's really important for women to masturbate. It helps build blood flow in the genitals, increases sex drive, and leads to more fulfilling sex. less
Anyway, now we both encourage masturbation. He encourages me if he wants me to be in the mood. I encourage him if I'm not in the mood!
I encourage him other times as well, but yeah.
It's really important for women to masturbate. It helps build blood flow in the genitals, increases sex drive, and leads to more fulfilling sex. less
05/31/2012
nope never had that problem LOL in fact they usually like to watch!
05/31/2012
I don't really mind it unless I was available or bored at the time, then it's a little sad I wasn't invited to joing
05/31/2012
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Match. Point. Set.
Originally posted by
britanny0620
So, what that last few sentences translates to is that it would be better for him, too. That could be the winning point.
05/31/2012
Not at all. I'm so glad too. Because I can't keep my hand out of my pants.
05/31/2012
Not at all. She encourages it.
05/31/2012
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Well well, thanks so much then, this may be exactly what I needed to say from the beginning. See, I told you I admire you, this is one of the (what will undoubtedly be) many reasons why.
Originally posted by
BBW Talks Toys
Match. Point. Set.
05/31/2012
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Yeah, once he realized I was more into sex when I masturbated, he got over his problem with it quickly. Really quickly. And it pays off too. This morning? masturbate. This afternoon? OMG hot sex. Like he can't sit sex.
Originally posted by
britanny0620
Well well, thanks so much then, this may be exactly what I needed to say from the beginning. See, I told you I admire you, this is one of the (what will undoubtedly be) many reasons why.
05/31/2012
An update on my situation -I talked with him and he seemed to take it really well. This morning, after he woke up, I stayed in bed a little while to masturbate. He came back in while I was doing it and slapped my hand away so he could finish me off. I'm a little upset but it's only the first time since the conversation so I'm hoping for improvement.
06/02/2012
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That's fantastic, by the way.
Originally posted by
BBW Talks Toys
Yeah, once he realized I was more into sex when I masturbated, he got over his problem with it quickly. Really quickly. And it pays off too. This morning? masturbate. This afternoon? OMG hot sex. Like he can't sit sex.
06/03/2012
On the contrary, my partner loves to watch me masturbate.
06/05/2012
Oh HELL no. If I had a partner who got angry when I masturbated, there is no way I would be able to make a relationship with them work. I would take that as a really bad sign.
06/06/2012
Never had that problem
06/06/2012
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It's more of the solo aspect that the OP refers to. Without them there to watch.
Originally posted by
TheirPet
On the contrary, my partner loves to watch me masturbate.
06/06/2012
I don't have a problem with my boyfriend doing it and he doesn't have a problem with me doing it either... it's the only action we both get since he's deployed
06/08/2012
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My bf did get upset when he found out I was into toys..thinking they were bigger than him or something.I had a talk with him about how its just like when he jerks off..and i know he does, so its normal!I also put it out there that we dont live together so i dont get him every time i want him...its better to masturbate than to cheat with a real person!!He accepts now but I think he still gets weirded out for some reason that I do it!
Originally posted by
britanny0620
My boyfriend gets really offended and sometimes even angry when I masturbate. After a first few times of me doing it, I mentioned to him that it upsets me that he doesn't want me to find pleasure in/by myself (even when he fails to pleasure me,
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My boyfriend gets really offended and sometimes even angry when I masturbate. After a first few times of me doing it, I mentioned to him that it upsets me that he doesn't want me to find pleasure in/by myself (even when he fails to pleasure me, but I wouldn't say THAT to him). He said that it makes him feel inadequate but when I explained to him that sometimes - when he's not here, or asleep, or even with him here with me, I just like to have some sexual time by myself. He seemed okay with that, but he still gets offended if I masturbate. Have you ever had this problem? (comment with your opinion/solution)
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06/12/2012
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not at all sometime my wife will lift her skirt in the car and masturbate till she cums what a turn on she often asks me to pull out my cock and stroke off for her in hotels casinos and other public she loves me wearing her panties and jerking off
Originally posted by
britanny0620
My boyfriend gets really offended and sometimes even angry when I masturbate. After a first few times of me doing it, I mentioned to him that it upsets me that he doesn't want me to find pleasure in/by myself (even when he fails to pleasure me,
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My boyfriend gets really offended and sometimes even angry when I masturbate. After a first few times of me doing it, I mentioned to him that it upsets me that he doesn't want me to find pleasure in/by myself (even when he fails to pleasure me, but I wouldn't say THAT to him). He said that it makes him feel inadequate but when I explained to him that sometimes - when he's not here, or asleep, or even with him here with me, I just like to have some sexual time by myself. He seemed okay with that, but he still gets offended if I masturbate. Have you ever had this problem? (comment with your opinion/solution)
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08/05/2012
The person I'm dating encourages me to if anything.
Also, you should tell him if he's not pleasing you. Not cool. Everyone deserves to have sexual pleasure within a relationship, not just men. If he doesn't agree with that, and is mad that you're masturbating, you need to find a new boyfriend...
Also, you should tell him if he's not pleasing you. Not cool. Everyone deserves to have sexual pleasure within a relationship, not just men. If he doesn't agree with that, and is mad that you're masturbating, you need to find a new boyfriend...
08/07/2012
Thanks for the advice and kind words everyone. At this point him and I are broken up, but I'm hoping that this thread will help anyone else in that predicament who doesn't want to break up. Thanks again everyone!
08/09/2012
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I should also add that this was NOT the main reason we broke up, but it was on the list.
Originally posted by
britanny0620
Thanks for the advice and kind words everyone. At this point him and I are broken up, but I'm hoping that this thread will help anyone else in that predicament who doesn't want to break up. Thanks again everyone!
08/09/2012