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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
I'm an old dude, but this is a new one on me. A friends son got fixed up with a nice, pretty young lady for a "blind double date". He say's he liked the girl but just cannot call her back, because "her voice was awful, like a "squeak toy"...drove me nuts all night"!!!!

Have you ever been bothered by, or actually not dated someone, because of their voice?
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A dates voice does not bother me, if I like them.
4
A dates voice may bother me, but it would not stop me from dating them again.
43
I have dumped a potential date due to their voice.
13
Other?
17
Total votes: 77 (71 voters)
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09/08/2011
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Contributor: Kkay Kkay
I haven't dumped someone because of voice, but I probably wouldn't be able to date someone who grated on my nerves.
09/08/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
I'll admit, I've heard a few female voices that were absolutely unbearable, but usually it's made up, fake. Not their real voice and chances are they'll soon not be able to keep it up and it'll become tolerable again. Lol. I have a lot of girlfriends who think it's cute to do the high pitched annoying voice thing. I hate it. I've never heard a male's voice that ever got on my nerves so I probably wouldn't dump them, but if it was really bad I might think about it. Lol. As long as you ain't loud enough to give me a headahce or high pitched to the point of making me squint my eyes because of the pain, I'll be ok. Lol
09/08/2011
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I'm an old dude, but this is a new one on me. A friends son got fixed up with a nice, pretty young lady for a "blind double date". He say's he liked the girl but just cannot call her back, because "her voice was awful, like a ... more
cant really say that i have
09/08/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
i have a few acquaintances that have abnormally high pitched voices, and i'll admit, that does drive me away. i wouldn't mind being friends with them, but if a man doesn't have a deep voice, I'll be turned off by them
09/08/2011
Contributor: emiliaa emiliaa
Haha I don't really think I could tolerate it if someone had an annoying voice! But I honestly haven't met that many people who's voices bother me. (Mostly a few older customers of mine who 'whine' whenever they're ordering and mispronounce everything on the menu. XD) But like, in a potential partner? I'd guess it'd effect my attraction one way or another, but it would just be a part of my decision process, and I'm not terribly picky on voices from what I've seen.
09/08/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
There was a guy who was interested in me at one point in my early 20's, we met after talking online for a little while. He had kind of a grainy, broken voice and it made him sound unsure of himself even though he knew what he was talking about. I wasn't confident he could protect me and seduction definitely wasn't on the list, so I said I wasn't interested.
09/08/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
If someone's voice is annoying then they pretty much are annoying and I would not like them. I would not want to date someone who every time they open their mouth I wish I was not around. I have heard some annoying squeak toy girl voices before, I would rather hear the squeak toy squeezed all day than put myself through that.
09/08/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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If it was just awful, it might bug me a little bit! But I don't think that it's a super big deal!
09/08/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
If someone's voice is annoying then they pretty much are annoying and I would not like them. I would not want to date someone who every time they open their mouth I wish I was not around. I have heard some annoying squeak toy girl voices before, ... more
Well said!

I simply cannot stand ANYONE who has a squeaky, a high pitch, or a very fake feminine voice -- makes my skin crawl when I'm listening to those kind of voices!
09/08/2011
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by Beck
If someone's voice is annoying then they pretty much are annoying and I would not like them. I would not want to date someone who every time they open their mouth I wish I was not around. I have heard some annoying squeak toy girl voices before, ... more
HA!

It's kinda mean, and not always their fault, but I think it does make a difference. I couldn't imagine wanting to shove nails in my ears rather than hearing my partner talk.
09/08/2011
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I must have sensitive ears... A pleasant tone of voice is nice but I wouldn't be too sad if someone I was attracted to had a less-than-pleasant tone of voice.

Volume, though, is super important. Some people can't/don't lower their voices---and if I'm in a restaurant, I hate to be the table that everyone can overhear. I naturally gravitate toward people with soft speaking voices.
09/08/2011
Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
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Originally posted by Antipova
I must have sensitive ears... A pleasant tone of voice is nice but I wouldn't be too sad if someone I was attracted to had a less-than-pleasant tone of voice.

Volume, though, is super important. Some people can't/don't lower their ... more
Ugh, I hate talking to people who half-shout all the time. (Seriously, dude, I'm one foot away, tone it down.) At the other end of the spectrum, there's people who mumble in larger settings where raising your voice a tad can be beneficial. (Seriously, dude, I'm one foot away and I can't hear you.)

As for the voice itself, I get somewhat annoyed by voices that sound kind of... I guess "thick" is the word that best describes it. Not thick like stupid, but thick like they're sleepy all the time. Really nasally or higher-pitched voices can be grating, too. Whether or not I'd refuse to date a guy with an annoying voice would really depend on the severity of annoyance vs. how much I like being around him. Gotta weigh all the factors.
09/12/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
A voice is a constant thing, and considering how vital communication is, an annoying voice would make conversation awkward. If my date had an annoying voice, I would continue dating him to see if the voice became less annoying or it was a false voice.
09/12/2011
Contributor: JRabbits JRabbits
Yes, if a guys voice is annoying I won't date him. My brother has this friend who is cute but sounds like Micky Mouse. After five minutes of being locked the same space with him for a cookout once I was tempted to stick a grill fork in his voice box. Guys just shouldn't sound like girls.

I can be picky though, because I know my voice is annoying and I wouldn't want to date me if I was a guy. I'd shove a sock in my mouth and tell me to scram.
09/12/2011
Contributor: Katastophy Katastophy
If it is unbearably annoying, I wouldn't date them.
09/12/2011
Contributor: Sex'и'Violence Sex'и'Violence
I don't want to say I'd break up with someone over their voice but honestly it would probably depend on just how wierd/off their voice was.
09/12/2011
Contributor: ParisLove ParisLove
No but its weird to talk to a man who has a soft female voice
09/13/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
If I really felt there was a connection then I wouldn't allow their voice to turn me off.
09/14/2011
Contributor: mcl272 mcl272
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Originally posted by ParisLove
No but its weird to talk to a man who has a soft female voice
i totally agree with this! i like deep manly voices!
09/14/2011
Contributor: Princess-Kayla ♥ Princess-Kayla ♥
My boyfriend once told me that the first time he called me, he never wanted to talk to me again, because my voice sounded weird. But he says he loves it now.
09/17/2011
Contributor: Ivy Wilde Ivy Wilde
I find certain voices just insanely annoying. I couldn't date anyone with a voice like that.
09/17/2011
Contributor: Illumin8 Illumin8
I haven't ever been in a situation like this, but I guess it would depend on how truly annoying the voice was!
09/17/2011
Contributor: Selective Sensualist Selective Sensualist
If a guy's voice is extremely grating or high-pitched, it would certainly dampen my initial attraction to him (and maybe even prevent me from developing any attraction at all beyond friendship). I don't remember any of the guys I ever dated having what I'd call an annoying voice.

On the other hand, if a guy has a voice that I find sexy, his voice can be the most powerful aphrodisiac of all. I have actually developed crushes on guys because of their voices--of all the guys I've had crushes on in my life, I've forgotten many but can still recall each crush who had an exceptionally sexy voice. I could be sitting in a classroom full of other students, just listening to the sound of my crush's voice discussing, well, anything at all and become aroused! Of course, my crushes would also always possess other attributes (both physical attributes and character attributes) that I found immensely appealing, but it was always the timber and pitch of their voices (and sometimes the cadence of an accent) that sunk me into hopeless, weak-kneed infatuation. Cute and confident guys are a dime a dozen, but a cute, confident guy with a sexy, pleasing voice is unforgettable (especially if he also exhibits integrity).

I really love my husband's voice. It definitely played into my attraction to him.
09/17/2011
Contributor: Rhazya Rhazya
I would say it does, if you find their voice annoying in some way or form.. could you stand listening to that day in and out?

I had a male friend whose voice sounded like his testicles never descended, and he constantly sounded whiny when he wasn't whining. I don't think I could have dated him.

I had another male friend, who just had a sexy voice, very confident, and knows exactly what he is saying before it comes out of his mouth. I would've dated him.

My voice on the other hand, I've worked two telephone survey jobs. (Call people and ask them if they'll answer survey questions.) I always got the most male completes of any team member and frequently would get asked for my number. The team members would joke I should go into the telephone sex industry.

It's funny because I don't think my speaking voice sounds pretty or feminine. I have a nice singing voices yes, speaking? Not in my opinion.
10/08/2011
Contributor: Miss Anonymous Miss Anonymous
I don't think it would matter too me if I really liked them. But then again I've never been faced with something like that before. I guess it would just depend on the voice maybe.
10/08/2011
Contributor: big b big b
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10/09/2011
Contributor: Sweet-Justice Sweet-Justice
It wouldn't bother me as long as I loved them.
10/09/2011
Contributor: SilverIsis SilverIsis
As a singer, the voice is very important to me. I have never dumped a man because of his voice but a good voice has drawn me to men that I may have been on the fence about their physical attractiveness.
10/09/2011
Contributor: Adriana Ravenlust Adriana Ravenlust
Quote:
Originally posted by ThoughtsAblaze
A voice is a constant thing, and considering how vital communication is, an annoying voice would make conversation awkward. If my date had an annoying voice, I would continue dating him to see if the voice became less annoying or it was a false ... more
I agree about conversation becoming awkward. And communication is so important to me that I'd really worry if I liked someone but not their voice.
10/09/2011