Do you want to be single?

Contributor: seaofneptune seaofneptune
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Originally posted by *Country Girl Can Survive*
AMEN! I'll raise my glass to that!

Hubby & I have only been married alittle over a year but we have been together for almost 5 years. I wouldn't trade it for the world.
There are so many times when I was single where I wasnt ... more
I agree - I love that I am so comfortable about my partner and that I can be myself completely around him!
01/07/2010
Contributor: Passionate Pastor Passionate Pastor
I am happily married and while I do enjoy some alone time now and again I really love being able to share my life (and sex life!) with my wife in a committed relationship.
03/31/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I happily in an exclusive relationship.
03/31/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
I love my husband and I love my life partner too much to ever want to be truly single. I'm not a terribly social person and I like the comfortable times we share. We all flirt terribly with each other and other people and we're open to having sexual relationships with others but generally that doesn't happen just due to the stress involved. We have a good time together and I kinda like it that way.
I never minded having someone to call, for us it was a matter of courtesy not necessity. Sort of a "hey I'm here...I'll be home at such and such time." It's nice to feel like someone is aware of where you are and looking forward to you coming home.
03/31/2010
Contributor: GNGenie GNGenie
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Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
The last few months have been really life changing for me, but the biggest change is that I stopped wanting to be in romantic relationships. I've been in a couple and it always comes back to wanting to be single - although I do enjoy a monogamous ... more
I really really miss being single, or at least just dating. I hate the constant need to think of another person (even though he's relatively low maintenance), the calls, the emotions, the sheet-hogging...

I think I'd be lonely without him though, honestly.
04/30/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
<--- FWB left and now single with the divorce coming through

I MISS AFFECTION!
04/30/2010
Contributor: Elodie Elodie
I'm with someone and I'm very happy with him. But I didn't choose that option, because of the "I don't want to be single" part. I don't have anything against being single, and there are some things I miss about it.

I've been with someone in the past just to not be single, and I was far lonelier then than when I wasn't in any romantic relationship. A romantic partner should make you feel more free, more yourself, not less so. Otherwise you're better off alone.
04/30/2010
Contributor: ScotchIrish ScotchIrish
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Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
The last few months have been really life changing for me, but the biggest change is that I stopped wanting to be in romantic relationships. I've been in a couple and it always comes back to wanting to be single - although I do enjoy a monogamous ... more
I am going through the process of a divorce. (Not a bad one) I live in the attic and I will move out this year if I can afford it. We try to keep things civil and amicable for the kids (2). She stays at home 99% of the time. If she goes out, it is to family functions. She does not want the divorce. I do. I have wants, needs and desires. I go out when I can afford to. I have a great time. I look forward to being on my own. When I got married I moved out of my Mom's house and moved into our home. We never slept together until we were married. Like I said. I look forward to the single life. But, I am not in a rush. I never cheated and sex is something I look forward to in the future. I just want to move out and move on. It's been 3years already, whats another. So, it is not about a mid life crisis or sowing my oats. I will have fun, when the time is right, I do have morals and manners. I also have a lot to learn about. And this site, is fantastic. I learn so much by reading what many of you have to say. I have made a few mistakes, but I am learning. And, you do have to break some eggs to make jello. LOL
05/07/2010
Contributor: Miss Naughty Kitty Miss Naughty Kitty
I have a few sexual partners that come and go, but one main one that I am extreemly attracted too, we have amazing sexual chemistry (I am known by his friends as the nymph, lol.) I would be open to being in a relationship with him if we could see each other more. Although I do believe that the fact that we don't get to see each other often is why I'm so attracted to him, I'm always left wanting more. I usually get bored with guys after a while (about 6 months).

I really do enjoy being single, I think of my self as a bit of a player. Hey men do it, so why can't I?
05/07/2010
Contributor: joja joja
I chose the "other" option because I am in a committed, long-term relationship, but have no problem with being single in theory. My current relationship kind of sprung up on me - I wasn't looking for anyone and was quite content on my own. In fact, there were a number of things I had to get used to after 2-3 years of being single that I didn't like: the constant need to be around him, the ease with which his actions or feelings can affect me, and a general (but slight) decline in independence. I really enjoyed the ease with which I could run my life as a single, and although we're in an open relationship, I still feel slightly less comfortable flirting with people at parties and such. That said, it's really nice to have access to regular sex, cuddling, good conversation, inspiration, and encouragement. It's a mixed bag.
06/03/2010
Contributor: Lustful Dreams Lustful Dreams
I'm in an extremely happy relationship - we sill be married eventually. I do miss the first time excitement and the passion you feel when you first going. The "you can't kiss hard enough, or fast enough or can't rip each others clothes off fast enough" type of sex. Don't get me wrong, my fiance and I still have those moments, but sometimes I miss the single flirting and passion.
06/03/2010
Contributor: Sera Sera
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Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
The last few months have been really life changing for me, but the biggest change is that I stopped wanting to be in romantic relationships. I've been in a couple and it always comes back to wanting to be single - although I do enjoy a monogamous ... more
I used to want to be single without him, but I realized how empty I felt when I broke up with him. It wasn't worth it at all. I really don't know what I'd do without him here.
08/12/2010
Contributor: PassionQT PassionQT
I'm married and happily so, but some days I wonder what it would be like for me to be single now, as a more enlightened & more sexual being.
08/12/2010
Contributor: Maiden Maiden
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Originally posted by Tuesday
Yes. I miss the frequent sex from being single. Sigh...
Me too. I love my man, but I don't get as much sex I want. This is a constant struggle in our relationship. We have a toddler and he works 12 hour days on a rotating schedule. Sex just isn't a priority to him. He has no time on the days that he works, and I understand that. He does get more days off than most people, and I feel like it shouldn't be a problem to have sex at least once a day on those days, when the boy is asleep. I know this isn't always feasible, but I get really disappointed when he is home for two or three days and we don't have sex at all, or if we do, it is really quick. He does try to make it up to me, and I get really good sex, with lots of foreplay and bondage and spanking, etc. about once a month.
So, I am torn. I love our relationship in every other way, and I feel like I am being selfish, but I can't help the way I feel. If I feel unsatisfied, then I feel unsatisfied. He averages three off days a week, and every other week those three days are together. I don't think it unreasonable to have sex two or three times a week, with at least one of those times being more than a quicky. I try not to nag, but if I don't say anything( and I have tried this, thinking the nagging made him not want to do it more) we will go weeks without sex at all.
I have never been single very long, and I wish I had taken some time to be single, live on my own, not have to answer to anyone but me. I tried this for one year after my last relationship, but I ended up quickly back in one. I was pregnant with my first and only child at the end of my lease, so I ended up living with him. Sigh... I always fall in love too fast. I like to be with someone who you can be comfortable with, some one you know is "clean" and is sleeping with you and only you, so you can be as kinky as you want to be and not have to worry about feeling self conscious or worrying about condoms(which I hate and am allergic to).
The sex is always good at the beginning of a relationship and I am happy. Then the frequency goes down drastically, and I end up unhappy. Such is the vicious circle. Thinking myself shallow, I toughed it out for FIVE years in my last relationship, where I NEVER had sex. Seriously, it was once a month and I had to BEG for it. I finally left him, and swore never to let my needs go unfulfilled again. Granted that was a completely different and more sever situation, but here I am again. Of course, I have toys to help, but in the end, I just want my man. Toys can't tie me up, and tell me what to do! lol
08/12/2010
Contributor: Lady of the Lake Lady of the Lake
I am happy being single for the moment, although I do desire a relationship/marriage eventually with the right person. Until he shows up, I am content to be by myself.
08/20/2010
Contributor: Lady of the Lake Lady of the Lake
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Originally posted by GNGenie
I really really miss being single, or at least just dating. I hate the constant need to think of another person (even though he's relatively low maintenance), the calls, the emotions, the sheet-hogging...

I think I'd be lonely without ... more
Haha! I'm on the other side of that- and I totally love that part of being single. All the times that I start wishing I was in a relationship I just have to think about the logistics of sharing space with another person... usually gives me a "whew" feeling
08/20/2010
Contributor: HollyB HollyB
I've dated but never been in a relationship (I'm 27) I'm ready for one, but meeting a guy that is also ready seems to be very hard for me. I have met some great people and have had a lot of fun, so being single is not all bad.
08/21/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
I love casually dating! I like getting to know and fucking interesting people. Keeps me on my toes.
09/26/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
in a realtionship and happy. however, that thought does cross my mind. i could never leave my baby...
10/01/2010
Contributor: RadRach RadRach
im involved.... and couldnt see being single at this point... 2 happy =]


<3
10/01/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
The last few months have been really life changing for me, but the biggest change is that I stopped wanting to be in romantic relationships. I've been in a couple and it always comes back to wanting to be single - although I do enjoy a monogamous ... more
I am single, and do not know what all the buzz is about.
10/02/2010
Contributor: onehotmomma onehotmomma
I'm in a relationship, and have been for 5 years, wouldn't trade it for the world. Sometimes I miss the single life though. I miss not having anyone to answer to, and going out with my friends and whatnot.
10/02/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by Tuesday
Yes. I miss the frequent sex from being single. Sigh...
Lol!
10/02/2010
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
Sometimes when I look at friends who are single living with great room mates I feel a little tug at my heart since I have never lived with someone other than my partner. Before him I was living at home with my mom.

We undertsand each other quite well, and we love telling each other when someone comes on to us. It's like one of our weird things that we do "hey! guess what? Some guy came up today and told me....I think he liked my ass " We sort of tease each other about things. I often tell friends that we should have our own tv reality show bcs we're like two baffoons who act quite stupid behind closed doors.
10/02/2010
Contributor: Serendipity Serendipity
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Originally posted by Liz2
I am "single" with a steady b/f for about two years and committed to him. I am not interested in the dating scene now; too much work! I want marriage and children eventually. Our relationship is complicated by a g/f who I also have a ... more
this is the kind of thing i'm talking abut and i think so many of us find ourselves multitasking the sh#t out of life. it's easier to be single.
10/29/2010
Contributor: Tart Tart
I am not exactly sure what I want. I am single and I have a few play partners in the BDSM scene and one sexual partner. It would be nice to have a romantic relationship but I am just going with the flow. I'm ready for whatever comes my way.
11/18/2010
Contributor: Kimbertrees Kimbertrees
I'm single and just plain tired of any type of relationship to be honest. After being strung along as my exes "friend with benefits" randomly witching to girlfriend and then back again because of someone new he found and wanted to do, I just go tired.
I would love to be in a relationship, but at the same time I don't want anything to do with one at this point in my life.
Luckily for me I have toys. Lol.
11/18/2010
Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Oh my my my... my situation is complicated.

I *guess* I am single right now, I have a current friend with benefits, -BUT- I would only want to be in a relationship if it is with an ex who I still am connected to.
11/29/2010
Contributor: alabamajames2010 alabamajames2010
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Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
The last few months have been really life changing for me, but the biggest change is that I stopped wanting to be in romantic relationships. I've been in a couple and it always comes back to wanting to be single - although I do enjoy a monogamous ... more
I am involved right now, but sometimes I find myself wishing that I was single again. I love where I am at in my life, but wish that I could just get out on my own and just date and/or have my own place to go to, to get away from time to time. I don't know what it is, but it just feels like there is something missing and like this isn't where I belong. Has anyone/does anyone currently feel the same way I do?!!?
11/29/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
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Originally posted by alabamajames2010
I am involved right now, but sometimes I find myself wishing that I was single again. I love where I am at in my life, but wish that I could just get out on my own and just date and/or have my own place to go to, to get away from time to time. I ... more
I felt that way during my marriage, but I was married to the wrong guy and had married him straight out of my parents' home, so I never got a chance to find out what 'being on my own' was like. I'm not sure if the situation is anything similar, but I do know how it feels to have that back-of-the-mind tugging of "What the hell am I doing here??"
11/29/2010