Drug and alcohol addictions, sexism, abusive personality, etc.

Haven't been there too much. Thinking of a few experiences from the past and seeing others' sad relationships--substan ce abuse, lying, lack of interest in personal hygiene, lack of sensitivity, putting oneself first, always prioritizing parents and bros, no interest in learning, black and white thinking.

Unhygienic, dead sex drive, abusive, shuts me out emotionally, disrespective.

But I also don't like a guy who shows too much interest too soon or is TOO kind (as in can't do enough to 'serve' me) - repulsive!

Rape jokes (and casual use of the term for that matter) are definite turn offs for me. If you leave a class and say "that test raped me" or you're playing a pick up game of basketball and tell your friends "we're gonna rape you!" I'll be concerned. Forcibly penetrating someone should never be funny in my book.

I went out a few times with a guy who was about 10 years older than me and every time we were out he'd point out our age difference about 100 different times throughout the night. He made such a big deal about it (he was stoked not concerned) and it just creeped me out. I had to end that pretty quickly.

Damn, I just started the same discussion before I saw this. Sorry!

Smoking, my father is dieing of lung cancer in the room next to me and I'm his primary caregiver. The thought of going through this again is the last thing I want going through my head.

A guy with "perfect" hair and clothes. I like rugged "manly men" and men who are too into hair products and clothes kind of turn me off. There's nothing wrong with guys like these. But, I choose not to date them.

Also, guys who ramble on about subjects I don't really care about and who dismiss what I am saying so they can get to the next thought about their car, or their favorite band (in too much detail) or the intimacies of their job. UG.

A guy with no sense of humor.

A man who would be offended by a woman with a strong sex drive. That would kill it for me.

Also, guys who go on about their "buds" for hours. You are with me, leave your buds where you left them. An occasional funny story is one thing, but guys who go on about their "boys" like I know their friends and like them drive me crazy. Double if a guy goes on about his ex. I'll make an excuse to leave. Boy, you need to get over her or shut up about her before dating. NO woman wants to hear what a "Crazy" woman your ex was. Why are the Exes always "crazy?"

Freeloaders! Guys who don't have any ambition in life. I don't care what job they have as long as they want to make something of themselves and not live of their woman.

Oh my husband does a lot of things (when we are aroused) that turns me off right away. He is 23 but acts like he is 12. He thinks that everything has to be playful and funny and not any romantic stuff or intimacy or any of that crap he says. He thinks its just for movies and that it doesnt exist.

an unhealthy person is a real turn-off for me.

arrogance

The number one thing that immediately turns me off is a man who is pushy, and unkind to others. If I see a man being rude or hurt someone's feelings or anything like that, I automatically dislike him. I also don't like the arrogant thing. That's a turn off. Or someone who lies, especially to impress me. That just pisses me off.