My husband has ADHD. It's very hard to live with. A lot of times I have to nag him just to get the little things done, IE cleaning, making the bed, washing the dishes, even shaving...I don't know what to do. I am usually a very patient person, but with our young daughter, things are really stressing me out. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with his ADHD in a respective and loving manner?
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08/12/2010
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I have adult ADHD and my son is ADHD as well. Yes, it does require a lot of patience. I find it hard myself to complete tasks and always jumping from one thing to another. I cant even do the dishes in one sitting! lol
I find what works best is a schedule. Try to keep the same routine everyday, that can be hard too.
Is your husband on meds? my son was a few years ago, but he works best without. He will be 14 this month.
It hard to give advice as I dont know your husband and everybody is different. I think you giving your time and patience is wonderful.
I find what works best is a schedule. Try to keep the same routine everyday, that can be hard too.
Is your husband on meds? my son was a few years ago, but he works best without. He will be 14 this month.
It hard to give advice as I dont know your husband and everybody is different. I think you giving your time and patience is wonderful.
08/12/2010
My bf (might be ex now, it's shaky) has ADD. I admit I get a little upset when he doesn't get things done when i would like, and I end up doing everything myself. He's not on meds, and actually meds really screw with him, and he's been on quite a few, too. (They make him very lethargic and all he wants to do is literally sleep all day and all night, and they completely wipe out his libido and everything.)
I find routine is best, put notes on the fridge or wherever he goes the most. (Even stickies to the computer screen might help.) just try to be there for him, and if the little things aren't done right away, it's not as if the world will end. I, too, am learning you just can't get everything done is a single breath.
I find routine is best, put notes on the fridge or wherever he goes the most. (Even stickies to the computer screen might help.) just try to be there for him, and if the little things aren't done right away, it's not as if the world will end. I, too, am learning you just can't get everything done is a single breath.
08/12/2010
The best thing is to try to keep reminding in a gentle manner and try to set up a schedule. You can also leave a to-do list in a public place that will get seen and hopefully spark some mental reminders. That's what my fiance and myself do and it's working fairly well for both our pretty ADD selves
08/12/2010
I've never been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD, but I grew up just when it was coming into the common acceptance.
I definitely function a LOT better with lists, notes, and routines.
I definitely function a LOT better with lists, notes, and routines.
08/12/2010
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Yeah, I try the notes all the time. It's been working, but it didn't used to. Thank you so much. And no, nothing can get done all at once.
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Envy
My bf (might be ex now, it's shaky) has ADD. I admit I get a little upset when he doesn't get things done when i would like, and I end up doing everything myself. He's not on meds, and actually meds really screw with him, and he's
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My bf (might be ex now, it's shaky) has ADD. I admit I get a little upset when he doesn't get things done when i would like, and I end up doing everything myself. He's not on meds, and actually meds really screw with him, and he's been on quite a few, too. (They make him very lethargic and all he wants to do is literally sleep all day and all night, and they completely wipe out his libido and everything.)
I find routine is best, put notes on the fridge or wherever he goes the most. (Even stickies to the computer screen might help.) just try to be there for him, and if the little things aren't done right away, it's not as if the world will end. I, too, am learning you just can't get everything done is a single breath. less
I find routine is best, put notes on the fridge or wherever he goes the most. (Even stickies to the computer screen might help.) just try to be there for him, and if the little things aren't done right away, it's not as if the world will end. I, too, am learning you just can't get everything done is a single breath. less
08/29/2010
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Me too. I'm constantly keeping lists, crossing things off. And when I get one little thing done, I feel the biggest sense of accomplishment!
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El-Jaro
I've never been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD, but I grew up just when it was coming into the common acceptance.
I definitely function a LOT better with lists, notes, and routines.
I definitely function a LOT better with lists, notes, and routines.
08/29/2010
Try notes/lists in a central location (and make sure he doesn't go wandering with them or they'll get lost). Another possibility would be a recurring alarm every 1/2hr - 45 minutes to remind him to check if he's "on-task" or not.
08/30/2010
Try what ScottA said (: I have ADHD and its very hard to live with. I don't seem to get much done either lol.. Just have patience with your husband and talk to him and let him know you understand don't give up there is hope.
09/19/2010
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Medicine.
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Sera
My husband has ADHD. It's very hard to live with. A lot of times I have to nag him just to get the little things done, IE cleaning, making the bed, washing the dishes, even shaving...I don't know what to do. I am usually a very patient
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My husband has ADHD. It's very hard to live with. A lot of times I have to nag him just to get the little things done, IE cleaning, making the bed, washing the dishes, even shaving...I don't know what to do. I am usually a very patient person, but with our young daughter, things are really stressing me out. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with his ADHD in a respective and loving manner?
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09/22/2010
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It varies with person to person, but you just have to accept it. It doesn't really go away, even with medicine. And the medicines they prescribe usually make the patient feel like a zombie. That's how my boyfriend was when he was on meds for ADD. He's still ADD but I'm just used to it. And actually, pot helps. I'm not saying go out and you know, get him high, but for my boyfriend's situation, it's something that calms him down and makes him stable. That and sex.
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Sera
My husband has ADHD. It's very hard to live with. A lot of times I have to nag him just to get the little things done, IE cleaning, making the bed, washing the dishes, even shaving...I don't know what to do. I am usually a very patient
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My husband has ADHD. It's very hard to live with. A lot of times I have to nag him just to get the little things done, IE cleaning, making the bed, washing the dishes, even shaving...I don't know what to do. I am usually a very patient person, but with our young daughter, things are really stressing me out. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with his ADHD in a respective and loving manner?
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09/22/2010
My daughter has ADD (non medicated - it does nothing for her type but make her a zombie with no appetite) and what works with her is routine. Before she could tell time i would make a list now that she can tell time she knows at what time things happen
09/22/2010
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sounds like a guy in general. ive found that when u nag they get pissed and wont help at all. it just depends on how you approach him. if youre nice about it hell be more inclined to help you.
Originally posted by
Sera
My husband has ADHD. It's very hard to live with. A lot of times I have to nag him just to get the little things done, IE cleaning, making the bed, washing the dishes, even shaving...I don't know what to do. I am usually a very patient
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My husband has ADHD. It's very hard to live with. A lot of times I have to nag him just to get the little things done, IE cleaning, making the bed, washing the dishes, even shaving...I don't know what to do. I am usually a very patient person, but with our young daughter, things are really stressing me out. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with his ADHD in a respective and loving manner?
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12/10/2010
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well, u could sit down & discuss whether he should go to his doctor & consider going on medication. i've been ADHD ever since i was in elementary school, & medication helps me focus better to get stuff done. when i'm not on it, i have to write stuff down all the time to make sure i remember to do it. if i'm sitting there thinking, "hey, i need to check on that later," i have to tell myself to either do it right then or write it down IMMEDIATELY. also, i hate cleaning & that stuff too & have a hard time getting it done. if i'm off my meds (which is every weekend), i'll put on music or something to help. sometimes a routine helps, too. the biggest key in all of it is PATIENCE.
Originally posted by
Sera
My husband has ADHD. It's very hard to live with. A lot of times I have to nag him just to get the little things done, IE cleaning, making the bed, washing the dishes, even shaving...I don't know what to do. I am usually a very patient
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My husband has ADHD. It's very hard to live with. A lot of times I have to nag him just to get the little things done, IE cleaning, making the bed, washing the dishes, even shaving...I don't know what to do. I am usually a very patient person, but with our young daughter, things are really stressing me out. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with his ADHD in a respective and loving manner?
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05/05/2011
my bf has that too. he gets annoyeing and is lazy too. i honestly dont know how to handle him ether
05/05/2011
My boyfriend and I BOTH have ADHD. It can be hard to live with and to deal with. I've found that the best thing is medication, really. Also, it helps to provide a structure to people with ADHD. The more structured things are, the easier it is for them to focus.
05/16/2011
Give him adderall
05/17/2011
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