We are curious. Once you get intimate with a new person you are dating, how often do you find someone just "straying" to your "back door", with finger or other body parts? Is this common now (regardless of if you do or don't enjoy anal), or is it still a "taboo" till you discuss it.

I hear friends who are dating (and apparently DON'T enjoy anal), saying "why are guys always trying to shove a finger, or something else in my butt???", and others at their lunch table (also young woman who are dating, agreeing, "it happens all the time".

What is YOUR experience with this?