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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
So I pose this question to the dating reviewers:

How did you break it to your new sig other that you review sex toys?

I haven't gotten to this point yet, but I find the question totally fascinating and wanted to ask. You enter a new relationship and then you both get close enough for sex to come up ... and then s/he finds out you have a dozen bottles of lube, a box full of toys, an extensive porn library, and probably even some Liberator gear.

What happened? Did they take it well? Thought there was something wrong with you? Found it amazing? Please tell!
10/21/2010
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Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
Oh yes! I want to read answers to this also. I am in a relationship and had a drawer full to begin with so when I came here the old man was not surprised in the least.
10/21/2010
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
I'm curious as well. No new relationship to speak of yet but when the time comes, it'll be interesting to say the least.
10/21/2010
Contributor: csweatc csweatc
I went through this recently. It went down like this... She came over to my place and helped me rearrange some things in the bachelor lair. Her touch was much appreciated actually, but during this process she came across a receipt for my Cyberglass Perfect P-spot Pleaser. She stared at the paper and then looked up at me and asked..."do you have a butt plug?" I just sheepishly smiled and said, "uhh yeah." Conversation ended with an OK. I think we talked about it a little, but not much. So the plug came up a few more times (I did not mention all the other butt toys I had and at this point loved) and I said I was reviewing for EF. She was ok with it and even more so when I brought some toys over for her to play with. I basically introduced her to the wonders of nice toys through my association with EF. She had had cheap vibes and stuff, but nothing like what I brought her. All of that has also opened up anal play for both of us into the bedroom and basically made sex 1000 times better to be honest. While she was initially shocked by all of the anal toys that I had amassed, I think she has come to realize that different toys, if well designed, can bring different things to the table as far as pleasure is concerned.
10/21/2010
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
I started doing it when I was in my last long term relationship. We started experimenting with toys together very briefly before I found eden. But, he thought it was awesome and told a lot of his guy friends to brag. So that one I didn't have to break the news to.

But, with my current I did tell prior to us becoming official when we were getting to know each other. He was cool with it saying that he had a girlfriend once who had a collection of toys.

Me- "Oh cool! How many did she have?"

Him- "Idk a lot...like a dozen maybe."

Silence

Him- "How many do you have?"

Silence

Me- "Last I counted...over 200."

Silence

Him "Can I see?!!?"

LOL. So yea I was anxious, but it ended up awesome. He wanted to use all of them and use all the ones he could with me. We are still going through the growing collection but I don't regret telling him when I did or the way I did. It just came up during flirty sexual conversation and I don't think there could have been a better time. I'd never want a guy to just find it. They'd probably feel inadequate or nervous. But my boyfriend understand that they don't replace him or sex, they only make things more creative

Pretty much all guys who find out have the same reaction as my boyfriend...but they don't get to see
10/21/2010
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I started doing it when I was in my last long term relationship. We started experimenting with toys together very briefly before I found eden. But, he thought it was awesome and told a lot of his guy friends to brag. So that one I didn't have to ... more
Yay! Yours and csweatc's experiences are very positive and it was so good to hear!

I also think that for me it'll probably come up long before I get "really serious" because I'm pretty open about my toy use with anyone I'm friends with. I probably would wait to share details about my involvement with EF until I was secure with the new lover being supportive and trustworthy though. Knowing I have toys is one thing but I wouldn't want someone knowing my screen name and being able to read about my sexual exploits if our relationship was to go sour fairly soon and they could follow my activity and share it with people.
10/21/2010
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
Quote:
Originally posted by ~LaUr3n~
I started doing it when I was in my last long term relationship. We started experimenting with toys together very briefly before I found eden. But, he thought it was awesome and told a lot of his guy friends to brag. So that one I didn't have to ... more
Lol @ a dozen being alot. Cute.
I dont think too many guys would have an issue about toys. I've only met a couple of guys who werent keen on the idea.
I wouldnt have any problems at all bringing up my toy collection. If they cant handle them and it came down to him or them - the toys will win. I know my toys are loyal and will be there whenever I need them!
10/21/2010
Contributor: clp clp
I'm very lucky that my interest in toys grew in direct proportion with my long distance relationship. It was a natural progression and so of course, I would tell him everything as it was happening. He was open to it, of course, because it gives him a nice show to watch. I'm also happy that he is excited about using them, as well, so our time together is always fun.
10/21/2010
Contributor: Illusional Illusional
Quote:
Originally posted by clp
I'm very lucky that my interest in toys grew in direct proportion with my long distance relationship. It was a natural progression and so of course, I would tell him everything as it was happening. He was open to it, of course, because it gives ... more
Same here. We're in a long distance relationship and he knows what I'm getting and gets sexy pics and videos when I test them but he loves to help me test them when we're together.
10/21/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
I think the important thing is to make sure they understand that you will respect their privacy, and only put into your reviews the things they're OK with. It would be nice if my wife were interested in co-writing reviews, but at this point she's not, so I am discreet about what I put in regarding her.
10/22/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
I was already in the relationship with both Sigel and Arch when I began reviewing for EF so they've been here for the whole ride, so to speak (pun intended).

When Sigel hasd playmates over to the house when I am in Canada he's gotten some odd looks when they see my bedroom, which is wall to wall toys, lotions, ticklers, paddles ect. One of the great ones invited me to a toy party but I explained that I don't accept toys that don't come in their original packaging. At least I don't pay for them! She might join me one day to peruse EF. Should be fun.

Now I have also had my kids friends be all nosey when I get packages but my kids will just shrug and say "They are my Mom's toys"...
10/23/2010
Contributor: DixieDoo DixieDoo
Hahaha my ...experience with this was recencent and quite funny. (now not to be rude or religion-ist [is that a word?] but) My guy is quite.. churchy. I did NOT know if he think I was crazy, weird, overly kinky, whatever, if I told him.

Well.. he came over to my house to hang out with me and I had some packages sitting on my desk. (I live with my parents and I had just gotten home myself.) He wanted to help me open them and I had to tell him 'I don't know what might be in here'. Of course he was curious about that and I figured tell him now and if he runs for the hills at least it's a new relationship and I won't be left hurt because I care so much.

I told him. His eyes got real big, he got quite for a minute and was like, 'really? I wouldn't have that of you' (whatever that means..). Well, turns out he was cool with it and now loves to read my reviews about what toys I like the most. So, yeah.. things turned out ok. so far. haha
10/23/2010
Contributor: ScottA ScottA
Quote:
Originally posted by DixieDoo
Hahaha my ...experience with this was recencent and quite funny. (now not to be rude or religion-ist [is that a word?] but) My guy is quite.. churchy. I did NOT know if he think I was crazy, weird, overly kinky, whatever, if I told ... more
He's getting inside information on how you like to be stimulated.
10/23/2010
Contributor: mrs.mckrakn mrs.mckrakn
Interesting
04/24/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
I've been with my boyfriend longer than I've been reviewing, but when I started he was very excited for me. Anyone I've ever told about it is always impressed/interested/w ants to know more. I've never had a bad reaction
04/24/2011