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Contributor: Gary Gary
I just happened upon a fairly interesting article from January on USA Today about some averages for 'normal couple' called Sex survey: What's 'normal' for couples?.

First of all, I def think the Eden Community is above average with sex related topics, but it would still be interesting to see how you guys poll here.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
How often do you have sex with your partner?
1
- daily
7
- 3-4 times a week
36
- few times a month
24
- once a month
3
- rarely
- never
1
.
4
Do you believe in love at first site?
1
- I have fallen in love at first site
6
- Yes
11
- No
51
..
1
Do you have any major secrets that you keep from your partner?
-- Yes
18
-- No
49
Total votes: 213 (71 voters)
Poll is closed
04/30/2013
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Contributor: surreptitious surreptitious
(Review Program Mentor)
Quote:
Originally posted by Gary
I just happened upon a fairly interesting article from January on USA Today about some averages for 'normal couple' called Sex survey: What's 'normal' for couples?. First of all, I def think the Eden Community is above average ... more
I picked the "other" option on frequency because I actually needed it, not just to be contrary! Promise!

When my partner and I are together, we have sex at least once a day, sometimes as often as three or four times (sometimes more, but that's atypical) unless one of us is feeling ill. Currently, we're living over 1500 miles away, so of course our sex life reflects that. We still engage in cam and phone sex often, but it's far from being the same thing.

I don't believe in love at first sight in the least. Partly because I don't particularly believe in "love" in the same way that faerie tales and romance novels portray it, but also because it takes more than a look and a whiff of pheromones to form a lasting bond.

As for major secrets, I have many, but none are kept from my partner. There are some secrets that I /would/ keep from him under the right circumstances, however those circumstances have yet to arise.
04/30/2013
Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
Wwe usually have some form of sex at least twice a week. No, i don't believe in love at first sight and no secrets except for what i'm getting Her for Her birthday!
04/30/2013
Contributor: Rokmai Rokmai
We are currently dating long-distance and we only live together a little over four months out of the year, so our numbers are a bit skewed. We usually go at it twice a day, but always at least once. It used to be higher, but I have family that moved in with me...
04/30/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
When we're together, 4 to 6 nights a week. I don't believe in love at first sight, but it can happen pretty fast. We're also pretty open about what we like, makes thing much more fun
04/30/2013
Contributor: Llewey Llewey
Haha, I guess my partner and I are quite normal as far as this stuff goes. We pride ourselves on keeping a very transparent and trusting relationship, it took me months to truly fall in love with him, and we have sex like 3-6 days out of a week.
04/30/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
I experienced "love at first sight" once. It was passionate at first, but within a few weeks, it devolved into a lousy relationship, which unfortunately lasted a few more sexless months. We were both attracted to each other, and we had a couple of common interests. But our personalities didn't work together at all.

Otherwise, it's been different. With my wife, for instance, I wasn't even sure I was attracted to her at first. I knew I liked her, but it took several days before I realized I wanted to kiss her. And starting with that first kiss, it's been LOVE all the way. And sex about twice a week.

So I believe love at first sight can happen, but it clearly isn't always the most reliable indicator of a great relationship.
04/30/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
No love at first sight and no major secrets from my partner. As far as frequency is concerned 3-4x week is right. It wasn't always this good - I'm a very happy guy these days!
05/01/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
We usually have sex 3-5 nights per week. When I first met my husband, I had this feeling that we already knew each other and we had that instant bonding, odd since he felt the same way...Secrets, definitely!! He is too quick to judge, condemn and anger.
05/01/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Sex usually 2-4x per week. I think love at first sight exists and is rare...though that can be debatable, but it happens.
05/01/2013
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
We have sex between 6 and 10 times a week, on average. That evens out to around once a day or so, although we often have sex at night, then the next morning, then skip a day for resting.

I do not believe in Love at First Sight. I think you need to know a person to love them. I believe in LUST at first sight, though.

I don't keep any major secrets from my partner (except for like I stole my army buddy's identity when he died from a bomb in Korea and now am living a lie... no wait, that's Don Draper/Dick Wittiker.)
05/01/2013
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I'm Batman!
05/03/2013
Contributor: Gary Gary
Quote:
Originally posted by P'Gell
We have sex between 6 and 10 times a week, on average. That evens out to around once a day or so, although we often have sex at night, then the next morning, then skip a day for resting.I do not believe in Love at First Sight. I think you need to ... more
Don Draper... could anyone really be this dishonest and smooth in real life?
05/06/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
We have sex around 5 times a week, I don't believe in love a first sight (maybe strong attraction that is later affirmed by finding out that you really like the person) and I don't keep any big secrets from my partner.
06/09/2013
Contributor: snowminx snowminx
Interesting that if you took away the "rarely" and "never" that they servery results are pretty close.

Also with things like this I was who really answers "never", are they not in a relationship or just over acting? Even "sexless" relationships generally have it every few months or maybe once a year, not really what I would call never.
06/10/2013
Contributor: MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
Gah! With our busy lives and opposite schedules we usually have sex only 2+ a month
(we are working on fixing that though, stupid school and work and volunteering and sciences labs...)

I don't believe in love at first sight.

And I used to have some secrets from my SO but over the years that has changed and we don't keep anything from each other
06/11/2013
Contributor: gorgeous gorgeous
Quote:
Originally posted by Gary
I just happened upon a fairly interesting article from January on USA Today about some averages for 'normal couple' called Sex survey: What's 'normal' for couples?. First of all, I def think the Eden Community is above average ... more
We have sex daily when we are together, but that isn't all the time. Not sure about love at first sight. I'm going on a no for that. Takes time to get to know someone. I think you can have a crush at first sight. As for secrets, he doesn't know everything of my past but he doesn't need to. Thats my past. It doesn't have to do with him. I tell him everything that he needs to know, maybe sometimes without all the details cause he will freak out.
06/11/2013
Contributor: KitKat16 KitKat16
Quote:
Originally posted by surreptitious
I picked the "other" option on frequency because I actually needed it, not just to be contrary! Promise!

When my partner and I are together, we have sex at least once a day, sometimes as often as three or four times (sometimes more, ... more
I feel you here. I am currently far away from my partner as well, but when we see each other it seems like it's sex all the time! Phone or cam just isn't the same thing... I hope you get back within the same vicinity of your partner soon!
07/10/2013
Contributor: lalalalove lalalalove
Quote:
Originally posted by Gary
I just happened upon a fairly interesting article from January on USA Today about some averages for 'normal couple' called Sex survey: What's 'normal' for couples?. First of all, I def think the Eden Community is above average ... more
We try to have sex every day, but sometimes only have time or energy for oral or mutual masturbation. Love at first sight is lust, and secrets are no way to have a healthy relationship!
08/02/2013
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
Maybe twice a week.
08/13/2013
Contributor: Gluesnffr Gluesnffr
couple of times a week and no i don't believe in love at first sight.
08/13/2013
Contributor: Feisty Feisty
I believe in LUST at first sight.
08/13/2013
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Gary
I just happened upon a fairly interesting article from January on USA Today about some averages for 'normal couple' called Sex survey: What's 'normal' for couples?. First of all, I def think the Eden Community is above average ... more
We have had periods where sex daily was our "norm", but we are both very busy professionals and work horrible hours, so sometimes it just isn't going to happen. We thus probably have "sex" four or five times during the week, but that might be added to with a long, long "session" on weekends or maybe two or three "rolls in the hay" on Saturday, Sunday or both.

As for love at first sight. How can you "love" someone you don't know. Rubbish. There is certainly physical attraction (ie LUST) at first sight. However, that is not love, and while someone may meet that way and fall in love over time, love is a far more profound thing.

Oh, and "secrets"? Since we were "best buds" long before we were dating, we were who we confided in all our secrets! The only secrets we have now are gifts and surprises for each other.
09/10/2013
Contributor: Sonny Sonny
The amount of sexual experiences generally varies between months due to schedules/energy levels/personal preferences of myself and my partner. I feel like at least that part of the poll is dependent on a lot of variables, so a norm would be hard to find, even in a single relationship.
10/20/2013
Contributor: OH&W, Lovebears OH&W, Lovebears
Not as often as we would like to. Less than ten yrs ago.
10/20/2013
Contributor: Slutty Girl Problems Slutty Girl Problems
Love at first sight.... I think it depends! I was VERY attracted to my man from the moment I met him, and immediately had this feeling like he was different from any other guy I had met before, and that we could really hit it off. But I wouldn't go so far as to call it "love" at first sight. Love is something that grows over time!
10/21/2013