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Do you believe abstinence only education REALLY works?

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Contributor: SavingMyself SavingMyself
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Originally posted by Badass
this is not a black and white issue and needs more than 2 options.
abstinence should be taught. STD's should be taught, HEAVILY, to scare kids into seeing how bad sex with a stranger can be. Pregnancy and birthing should be shown. For the same ... more
Scaring kids doesn't work. The more you tell teenagers to do something, the more they're going to want to do it. Hell, I have friends who are now 20 years old and on pregnancy number 2(but still in basically the same position they were the last time: no serious relationship, no job, no education) because even going through it once didn't convince them.
10/01/2012
Contributor: ImmortalFantasy ImmortalFantasy
Nerp.
People will do what they want, regardless. They should be taught how to be safe, not The Mean Girls way.
10/02/2012
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
Unfortunately, unless the government takes parental rights away from those who would prefer that their children remain ignorant, that is exactly what will occur.
10/02/2012
Contributor: RubyBlue RubyBlue
I think it's important to be honest and open with kids. Talk about the benefits of waiting, talk about how to avoid pregnancy/STDs if you don't.
10/20/2012
Contributor: coolts12 coolts12
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Originally posted by SkinFlute
Here in the south I see so many girls get pregnant because they were taught "birth control fails so just don't have sex". This leads them to think that since birth control doesn't even work (even though most methods are above 90% ... more
i hear where you're coming from.
10/21/2012
Contributor: MidnightStorm MidnightStorm
I know some people who feel differently, but I really believe that we need to be open and honest in our sex education. And modern--don't forget modern. Adults will never be "cool" in a kid's world, but nothing is more terrifying than watching your elementary school nurse shove her fingers into a semi-sheer plastic vagina to demonstrate female anatomy. Abstinence-only education doesn't work any more than making the legal drinking age 21: some people will never do it, but most people will (drink before 21/have sex in high school). Kids should understand the risks and complications that come with sex, but also the pleasure and different mindsets that different people have about sex. Teachers and parents should discuss the fact that while some people look at sex simply as an act of pleasure, others look at it as a life-changing bond that should only be shared with one person. The discussions need to be had and kids need to be able to step up and make educated choices about sex for themselves.
10/21/2012
Contributor: Mihoshi4301 Mihoshi4301
The way I see it is that teens who want to have sex will have sex whether they're told to wait or not. I'd rather they just know how to make informed choices and stay safe.
10/23/2012
Contributor: SoloJoe SoloJoe
no it doesnt work at all
10/29/2012
Contributor: wwwww wwwww
Teaching 'don't have sex until marriage' as if it were the simple solution to something as complex as sex is asking for trouble in my opinion.
10/29/2012
Contributor: falalena falalena
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Originally posted by SkinFlute
Here in the south I see so many girls get pregnant because they were taught "birth control fails so just don't have sex". This leads them to think that since birth control doesn't even work (even though most methods are above 90% ... more
considering some people think that vaginas are endless tunnels that lead to nowhere, you can get pregnant by giving a blow job, and you wont get pregnant if you have sex in a hot tub... abstinence education is a big fat lie.
01/14/2013
Contributor: KinkyNicki92 KinkyNicki92
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Originally posted by Beck
Absolutely not. Hearing someone tell me about abstinence only made me want to go have sex. Someone should be teaching something not trying to push morals. They need education on all the options that are available to them. Birth control, abstinence, ... more
^^ I agree completely
01/14/2013
Contributor: marriedlady123 marriedlady123
Uuk go using coke for that purpose...
01/18/2013
Contributor: collegegirl21 collegegirl21
Safe sex education needs to be taught now more than ever because the increase in STD's. It may not prevent sex or pregnancy, BUT it will protect their saftey
01/22/2013
Contributor: Ren in the rain Ren in the rain
No, abstinence only doesn't work. Comprehensive and inclusive (not heteronormative) sex ed is what's needed.
01/22/2013
Contributor: hall5885 hall5885
I think they need to teach all options and tell them the honest truth. Best percentage for not getting knocked up or a STD would be of course abstinence and self pleasure. BUT if they want to be sexually active (and I think trying to teach them and make them comfortable with deciding if they do or not and not giving into peer pressure is another thing they should try to teach them) teach them how to protect themselves and how and where they can get that protection. Plus HOW to use that protection (most adults don't even know how to use a condom properly). They should teach them about pregnancy and STD's.
01/24/2013
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by SkinFlute
Here in the south I see so many girls get pregnant because they were taught "birth control fails so just don't have sex". This leads them to think that since birth control doesn't even work (even though most methods are above 90% ... more
No, We need comprehensive safe-sex education in school instead.
01/24/2013
Contributor: bog bog
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Originally posted by SkinFlute
Here in the south I see so many girls get pregnant because they were taught "birth control fails so just don't have sex". This leads them to think that since birth control doesn't even work (even though most methods are above 90% ... more
No! I read about Coke douches - adults in an educational role encouraging ignorance is deplorable. I say, teach everything - educate kids - and let them decide.
01/29/2013
Contributor: souviet souviet
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Originally posted by SkinFlute
Here in the south I see so many girls get pregnant because they were taught "birth control fails so just don't have sex". This leads them to think that since birth control doesn't even work (even though most methods are above 90% ... more
better teaching needs to happen.
01/29/2013
Contributor: RavenInChains RavenInChains
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Originally posted by SkinFlute
Here in the south I see so many girls get pregnant because they were taught "birth control fails so just don't have sex". This leads them to think that since birth control doesn't even work (even though most methods are above 90% ... more
We know abstinence only education doesn't work. We know that because states that teach that way have higher rates of teen pregnancy and stds. Teenagers will have sex. There is nothing that can be done about that. It is a completely normal part of life. But if they don't know how to do it safely then they will do it unsafely.

Teenagers need to know not only what birth control methods are available but how to use them to achieve the highest effectiveness.
01/29/2013
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
Abstinence only programs don't work. The best way to go is to educate people about sex so they know what decisions to make that are safe and responsible.
01/29/2013
Contributor: chicmichiw chicmichiw
It's just not an actual solution. Lots of things don't or can't happen if you don't do them. But you would never say 'don't drive, then you won't get in a car accident' and call that a good transportation plan.
01/30/2013
Contributor: novanilla novanilla
I support really liberal sex ed in which there are real discussions of pleasure, masturbation for male and female assigned people, contraception, STIs, and queer people.
01/30/2013
Contributor: Marie Hanna Marie Hanna
No. Its not realistic.
01/30/2013
Contributor: kitten07 kitten07
No. Teens are going to have sex anyways, so let's teach them how to do it safely.
01/31/2013
Contributor: Babylove09 Babylove09
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Originally posted by SkinFlute
Here in the south I see so many girls get pregnant because they were taught "birth control fails so just don't have sex". This leads them to think that since birth control doesn't even work (even though most methods are above 90% ... more
i say no. we should really be teaching how much it changes your life if you get pregnant also I think we should be teaching how birth control works and where to get it. Teaching std's could also be a big part about it.
01/31/2013
Contributor: Trixxxy Trixxxy
Kids need to be taught everything about sex.
02/05/2013
Contributor: damnbul12 damnbul12
Quote:
Originally posted by SkinFlute
Here in the south I see so many girls get pregnant because they were taught "birth control fails so just don't have sex". This leads them to think that since birth control doesn't even work (even though most methods are above 90% ... more
No, We need comprehensive safe-sex education in school instead.
02/13/2013
Contributor: purpledesert purpledesert
Yes, and masturbation should be included.
02/13/2013
Contributor: I Am Sherlocked I Am Sherlocked
No, I don't believe it works. Absolutely not.
02/13/2013
Contributor: butts butts
No, it doesn't, and if you go to ANY high school where abstinence is taught, there's much higher pregnancy and STI/STD rates. It's really obvious that it doesn't work, and sex is completely natural and healthy, there's no reason to teach against it.
02/13/2013