If your significant other cheated on you once before and it was guaranteed that he/she would never cheat again, would you want to know or continue not knowing because what you don't know won't kill you?
Would you want to know the truth of your significant others infidelity if..
07/13/2012
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I want to know for safety reasons, so I can get checked for STDs.
Originally posted by
xOhxSoxScandalousx
If your significant other cheated on you once before and it was guaranteed that he/she would never cheat again, would you want to know or continue not knowing because what you don't know won't kill you?
07/13/2012
If it was just a mistake that isn't going to happen again, then I'd rather not know and avoid all the grief that it would entail.
07/13/2012
Yes, I want to know exactly what happened and exactly who it was. I wouldn't want to dwell on thinking who it was, where it happened, what happened, and so on. I would go get screened for diseases and so would my partner and we would talk about fixing our relationship. But honestly, cheating is a HUGE NO in my relationship. I'm open to allowing my partner to sleep with others, so if he cheated; that would mean our relationship isn't as good as I thought it was.
07/13/2012
Yes I would want to konw and even if I knew for sure it would never happed again I would still divorce him.
07/13/2012
I would want to know if the person I was in love with betrayed me.
07/13/2012
i would want to know if they betrayed me i would leave
07/13/2012
Of course, I would want to know for the sake of the reason why, and so I can get checked for STDs
07/13/2012
It's better to know because their may be significant problems besides sex. No one (almost no one) will have sex with someone else without a reason.
07/13/2012
Definitely. There are health reasons and also a breach of trust that will never be returned. (He may want to be in another state when I am informed-for his own safety.)
07/13/2012
i say yes only because of safety reasons.
My partner is poly and we had an agreement that she would let me know who she was with if anyone; my stipulation was so that I could make sure she didn't get hurt
I'd hate to have anything happen or someone stalking her or things like that
My partner is poly and we had an agreement that she would let me know who she was with if anyone; my stipulation was so that I could make sure she didn't get hurt
I'd hate to have anything happen or someone stalking her or things like that
07/13/2012
Yes, I would want to know. They could have contracted an std from the previous affair. Plus I would want to know the reasons why they cheated to see if whatever caused it can be resolved so it doesn't happen again.
07/13/2012
I wouldn't want to know.
07/13/2012
I'd want to know, but I'm sure I would regret it as soon as I knew.
07/13/2012
Yes I would.
07/13/2012
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I had this happen to me and I'll be honest. Knowing what your partner is doing every minute of the day doesn't make you feel better. It doesn't make you feel secure and it makes your partner feel like a child. This doesn't resolve the issues that lead to the cheating in the first place.
Originally posted by
xOhxSoxScandalousx
If your significant other cheated on you once before and it was guaranteed that he/she would never cheat again, would you want to know or continue not knowing because what you don't know won't kill you?
Trust is built over time and has to regrow...checking in over and over doesn't build trust it destroys it. It seems counter intuitive but I know it is true.
07/13/2012
I would want to know everything, but mostly why he did it? Then I'd leave his sorry ass.
07/13/2012
For health reasons, I would definitely want to know. And also for honesty reasons.
07/13/2012
I would want to know... it would break my heart but I would want to know.
07/13/2012
I'm all about openness and honesty. Just tell me.
07/13/2012
if it was guaranteed that he'd never do it again then no i wouldnt rather not know honestly.... i want him to tell me truth about everything but if i knew it would create doubt and i wouldnt be able to trust him again
07/13/2012
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I would definitely want to know and if I were the one that cheated I would tell him, b/c I wouldn't want him or myself to have to hear it somewhere else.
Originally posted by
xOhxSoxScandalousx
If your significant other cheated on you once before and it was guaranteed that he/she would never cheat again, would you want to know or continue not knowing because what you don't know won't kill you?
07/13/2012
Yes I would want to know
07/13/2012
I think it could be summed up easily by the old adage...knowledge is power. You can take that anyway you like, but for me, I'll always choose knowledge.
07/13/2012
I'm not sure if I'd want to know. I doubt I would break up with him - shit happens. I would probably be more pissed if he didn't use a condom.
07/14/2012
All about the communication.
07/14/2012
i would want to know
07/14/2012
I wanna know!
08/17/2012
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