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Would you tell the wife?

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Contributor: Devy Devy
I just heard on the radio this morning, the radio DJ has a friend who walked into the office late at night to get his laptop and caught his boss cheating on his wife. He knows the woman, too. He feels morally obligated to say something but has concerns like whether he'll lose his job, whether he could still be blacklisted if he does it anonymously, etc.

So, what would YOU do? He isn't sure if the boss knows that he knows.

Personally, I'd start applying at other jobs because I would feel sick to my stomach working there, and then once I found something I'd tell the wife OR if the boss was the right kind of person, I'd share my feelings and let him know what I saw, explain that it puts ME in a bad position and that I want to leave it alone but I want him to give me a recommendation to get a new job (like a reference letter) and maybe that way, I could find out if perhaps they're in an open relationship, or maybe the boss will show some compassion and make it easier for me by NOT firing me or anything, but we could work it out! If I got a new job though, I'd totally tell the wife.
11/04/2011
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
It's none of his business. End of story. Getting involved in other relationships is never a good idea. The husband will likely deny it, pitting employer against employee, wife against employee and wife against husband.
11/04/2011
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by Ansley
It's none of his business. End of story. Getting involved in other relationships is never a good idea. The husband will likely deny it, pitting employer against employee, wife against employee and wife against husband.
Totally agree, mind your own business and shut up. You do not tell anyone except maybe your spouse. That is it, it is not your place to tell and if you do tell it could cost you your job.
11/04/2011
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I'd stay out of it. Other peoples' personal lives are their own business and I wouldn't want anyone thinking they have a say or a place to speak up within mine. There are a lot of relationships that are either over yet exist for other reasons, and there are people that have their own rules, etc. And even if that's not the case, it's still their own personal adult life choice. Personally I wouldn't react at all if I was in that situation (and I actually have been...as the catcher, not one of the other parties) because I'm here to work, not to judge or care what people do in their own time. I'm sure that if the people I work with knew I was a pro-domme in the past and that the relationship I just came out of was a strong D/s lifestyle setup, they'd be appalled - but who I sleep with or how I do it is no one's concern but mine.

And if it was at an off-hour and not presented in a way that could be deemed as sexual harassment (like during work hours in a bathroom or something) then I don't see the issue with continuing to work there either. What people do in their private intimate lives, whether you are privy to the details, etc., are no one else's concern. And trying to find out if someone is in an open relationship, etc. would personally really offend me as it's a way of someone deciding how they're going to judge you.
11/04/2011
Contributor: NaughtyNikkie NaughtyNikkie
I'd stay out of it.. Not my bizz.
11/04/2011
Contributor: Kitka Kitka
Yep, I'd stay out of it too. Probably go looking for another job asap, but I wouldn't say a damn thing.
11/04/2011
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
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Originally posted by Tori Rebel
I'd stay out of it. Other peoples' personal lives are their own business and I wouldn't want anyone thinking they have a say or a place to speak up within mine. There are a lot of relationships that are either over yet exist for other ... more
Amen.
11/04/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I'd have to look for another job lol.

To be honest, I don't condone cheating, and I couldn't honestly work with someone or around someone and especially FOR someone who I knew had cheated and I could do nothing. It would really bother me.

Now, this is said being that I am usually pretty open with people I work with, so chances are if they were in an open relationship, I'd have known. If they weren't and this happened, my business or not, I want nothing to do with someone like that. Abuse cases are one thing, but to just cheat for no REAL reason, nope, not around it.

Whether I'd tell or not, well that depends on how close I am to the wife. If I'm friends with her, chances are I will. If she's just "the boss' wife", probably not, I'll just let my guilty conscience eat away at me for the rest of my life or until I go crazy and have to tell her.
11/04/2011
Contributor: FaerieLove FaerieLove
If it an't your husband or wife than it isn't your business
11/04/2011
Contributor: GravyCakes GravyCakes
well, i'm pretty sure that it's illegal to get fired over something like that.
11/04/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by GravyCakes
well, i'm pretty sure that it's illegal to get fired over something like that.
There are all kinds of ways to get around firing someone illegally and making it look legit. I would think I had my boss by the balls, not the other way around. It's great blackmail. LOL
11/04/2011
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by Ansley
It's none of his business. End of story. Getting involved in other relationships is never a good idea. The husband will likely deny it, pitting employer against employee, wife against employee and wife against husband.
I agree, stay out of it.
11/04/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
wow, pretty much everyone would turn their heads and ignore it. I feel you are morally obligated to say something. after all, it did happen at the workplace.
11/06/2011
Contributor: KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
Im not sure what I would do, depends if I know them and how well. If they are people I am not friends with then I wouldnt say a thing.
11/06/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
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Originally posted by married with children
wow, pretty much everyone would turn their heads and ignore it. I feel you are morally obligated to say something. after all, it did happen at the workplace.
It's perhaps the smartest thing to do. Between you and me, though, I'm not that smart. I have a tendency to want to fix things. If a friend's hurting, then I want to do all I can to help them, so if I was in this situation, I'd be very tempted to try to sort it out. At the very least, I'd have a talk with the boss, see why he's cheating, and try to talk him out of it. I'd hope that just by him knowing that someone else knows would put an end to it, if it's not something agreed upon by both the husband and the wife.
11/07/2011