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Would it bother you if you couldn't give your partner an orgasm?

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Contributor: Youssii Youssii
I've recently started sleeping with someone I know is usually very confident in bed, and he's really good at it.

Unfortunately I've been finding it really hard to orgasm since starting the medication I'm currently on (and likely to be on for the next year or so).
I'm also pretty quiet in bed, and more and more I notice that he seems frustrated with himself when he can't get the usual reaction out of me.

I am enjoying it and I really like him and sleeping with him, but I feel like although he knows about the medication, every time I'm knocking his confidence back a little bit?
04/30/2012
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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Yes, but that's because there aren't any medications or known medical conditions at play.

Your situation is quite a bit different and if you can help him understand that really enjoy being with him and it's about the closeness more so than the physical orgasm itself (that makes it a pleasing experience regardless of whether or not your body wants to admit it via muscle spasms) then you should be good to go.
04/30/2012
Contributor: alayamae alayamae
Yes. it definitely would.
04/30/2012
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
It would bother me, because I'd feel like I'm being a bit selfish, but under those circumstances I'd understand.
05/01/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
It would bother me quite a bit if I was unable to get my partner to orgasm, but it's also in my nature to try and please people I love.
If your medication is the root of the problem he should just try and be understanding, maybe a little extra foreplay and some form of sensitizing gel might help?
05/01/2012
Contributor: ~LaUr3n~ ~LaUr3n~
Depends.
05/01/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
It would bother me also, but your situation should make it easier for him to understand
05/01/2012
Contributor: vanilla&chocolate vanilla&chocolate
It would, but if my partner was in a similar situation I would be very understanding.
05/01/2012
Contributor: Various Various
Yes I would, but if medication is involved it is a totally different ball game.
05/01/2012
Contributor: LovesAPoet LovesAPoet
I've had a partner that had hard time keeping it up much less having an orgasm with me. It happened but it was a long hard process. It was frustrating for me because he could do it on his own quckly and I never had that kind of problem before. But if it was a situation like your own I think I would have been more understanding.
05/01/2012
Contributor: gorgeous gorgeous
I'm on the other side of the question. My boyfriend has no problem with orgasms, but I don't always do it.
05/01/2012
Contributor: CaliGirl CaliGirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Youssii
I've recently started sleeping with someone I know is usually very confident in bed, and he's really good at it.

Unfortunately I've been finding it really hard to orgasm since starting the medication I'm currently on (and ... more
Yes it would
06/30/2012
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
It would bother me if I wasn't HELPING my partner reach orgasm in some way. As long as he/she/it enjoys my company and wants me there and I'm doing what I can to ensure they are having a good time, that's good enough for me. Sex is about pleasure for me and my partner, not an ego boost.
06/30/2012
Contributor: digit88 digit88
Quote:
Originally posted by Youssii
I've recently started sleeping with someone I know is usually very confident in bed, and he's really good at it.

Unfortunately I've been finding it really hard to orgasm since starting the medication I'm currently on (and ... more
yes it does
06/30/2012
Contributor: Aeronaut Aeronaut
Yes, it would. Provided that the partner isn't on any medications or have physical problems such as an injury to the back or whatnot
06/30/2012
Contributor: Sundae Sparkles Sundae Sparkles
yeah it does.. I get off on getting people off..
06/30/2012