I've listed out two personalities, which one do you prefer? I like friends who are honest and speak their minds, not fakes who pretend to be kind and friendly, and their words are always music to my ears.
Which personality do you prefer?
12/21/2011
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I am honest to a fault and I prefer that my friends are the same. I don't like lying, even if it is done with good intentions.
12/21/2011
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Me too, I can't stand fakes, but seems like quite a lot of people are blinded by that kind of personality.
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I am honest to a fault and I prefer that my friends are the same. I don't like lying, even if it is done with good intentions.
12/21/2011
Honesty! Smiles are nice, but true friends are honest, even if it hurts.
12/21/2011
Id pick someone who was honest over anything.
12/21/2011
Speak their mind!
12/21/2011
Honesty, I'd rather have friends who told me the truth then lied to me and who hid it with smiles. You can have smiles, and honesty, though.
12/21/2011
Honesty, I'd rather have friends who told me the truth then lied to me and who hid it with smiles. You can have smiles, and honesty, though.
12/21/2011
honesty goes long way, this day and age more then ever before
12/21/2011
I always pick honesty over fake friends.
12/21/2011
Honesty
12/21/2011
kinda a silly question but like everyone else said so far i like someone who is honest and speaks their mind.
12/21/2011
i never understood how people can stand being around fake people. honest people are much easier to deal with.
12/22/2011
I think tactful honesty is best, I really don't like when people say one thing to my face and another behind my back.
12/22/2011
If the people you surround yourself are not honest to you, then what are friends really for?
12/22/2011
Really, I prefer an in between. I do NOT like fake people and it's one thing I tend to get a small amount of hurt feelings over. I work very hard to be honest and it can be hard when it's a situation where they may not love what you have to say, but it's best. I had a friend who prided herself on being "100% honest and BLUNT" Thing was, she wasn't honest and blunt, but down right rude and hateful. She was a wonderful friend to me througout high school, but those little "truths" she loved telling served no other purpose besides to hurt. For years she wasn't like that toward me and later I too was a "friend" she treated that way. There's a difference (a huge one) in being honest and helpful and being a hateful douche-bag. Lol.
The honest friend I had would say things like "you're the biggest dumbass." About EVERYTHING! That gets old and it's belittling, not honest. She also liked saying things like "You don't need to wear that because people will think badly of you" or "you shouldn't wear this because people will think you're ugly." another common "truth" was "you look fat, your toes look fat, etc" Everything looked "fat." There are nicer ways to say things and really when someone DOESN'T look fat, why tell them they do?
This was constantly things she would say. If I have a camel-toe, be a nice friend and pull me aside and DO tell me. That's an honest, helpful friend.
Then I've had one or two friends that did care enough to be honest with me, but wouldn't ever be plain hateful or belittle me. After a few years of my very "honest" friend, I ditched her.
It can be very hard to be honest with people. Say someone has something about them that really drives you insane, but it's not something that would be nice to say to them. If it isn't hurting them or the friendship, things like that can be left alone. Small things. Like maybe someone spits when they talk or sways side to side when they talk. Those little quirks can be left silent. If one of my sisters or girlfriends ask if they have too much makeup, or if a pimple is showing or if their hair's greasy, I will be honest, but nicely. There IS ALWAYS a way of saying it nicely. I am a strong believer in that.
The honest friend I had would say things like "you're the biggest dumbass." About EVERYTHING! That gets old and it's belittling, not honest. She also liked saying things like "You don't need to wear that because people will think badly of you" or "you shouldn't wear this because people will think you're ugly." another common "truth" was "you look fat, your toes look fat, etc" Everything looked "fat." There are nicer ways to say things and really when someone DOESN'T look fat, why tell them they do?
This was constantly things she would say. If I have a camel-toe, be a nice friend and pull me aside and DO tell me. That's an honest, helpful friend.
Then I've had one or two friends that did care enough to be honest with me, but wouldn't ever be plain hateful or belittle me. After a few years of my very "honest" friend, I ditched her.
It can be very hard to be honest with people. Say someone has something about them that really drives you insane, but it's not something that would be nice to say to them. If it isn't hurting them or the friendship, things like that can be left alone. Small things. Like maybe someone spits when they talk or sways side to side when they talk. Those little quirks can be left silent. If one of my sisters or girlfriends ask if they have too much makeup, or if a pimple is showing or if their hair's greasy, I will be honest, but nicely. There IS ALWAYS a way of saying it nicely. I am a strong believer in that.
12/22/2011
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True, real friends should speak their minds honestly and sincerely, but not in a hurtful way. Look at it at a different angle, maybe your high school friend didn't realize the words that came out of her mouth were actually hurtful to the receiving end. It might have done her good, if you've expressed your thoughts to her back then.
Originally posted by
K101
Really, I prefer an in between. I do NOT like fake people and it's one thing I tend to get a small amount of hurt feelings over. I work very hard to be honest and it can be hard when it's a situation where they may not love what you have to
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Really, I prefer an in between. I do NOT like fake people and it's one thing I tend to get a small amount of hurt feelings over. I work very hard to be honest and it can be hard when it's a situation where they may not love what you have to say, but it's best. I had a friend who prided herself on being "100% honest and BLUNT" Thing was, she wasn't honest and blunt, but down right rude and hateful. She was a wonderful friend to me througout high school, but those little "truths" she loved telling served no other purpose besides to hurt. For years she wasn't like that toward me and later I too was a "friend" she treated that way. There's a difference (a huge one) in being honest and helpful and being a hateful douche-bag. Lol.
The honest friend I had would say things like "you're the biggest dumbass." About EVERYTHING! That gets old and it's belittling, not honest. She also liked saying things like "You don't need to wear that because people will think badly of you" or "you shouldn't wear this because people will think you're ugly." another common "truth" was "you look fat, your toes look fat, etc" Everything looked "fat." There are nicer ways to say things and really when someone DOESN'T look fat, why tell them they do?
This was constantly things she would say. If I have a camel-toe, be a nice friend and pull me aside and DO tell me. That's an honest, helpful friend.
Then I've had one or two friends that did care enough to be honest with me, but wouldn't ever be plain hateful or belittle me. After a few years of my very "honest" friend, I ditched her.
It can be very hard to be honest with people. Say someone has something about them that really drives you insane, but it's not something that would be nice to say to them. If it isn't hurting them or the friendship, things like that can be left alone. Small things. Like maybe someone spits when they talk or sways side to side when they talk. Those little quirks can be left silent. If one of my sisters or girlfriends ask if they have too much makeup, or if a pimple is showing or if their hair's greasy, I will be honest, but nicely. There IS ALWAYS a way of saying it nicely. I am a strong believer in that. less
The honest friend I had would say things like "you're the biggest dumbass." About EVERYTHING! That gets old and it's belittling, not honest. She also liked saying things like "You don't need to wear that because people will think badly of you" or "you shouldn't wear this because people will think you're ugly." another common "truth" was "you look fat, your toes look fat, etc" Everything looked "fat." There are nicer ways to say things and really when someone DOESN'T look fat, why tell them they do?
This was constantly things she would say. If I have a camel-toe, be a nice friend and pull me aside and DO tell me. That's an honest, helpful friend.
Then I've had one or two friends that did care enough to be honest with me, but wouldn't ever be plain hateful or belittle me. After a few years of my very "honest" friend, I ditched her.
It can be very hard to be honest with people. Say someone has something about them that really drives you insane, but it's not something that would be nice to say to them. If it isn't hurting them or the friendship, things like that can be left alone. Small things. Like maybe someone spits when they talk or sways side to side when they talk. Those little quirks can be left silent. If one of my sisters or girlfriends ask if they have too much makeup, or if a pimple is showing or if their hair's greasy, I will be honest, but nicely. There IS ALWAYS a way of saying it nicely. I am a strong believer in that. less
12/22/2011
Honesty. I do not like lying at all; its a big pet peeve of mine. If you can't tell me the truth no matter how much it hurts then we don't have trust and trust is important to me.
12/22/2011
Generally I like someone who is honest, but there definitely are times when I would choose tactful and kind over honesty so I think it's good to have balance. For example when I threw a party a couple years ago and it ended up being a disaster, I got really upset and I appreciated the people who said they had a good time, even though I knew they probably didn't. If they had just told me that they didn't have a good time and my party was horrible it would have just made me feel worse without actually helping me in any way. It's an important skill to be able to read people and know when they need to hear honesty (even if it hurts) or if they just need some kind words (even if they aren't true).
12/22/2011
That's a no brainer for me! The first obviously.
12/22/2011
I'd rather have someone that completely speaks there honest opinion, not over baring or rude.
12/22/2011
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Honesty is the best policy!! But, I do like to tease alot; keeps it interesting without being hurtful!
Originally posted by
Kallisto
That's a no brainer for me! The first obviously.
12/22/2011
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I chose the top one, but I really should have gone with Other. I like friends that are honest, but sometimes i just want someone to smile and act happy for me!
Originally posted by
Rossie
I've listed out two personalities, which one do you prefer? I like friends who are honest and speak their minds, not fakes who pretend to be kind and friendly, and their words are always music to my ears.
12/22/2011
I want honest, sincere and tactful friends. The ones you can count on 24/7 and know they will have your back. That is the kind of person I am and I expect the same.
12/22/2011
I'm very blunt. If you ask you shall receive my honest and respectful opinion. I expect my friends to be the same.
12/22/2011
I have found that honesty is the best answer for anything...
12/25/2011
I prefer friends who are open and honest, and not ones that put up a facade. Though, that said, I don't like people who say 'I'm just being honest' as an excuse for being rude.
12/27/2011
I like a calm and sensitive person who care about my feelings. Those people are a very good friends if you can deal with them. Just keep smile to them and share their sympathy.
12/27/2011
Good friends tell you when you have a boog hangin out. That's my kind of friend.
12/27/2011
I selected both because I think having a mix of friends can't hurt. As long as I know which ones are the plastic-smile ones, I don't mind. What's more important to me is that they're loyal and are willing to get down and dirty if need be to help out a friend. If I need an honest opinion, I'd know not to ask certain people.
12/27/2011
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