When updating my resume, should I put Stay at Home Mom as a position?

Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
Ive been really lucky to be able to stay at home w/my daughter and step son. However with the cost of living getting higher, bf and I think I may have to go back to work.

Im wondering if I should put all the things I did as a SAHM on my resume. I am pretty much running this household (managing kids, cooking/cleaning, budgeting, etc) so I think it may be useful.

FYI... I have a background in Healthcare Admin so will be looking to obtain a job in that field.
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Yes, add your mom exp
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No, just explain work gap
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Other... cuz maybe you have a better idea than me!!
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Contributor: MaryExy MaryExy
I don't think I'd consider it work experience, but I think mentioning all the activity of being a SAHM would be awesome. If you know you will have a chance to delve into those activities somewhere else in your application process, I'd leave it off your resume as an actual job. However, if you don't think you'll have a chance elsewhere to talk about all the work of being a SAHM, I don't think it would hurt to add it to your resume.
06/02/2011
Contributor: markeagleone markeagleone
When my wife put together her resume, she did add it. She also homeschooled so that was included. I would say, about 10 years back I would have said not to add it but the world is different now. Businnesses are not only looking for why you are/were absent from the workforce, but also how you utilized that time. SAHM is a job, more than most people think. They will be able to see that you have many skills to bring to the table. And that you didn't just sit around doing nothing.

Not only does it show how you are able to manage others, it also shows you can negotiate, deligate, organize, etc. These are (and many others) skills that can not be taught at a school. My wife did have to choose her wording wisely but it is worth putting that in for work experience. This is only my opinion.
06/02/2011
Contributor: Wyo Daisy Wyo Daisy
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
Ive been really lucky to be able to stay at home w/my daughter and step son. However with the cost of living getting higher, bf and I think I may have to go back to work.

Im wondering if I should put all the things I did as a SAHM on my ... more
Absolutely! I was a SAHM for several years and then went back to work (in the court system) and I included what I did as a SAHM (volunteering, organizing saving $$$ etc) and my skills (in addition to my previous court experince) were found to be quite valuable. Since that time I have had 2 more kids and I am a SAHM mom again. This time I am also homeschooling so I will be out of the workforce for an extended period and if I ever do decide to return to the workfoce then I will again include my SAHM skills. Remember you are the CEO of the home!
06/02/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
Ive been really lucky to be able to stay at home w/my daughter and step son. However with the cost of living getting higher, bf and I think I may have to go back to work.

Im wondering if I should put all the things I did as a SAHM on my ... more
Managing a household, while raising kids IS a valid work experience. Talk about the ability to do everything from delegate to organize to multi task!

I've been a SAHM (and I am again now, not counting my home business, which is on the skids at the moment) and I certainly use it as work experience. Employers want to KNOW why there is a work gap, and IMO, there is no better reason to not be in the workplace than having taken the time to raise one's own children.
06/02/2011
Contributor: IrishLassie IrishLassie
While I agree that being a SAHM is work, I would not put it on there. We had a career week at work and one of the presentations was, "How to Sell Yourself" and a couple of people who work in HR and recruiting say to leave it out but just explain the gap or focus on your skills. It's ok to be honest. I hope that helps!
06/02/2011
Contributor: markeagleone markeagleone
I just want to add one thing to think about... You will NOT have the chance to explain anything if you leave it out. That would be assuming they choose you for an interview! Employers are going to throw a resume into the "not look at pile" because of the gap. At least I think most would.

Please take that into consideration. You can't explain yourself if there is nobody to explain it too.
06/02/2011
Contributor: CuteDee CuteDee
THANKS!!! I really appreciate all your guys input!
06/03/2011
Contributor: Kindred Kindred
If you can clearly state what skills you used/acquired while being a SAHM, then yes you should include it. However, it should be very specific and detail your skills, just like any other position you would list. Regardless, you should somehow include information to explain any gap in your non-SAHM work experience. Otherwise, employers will wonder.
06/03/2011
Contributor: shentel shentel
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
Ive been really lucky to be able to stay at home w/my daughter and step son. However with the cost of living getting higher, bf and I think I may have to go back to work.

Im wondering if I should put all the things I did as a SAHM on my ... more
I personally think that could help or hurt you because when you have that interview they are going to ask if your kids can manage without you,and what about when they are sick and they need there mother. It happened to me.
06/03/2011
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by shentel
I personally think that could help or hurt you because when you have that interview they are going to ask if your kids can manage without you,and what about when they are sick and they need there mother. It happened to me.
The sooner Big Business realizes that children need their mothers and that those mothers who either choose to leave their children or have to leave their children should be respected and allowed extra time to care for their families the better this world would be.

Big Business is overlooking a LOT of good workers and helping to ruin families by insisting on few sick days, expecting women to ignore their children and wanting "110 %" (meaning 70 hour weeks, no sick day, and undying devotion to the company.)

Business needs to realize what they are doing and in the meantime, the more women and men are honest about their Number One priority (their kids, right?) business will have to change.

If EVERY mother did it, it wouldn't be a problem, would it? My daughter works at a day care center/preschool and it is amazing how many women put their jobs before their kids. If woman insisted on their status as mothers being respected instead of being afraid of "what might happen" things would change, as businesses would have NO choice but to accept the changes. As long as some women are willing to allow Big Business to cause them to be afraid to admit their children come first, nothing will change for the better and families and children and parents will continue to suffer.

But, Big Business LOVES it when people have the "I'm just glad a have a job (no matter how shitty they treat me.") attitude. It makes the Worker weak, and gives Big Business all the power. (Really, in the last 6 or 7 years or so how many people have you heard say this when they are treated like shit by their employers? "I'm just glad I have a job." As long as people have that attitude, the Worker loses. Big Business should be glad good people are willing to work for them, but they just take the Worker for granted, the bigger the company, the worst it gets.

The only way to get the power back is if EVERYBODY is on board with forcing Big Business to treat workers as humans. As the economy self destructs it only makes it better for Big Business and easier for them to treat people, especially those of us with children, like shit. Until we are ALL willing to make Big Business change, things will remain shitty for the Worker. And children will continue to suffer in substandard day care and women will feel they have to put their children after their jobs.

In closing, I find it interesting that those who have kids feel the work they are doing as mothers (or the work their partners do as mothers) IS a good work experience. Those without kids don't seem to understand that running a home with kids is 100000 times harder than most paid employment. Yes, put your skills on those applications, CuteDee. You did good work, and your future employer, if he is worthy of YOUR work, deserves to know what you have done well.
06/03/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
no i wouldn't do it. a lot of employers look down upon that unfortunately. just tell them about the career gap, but focus on your skills
06/03/2011
Contributor: Possibly Normal Possibly Normal
Quote:
Originally posted by CuteDee
Ive been really lucky to be able to stay at home w/my daughter and step son. However with the cost of living getting higher, bf and I think I may have to go back to work.

Im wondering if I should put all the things I did as a SAHM on my ... more
I am attempting to re-enter the work field after a 4 year gap. I got sick of submitting resumes and finally put on one that I was looking for a job after leaving my 5 yr position as a Domestic Engineer. AKA I got divorced and need to support myself. Yes I got a call back and in the interview the guy asked me what exactly that meant. Fingers are now crossed I get hired. It was a great interview, they gave me cake!

Anyway, keep your head up and maybe pop it in during an interview.....I had this gap because of being a SAHM, or something.
06/03/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
I would include your mothering experience, and would detail the kinds of work you did in that position. Household management, scheduling, cooking, whatever may be that you're most proud of or would be most appropriate to highlight for the position you're going for.

If it were me, I would put a title like "Full time child rearing" rather than "stay at home mom", because I think it sounds a bit more professional and less personal.
06/04/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
Quote:
Originally posted by Possibly Normal
I am attempting to re-enter the work field after a 4 year gap. I got sick of submitting resumes and finally put on one that I was looking for a job after leaving my 5 yr position as a Domestic Engineer. AKA I got divorced and need to support myself. ... more
Domestic Engineer? That is so funny. I love it
06/04/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
Also don't forget to include any activities you did while being a mom that are potentially career-oriented. Did you do any community organizing? Educational activities? Some work on the side? Offered support to other parents by way of child minding or anything else?

I try to translate some things from my personal life into "professional speak" so that potential employers get a better idea of who I am and that I take initiative in my own life (giving the message that I could take initiative with their company).
06/04/2011
Contributor: toxie m toxie m
I wouldn't include it in the resume itself, but I would absolutely mention it while applying, something like, "You may notice that there's a gap of time between jobs here, I took time off work to be a stay at home mom, etc" and just work it into the conversation that way.
06/06/2011
Contributor: jedent jedent
my fiance is homeschooling our oldest son, and you bet your sweet bippy that's considered a job.
12/22/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I would include it because it's hard work.
12/22/2011
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
It depends, because some companies might take it as sarcasm or something, it just matters where you're applying. I'd smile at it, personally, but not everywhere has a good sense of how much work that takes.
12/23/2011
Contributor: TheSlyFox TheSlyFox
It depends on the company. A fast-Food place may not care. But a daycare, or a child center may like that you have worked with children. I would put it as a job position, though.
12/23/2011
Contributor: (k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
It depends, like a few people have said, on where you're applying. But my thought is if they don't see being a SAHM as work, they obviously have no idea how much work that implies!
12/23/2011