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Contributor: Alicia Alicia
The post on sleeping positions got me thinking...

My husband and I currently have a king sized bed. We've had it for a few years and at first we really loved it because when we bought it we had little ones that were always coming into bed. At one point both our boys were making their way into our bed during the night and so having the extra space was wonderful. Thing is that it never really fit well in our bedroom but at the time we were more than willing to give up the space. Now the kids are a bit older and while they do sometimes still come into bed it's only one of them at a time and usually they end up going back to their own beds before long, so the king sized bed really isn't a necessity as much. I find when we sleep at night I am so far away from my husband, we might as well be sleeping in separate beds. If I do go over and sleep near him I'm literally in the middle of the bed. I think if we downsized to a queen sized bed we would still have plenty of space, but I guess my question is, has anyone downsized and then realized that they were much happier before doing so? It'd really suck to buy a queen sized bed and get rid of the king only to find out we're not actually happy with it!
11/17/2010
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Contributor: Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
Do you have a guest room? if so maybe move the king in there and get a queen. That way youd have the option of going back to the king if you ultimately prefer it.

Or just don't get rid of the king until you know your satisfied with the queen.

I'm envious, I'd love a king.....but we have little ones that make their way into the bed with us still.
11/17/2010
Contributor: SexyTabby SexyTabby
When we first built our house we spent so much money into the house that we couldn't afford furniture right away and I shared a queen size bed with hubby and a two and three year old. Within a month or two we had beds for the kids and took over the queen size bed for ourselves. After a few years we bought our first bedroom set and it has a giant solid wood king size bed the kind with steps to get up on it lol I loved it - the first time I'd ever had a real bedroom set and it was huge solid wood and marble. Since we've had another lil one and there were many nights when we'd end up with the whole family in the bed - it was perfect. Now the kids are big enough we only get an occasional visit from the youngest and she usually goes back to her own room eventually.

Still I wouldn't give up the size of my bed though. Hubby and I have separate covers cuz neither can stand the other's sleeping habits. I steal the blanket he wants the sheet. He leaves his feet out and I tuck mine in. Despite the differences he sleeps on his right and me my left and we do both tend to sleep in the center to be next to one another. I just can't share a blanket with the man.

Our bed has sturdy wooden posts and a heavy duty metal canopy top and I know you can get those in other sizes but yeah I wouldn't give mine up for nothing. But we also have the space for it as well. My bedroom is like 27' x 24'. So if the size is an issue maybe like hot'n'bothered said you could keep it in case you don't prefer a smaller one - maybe one of the kids could get the other bed?
11/17/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by Hot'n'Bothered
Do you have a guest room? if so maybe move the king in there and get a queen. That way youd have the option of going back to the king if you ultimately prefer it.

Or just don't get rid of the king until you know your satisfied with the ... more
Nope, unfortunately all the bedrooms are taken up by kiddos! We also would have absolutely nowhere to store the king sized to be able to keep it around until we know we like the queen. Thing is we used to have a queen, and I remember it being ok then except for the kids coming in, so I think it would be ok..I'm just not sure.
11/17/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by SexyTabby
When we first built our house we spent so much money into the house that we couldn't afford furniture right away and I shared a queen size bed with hubby and a two and three year old. Within a month or two we had beds for the kids and took over ... more
Yea we're like that too where we have separate covers, but I think most of the issue with that is that the bed is so large and we ultimately retreat to both sides and then the blanket is being stretched so far. When we had a queen bed we would just buy king sized comforters and have the extra width which helped us to not fight over covers. Having a king there's no way to get any larger of a comforter though.

Our bedroom is actually the largest of the three bedrooms we have, I can't even imagine putting the king in one of the kids' rooms! We actually gave our daughter the full bed when we got our queen one about 5 years ago, but it was too large and we downsized her to a daybed and got rid of both the full and the queen.
11/17/2010
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
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Originally posted by Alicia
Nope, unfortunately all the bedrooms are taken up by kiddos! We also would have absolutely nowhere to store the king sized to be able to keep it around until we know we like the queen. Thing is we used to have a queen, and I remember it being ok ... more
Go spend a night in a reasonable hotel room with two queen sized beds - tuck the kids in one, you and hubby in the other, order pizza, play games, make it a family fun getaway and see if y'all can manage in a queen.
11/17/2010
Contributor: Bunnycups Bunnycups
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Go spend a night in a reasonable hotel room with two queen sized beds - tuck the kids in one, you and hubby in the other, order pizza, play games, make it a family fun getaway and see if y'all can manage in a queen.
That's awesome. It's what my parents used to always do on vacation with me and my siblings and I loved it.
11/17/2010
Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
My partner used to live in a dorm and had a twin bed. I would always complain about it because it was hard to find comfortable positions to sleep in. Now he has a queen and I actually miss the twin bed because I get way less cuddling. Before we were basically forced to be all over each other, but I liked it a lot better than having a big gap between us.
11/17/2010
Contributor: SXEKAT SXEKAT
I'm a 5'4 lil'girl and I've slept in a king sized bed before and I can tell you I've gotten lost in there. Haha other hen that I believe downgrading to a smaller bed size to fit the space in your bedroom would do you and your husband good. the kids are getting older now and have to grow up a little bit so they should most definitely sleep in their own bed. However I do agree with Carie Ann take the family out and spend the night in a hotel and have fun. That way each of your get to spend the night on a queen sized bed

Answering your question though. I've slept on a queen, went down to a twin and am currently going back to a queen. I downsized after moving out of a situation but then my cats began taking up room on my twin so im upgrading now. I don't intend to go bigger then a queen but in my opinion the queen suites me its big enough for two or more depending on body size and gives you more room to stretch or spread things out. I hope things work out for you though. Best luck on the new bed.
11/17/2010
Contributor: Anne Ardeur Anne Ardeur
I had a king before I moved in with my now husband, and we have a queen currently because the apartment we were living in after we got married didn't have room in the bedroom for a king. We're both tall (I'm 5'10", he's 6'2") and there's plenty of room in the queen for both of us. I don't miss the bigger bed at all.

I did insist on keeping my king size duvet, though; I like a lot of covers, and having the bigger duvet means I don't feel the need for a half-dozen blankets. And we don't fight over the covers as much since there's plenty to go around!
11/17/2010
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
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Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Go spend a night in a reasonable hotel room with two queen sized beds - tuck the kids in one, you and hubby in the other, order pizza, play games, make it a family fun getaway and see if y'all can manage in a queen.
That is a good idea.

I have a king and I will never downgrade. I love it WAY too much.
11/17/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by Anne Ardeur
I had a king before I moved in with my now husband, and we have a queen currently because the apartment we were living in after we got married didn't have room in the bedroom for a king. We're both tall (I'm 5'10", he's ... more
This is what I was thinking too, the larger sized blankets on a smaller bed would probably mean less fighting over blankets
11/17/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
Quote:
Originally posted by Carrie Ann
Go spend a night in a reasonable hotel room with two queen sized beds - tuck the kids in one, you and hubby in the other, order pizza, play games, make it a family fun getaway and see if y'all can manage in a queen.
Hmm, that's a really good idea. All the hotels we've been at lately have been just full sized beds, so it's been a long time since we've slept in a queen bed. After Christmas there is a night we need to go to a hotel anyway for a night, I'll make sure to get one with queen beds so we can try it out
11/17/2010
Contributor: JEM JEM
My husband and I have a king...it's just us....and the cat...and the dog....and I would NEVER downsize! I am a diagonal sleeper and since I am fairly short a king allows me to sleep diagonally without bothering my husband.
11/17/2010