What's the longest you've waited before sex in a relationship?

Contributor: T&A1987 T&A1987
days, weeks, months, years, hours? Further, how long would you consider, for yourself, to be too long?
04/15/2012
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Contributor: SaMiKaY SaMiKaY
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Originally posted by T&A1987
days, weeks, months, years, hours? Further, how long would you consider, for yourself, to be too long?
I get a lot of flack for how I handled my relationships...

As a firm believer that sex is an integral part of a healthy relationship, I don't believe on wasting my time on someone that I inevitably can't stay with because we aren't sexually compatible.

This is why I would have sex with someone I was interested in by the second date. Protection was always used and I kept myself tested. I don't think it makes sense to spend months or even weeks with a wo/man only to discover that I can't stand sex with her/him.

That being said, I have been living with my current (and hopefully last) boyfriend for over a year and we are expecting our first child together! So I guess I didn't screw myself up too bad lol
04/16/2012
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
First BF about one year. But we were young... and it was our firsts.
04/16/2012
Contributor: T&A1987 T&A1987
let's expand the question to also include how long you've waited because of a partner.
04/16/2012
Contributor: puppylove puppylove
2.5 years is how long I waited, I was dying lol but I would have held out longer for him
04/16/2012
Contributor: lisasharrer lisasharrer
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Originally posted by T&A1987
days, weeks, months, years, hours? Further, how long would you consider, for yourself, to be too long?
i went 3 months befor we had sex but now 1 day with out its all bad
04/16/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Nine months. Nine, long months! It had nothing to do with pregnancy, we just weren't in the position to do anything about our feelings and mutual attraction at the time.
04/16/2012
Contributor: StarFire StarFire
Maybe like 6 months... That was a loong time agooooo
04/16/2012
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
Two years and counting. We're long distance and haven't been able to meet yet due to various reasons. We're both going crazy.

The date's set, though. Let's see if we can follow through!
04/16/2012
Contributor: MistressDandelion MistressDandelion
Quote:
Originally posted by T&A1987
days, weeks, months, years, hours? Further, how long would you consider, for yourself, to be too long?
I waited 4 years. But I was a virgin and wanted to just, I don't know, make sure it was the right guy, and to be sure I would'nt be stressed or disturbed by my parents, or have to maintain my sound level down. Totally worth it.

But then again if you talk about other kinds of sex, such as oral or anal.. mh.. ~ Let's say waaayyy less than that.
04/16/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
My wife and I dated without having sex for about 3 years. I'm glad we waited. It's not archaic, it's a sign of deep respect and love.
04/16/2012
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I think about two weeks?

I mean with my high school boyfriend it was a fair bit longer before penetrative sex, but we still dove into nonpenetrative sex pretty darn quickly.

I know myself well enough now that if somebody doesn't want to have sex on a first date, it wasn't really a date, we're only ever going to be friends.
04/16/2012
Contributor: DustBunny DustBunny
2 1/2 years because we were long distance, how long did it take to happen after I moved in with him? Three Hours. And the reason it took that long, our first apartment didn't have air conditioning when we moved in, so it was 96 degrees in there and I was slightly concerned about heat stroke.
04/17/2012
Contributor: Big Dog Big Dog
6 months. It wasn't worth it.
04/17/2012
Contributor: rawsonbr rawsonbr
I've only been with my husband, and we were together for a month.
04/18/2012