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Contributor: ToyGurl ToyGurl
So what are your views on the following. I came across this the other day and it really made me think...

So if someone is a practicing Christian (devoted/etc.), they are SINGLE, and they use sex toys... Is it okay? I sort of think it is okay, as sex/masturbation is a great way to relieve stress. However, some say masturbation is against Christian practices. I personally think that it isn't, as long as you control your thoughts/feelings/acti ons. What do you all think?

Please explain all answers.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
It's totally OK.
36  (90%)
It's OK in some circumstances.
3  (8%)
I am indifferent.
I have no freakin clue.
1  (2%)
HELLZ NO it is not OK.
Other (explain please)
Total votes: 40
Poll is closed
11/15/2011
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Contributor: Peggi Peggi
Now, I am not Christian but I was raised following the same teachings, though I branched off and found my own religion. I have a very close friend who is one of those hard-core Christian talks-about-God-regula rly and everything is Gods-will etc. THAT being said:

I feel that it is okay. SHE feels that it is okay.
11/15/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
I say its totally okay!

Every person will have their own opinion, even if they all belong to the same religious group... I think what is most important is the person who is doing it, and how they feel about what they are doing. If they don't feel like using the sex toys is wrong, then they shouldn't allow others to make them feel like they're doing something bad. But, if the person feels guilty when they do it, maybe they should discontinue doing it..

I guess it's actually a hard question to answer, because it really depends on that person's personal beliefs when it comes to religion and sex.

But I stick to my vote. I think it's absolutely fine.
11/15/2011
Contributor: SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
So what are your views on the following. I came across this the other day and it really made me think...

So if someone is a practicing Christian (devoted/etc.), they are SINGLE, and they use sex toys... Is it okay? I sort of think it is okay, ... more
persoanlly i believe each to their own i think its perfectly fine considering it isnt premarital sex they always whine about
11/15/2011
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
So what are your views on the following. I came across this the other day and it really made me think...

So if someone is a practicing Christian (devoted/etc.), they are SINGLE, and they use sex toys... Is it okay? I sort of think it is okay, ... more
Most of those "rules" are man made additions that have developed over time. Some are based on the concept of sex and sexual conduct being a gateway drug to sin and total anarchy... the truth is if you cut out all the man made crap very little about God telling you not to shake your booty exists... and if you notice the whats ok and whats not has a way of changing when the rules are so out of whack with modern cultural thoughts that it starts to cost churches members and bottom line money. I came from a very traditional non- catholic christian background and my husband from a very traditional catholic one - complete with an irrational fear of penguins cause they look like nuns from his school days. We are now part of a very traditional church in the middle. Do they know what we do in - and often out pf the bedroom? No...and really its none of their business. But if you are christian then you believe that God does know and ya know what? We are both still alive, happy, healthy and deeply in love in spite of all the "Sin" ( in mans opinion) we committed. Live life in joy and happiness including enjoying yourself. God blesses me and is totally in my life - and I still joyfully get my freak on.

Oh...shhhhhh dont tell but I even wear jeans with sparkles on my butt and mini skirts with thongs n heels!!! And I even watch porn. Lol
11/15/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
I am Christian and I feel that it's perfectly OK. Masturbation isn't breaking any commandment I'm aware of and it's having sex with someone I love!
11/15/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
Granted, I'm not a Christian, but I've never come across anything that says masturbation is a sin. I'd be surprised if there's a passage in the Bible that says using the Hitachi is a sin. Though the Greeks did make dildos out of bread. They baked it so that it looked a bit like a miniature baguette.
11/15/2011
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
I'm agnostic so my opinion on what Christians should do probably matters very little. However, I can't imagine God being upset that someone masturbated with a toy. Probably bigger things to worry about like killers and rapists. Just my opinion.
11/15/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I don't see how it could be wrong. I'm a Christian, but not a devout Christian who eats, walks, breathes Christianity. I've broken some of the rules, but I still consider myself a Christian.
11/15/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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I feel like their relationship with God is their own business! If they pray about it and feel that God doesn't mine, no one else should tell them otherwise.
11/15/2011
Contributor: Riverstone Riverstone
Speaking as someone who A) studied to be a youth pastor in a protestant christian church, and B) wrote a research paper on the issue...

I cannot, for the life of me, find a place where scripture says masturbating is bad/sinful/useful/what ever. It says absolutely zero, zip, zilch. Which is REALLY ANNOYING to a guy who likes things to be very defined. Sigh.

What I did find was that if we are to have an ethic of/about masturbation, it must be grounded not in a law or rule, but in our relationships with others.

One thing scripture was fairly clear on is that lusting after another person is *the same* as having sex with them, and the apostle Paul was clear on Marriage First in those cases. I have heard arguments to the contrary, but I feel it's an accurate statement of Paul's (and God's) intent, plus I believe its smart for society... so that's just the premise I am going to operate under for the duration.


As I see it, there are two ways you might be able to masturbate and not violate any issue with scripture. Scratch that... three. 1) Don't lust/fantasize. 2) Lust/Fantasize of a fictional person. 3) Lust/Fantasize about your spouse.

Now, I have met a few guys who claim to have been able to masturbate without lusting/fantasizing after a person. Strikes me as boring, but... ok. I can't, so whatever.

I can create in my head a woman I want to have sex with, and it's no one real. So far as I can tell, the issue with lusting was when it was with a real person, and the effect it had on your soul... my dream has no soul, since she isn't real... so... fair game? I think so. Full discussion on this would mean more research (blah) and a lengthy talk on the nature of whom you sin against for various sins etc... yeah. Not right now.

Fantasizing about your spouse... I cannot think God would mind this. When my dad was deployed, I sure hope he thought about mom that way. One, it's a boost to her ego, and two, it helps dad go through a rough time while still binding his heart closer to mom.

That's my two cents. It's distilled from a 18 page paper I wrote about seven years ago, so if it seems vague, that's why.


Riverstone.
11/15/2011
Contributor: SilverIsis SilverIsis
The only christian group that I have heard speak about masturbation being evil are Mormons, so maybe it's in the book of Mormon since its been established that it is not in the Bible.

I personally see it as part of my spirituality, but I am not Christian.
11/15/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
Quote:
Originally posted by Riverstone
Speaking as someone who A) studied to be a youth pastor in a protestant christian church, and B) wrote a research paper on the issue...

I cannot, for the life of me, find a place where scripture says masturbating is bad/sinful/useful/what ... more
Wait: fantasising about someone is the same as having sex with them? Does that mean I've basically had sex with Natalie Portman?
11/16/2011
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
The use of sex toys are permissible to me regardless of who you are, whatever your religious beliefs are. All I care about is that people handle their sexuality in a safe and responsible way.
11/17/2011
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by ToyGurl
So what are your views on the following. I came across this the other day and it really made me think...

So if someone is a practicing Christian (devoted/etc.), they are SINGLE, and they use sex toys... Is it okay? I sort of think it is okay, ... more
It's cool. Masturbation shouldn't send you to hell. That's BS. lol.
06/05/2012
Contributor: Maximusx Maximusx
its better to use toys than something laying around the house right? LOL
06/05/2012
Contributor: pasdechat pasdechat
I wouldn't call myself a practicing Christian since I hardly ever go to Church, but I'm sort of spiritual, and if I had to slap a label on it I'd probably choose Christian just because it's what I'm most familiar with.

If someone takes a really strict view of interpreting the Bible, I don't think there's any way to get around the "masturbation is wrong" issue. I don't think I know anyone who takes the Bible literally word for word, though, and quite frankly, I don't see how you can without running into some huge problems. Like the passage about "wives being submissive to their husbands." No thank you. I'd rather just take the core message and accept that the rest is a product of the time it was written.
06/05/2012
Contributor: cryinglightning86 cryinglightning86
I would like to start off by saying that I am an atheist, but that I used to be a really devout Christian.

There is nothing in the Bible that explicitly says that you cannot masturbate. The only vague references that could perhaps ban masturbation in the Bible are things along the lines of "do not spill your seed on the ground." I remember Paul being pretty against any sort of sexual thought, and that sexuality in general seems to be frowned upon unless practiced in a very controlled, husband-and-wife sort of sense. I remember reading a book in my youth that made me feel really guilty about masturbating (it was a Christian book) called "Every Young Woman's Battle." It has a lot of Bible verses in it to support a view of woman that is submissive, modest, humble, and "pure."

That being said, sexuality is natural and is not something to be ashamed of. That's one of the main reasons I turned away from Christianity in the first place: even before I was ready to let go of my belief in God, I just felt so sick and tired of feeling dirty for enjoying myself in a safe, harmless way. Seems to me that, if there is a God, He has more important shit to worry about than what I do with my privates.
07/24/2012