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The 6 Stupidest Things We Use to Judge People We Don't Know

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Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
'A couple of days ago I was talking to a friend about music, and within 30 seconds we were making fun of Nickelback. Half a minute after that, we were ripping on their fans. At the time, we were just two guys looking down our noses and laughing at a fan base and a form of music we considered beneath us. But after that conversation, I kind of felt like a douchebag. Not for making fun of Nickelback, because that band really does suck, but for damning their fans. What made me think that my taste in music made me any more important or intelligent than them?

We as humans do this constantly. I'm not referring to just the elitist assholes who lord obscure knowledge over us like an approaching thunderstorm made of anus. I'm talking about average, everyday people who judge a person entirely on meaningless things like ..."

I recently wrote to the Cafe about being a hypocrite, and this article doesn't change my opinion on that at all. Especially after having to admit that yes, I've done most of these things. I've also probably had most of them done to me. What about you? Would you add anything else to this list?
01/26/2012
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Contributor: Cookie Monster Mike Cookie Monster Mike
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Originally posted by Jul!a
'A couple of days ago I was talking to a friend about music, and within 30 seconds we were making fun of Nickelback. Half a minute after that, we were ripping on their fans. At the time, we were just two guys looking down our noses and laughing ... more
Ha, this was quite entertaining and very true. I've told people certain styles of music I'm into and the stick their nose up at me in response. I can just feel that they are judging me, and that music inside their head. I really don't understand a lot of human behavior and I'm not going to begin to even try, may take a few hundred years.

I catch myself judging over stupid meaningless petty crap all the time, I feel crappy afterwards too but yet I still continue to judge. It's our environment we are raised in with society as a big reason into why we judge (in my opinion). For instance, I could be anywhere in public and see a random girl walking by in short skimpy skanky looking shorts, a rather revealing shirt and then a tattoo on her lower back. Can you guess what my thought is going to be when I see that? Something along the lines of, a tramp stamp on her back and she is dressing skanky/slutty. Basically wanting the attention of all the wrong kinds of guys out there.

But I have no purpose or right to judge someone just because they dress different than I agree with. Again, this is something that seems like I cannot control. The thought just pops into my head, regardless of the fact I'm aware that judging someone like that is wrong. For all I know they could be one of the nicest people in the world, that is the opposite of being a skank/slut etc. *Apologies in advance if anyone reads my post and takes offense from it, that is not my intention*

We humans are one crazy race indeed. Maybe in a few thousand years we will get it right
01/26/2012
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by Cookie Monster Mike
Ha, this was quite entertaining and very true. I've told people certain styles of music I'm into and the stick their nose up at me in response. I can just feel that they are judging me, and that music inside their head. I really don't ... more
You will enjoy my post on the Cafe then. I'm guilty of the same thing, where I don't mean to judge, but I end up doing it anyway. I think that a lot of people make judgments all the time, but that they only share a few publicly.

I'm definitely guilty of thinking "wow, she's dressed kinda skanky" when I've gone out in public in virtually the same outfit. All I can really say is that yes, I'm a hypocrite, lol.
01/26/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
I think everyone judges, whether consciously or subconsciously. Most people probably don't even think twice about it, and the few of us that are conscious of our judgement will find that it's very hard to not judge *anything.* It's the way our brains process the information we get from our surroundings; we naturally assess threats, interests, and we try to gather a lot of information often based on very little input. There are much more unknowns than knowns in our understanding of the world around us, but our brains attempt to fill in such blanks with preconceived notions, biases, and judgments. Usually all those things are misinformation, but knowing that doesn't stop our brains from filling in those blanks again and again.
02/08/2012