unfortunately not...he's only 19months...I know,I have no idea how to break this habit.And the messed up thing is I knew I would have this issue at some point but still let him!What was I thinking!!

You weren't...you were grieving.

Try taking him into his room at night and pretending to fall asleep with him. As soon as he is out like a light, move to your bed. If he crawls into your bed in the middle of the night, put him back in his bed. If he throws a fit, comfort him and still put him back in his bed. Keep doing it until it becomes somewhat of a routine.

I'm sure other parents will be 'round shortly to offer even more advice. You just have to be strong and believe you are doing what is best for him and yourself.

This is really common. You were doing the best you could to raise your baby after a terrible tragedy.

Teaching a toddler to sleep in his or her own bed is a process, not an event. ALL our kids slept in out bed at one time, we had to gradually teach them to sleep on their own. It is not something you can do in a day or a weekend, and it will only work if the child is ready to sleep on his own.

A stop gap until the baby sleeps in his own bed; you and your new love can go into an other room to make love, after the baby has fallen asleep for a while, until things change. A LOT of parents go through this, and you did nothing wrong by letting your baby into your bed. Children all over the world sleep with their parents until middle childhood. Industrialized countries are the few who don't.

Take is SLOW and easy.

Here's a good website to help you.

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The Sears' are the best people to talk to about baby and child care. They are my idols, I've learned from them, met them, and gone to many of their lectures. Go to their website and go to Amazon and get some of their books, they will not steer you wrong. They look at things from a baby's point of view, so you know their solutions will be the best.

Here's an other one link

This is going to sound really mean. Your going to have to start putting him to sleep in the crib. He will cry and it's gonna suck, after a few days or a week he should be broke from the bed.

I have went thru a similar expeirence like this with our son. Sorry to hear about his father passing away.

Thank you....I know I feel so mean!I tried that and he cried for 45mins straight!! but Im thinking that thats what I gota do.

Ya actually his crib is already in my room and not even a foot away from my bed and he still wants nothing to do with it!!thanx for the suggestions!