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Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
If your best friend, friend, co-worker, or someone similar approached you and asked if you would help them fulfill a sexual fantasy, would you listen to them and what they want from you, say NO immediately without hearing the details of their request or freak out and run away?

Maybe something differently?

Bonus questions:
Would you be honored that they asked you or horrified?
Would the details of their sex fantasy and knowledge of who all was involved play any part in you agreeing to help them fulfill their sex fantasy or is your answer a resounding NO, no matter what?
03/30/2013
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Contributor: PassionCpl PassionCpl
Ok, an answer from a couple:

Him: Depends on the friend. If it was someone I could imagine a sexual encounter with then my first answer would be "Go on...." Whether I said 'yes' or 'no' would definitely depend on the friend and what they wanted to try. If it was anything at all within my limits I'd be interested, lol.

Her: It depends on the friend here too, but also how comfortable I'd be and how much alcohol I had first. And it couldn't be anything too 'out there'. Kissing, fondling or threesome - maybe. Anything more and/or kinkier then probably not. I don't like anything too wild and crazy and besides, some things are just for hubby and I.
03/30/2013
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I'd say no. I wouldn't freak out and run away, but I am highly monogamous by nature and have no interest in changing.
03/30/2013
Contributor: KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
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Originally posted by Martiniman
If your best friend, friend, co-worker, or someone similar approached you and asked if you would help them fulfill a sexual fantasy, would you listen to them and what they want from you, say NO immediately without hearing the details of their request ... more
I would definitely consider it and would be honored.

Yes, the details would make a difference. I have to be comfortable with the idea and other people involved, if any.

No matter what my choice, I would not judge or hold it against this person in any way.
03/30/2013
Contributor: captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
If your best friend, friend, co-worker, or someone similar approached you and asked if you would help them fulfill a sexual fantasy, would you listen to them and what they want from you, say NO immediately without hearing the details of their request ... more
i would listen but say no b/c im happily married.
i wouldnt be honored, maybe flattered.
03/30/2013
Contributor: ChubbyNerd ChubbyNerd
I would listen to what they had to say, but I wouldn't do anything.
03/30/2013
Contributor: WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
If I'm attracted to them, I would hear them out, and possibly participate.

If I'm not, I'd politely decline participating, but would still want to hear their fantasy.

Either way, I'd be flattered :3
03/30/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
I wouldn't want to know. I have had quite a few stalkers, so I avoid any behavior to lead to that. I would probably start keeping my distance from that person...unless I liked them that way to begin with.
03/31/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
No - that's not our thing. We're into each other not a larger group.
03/31/2013
Contributor: bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
If your best friend, friend, co-worker, or someone similar approached you and asked if you would help them fulfill a sexual fantasy, would you listen to them and what they want from you, say NO immediately without hearing the details of their request ... more
It depends on the people and the request. I'd only be horrified if they were disrespectful about it.
03/31/2013
Contributor: Missy27 Missy27
Out of curiosity I would listen to what it is but most likely politely turn them down.
03/31/2013
Contributor: babyrock babyrock
It would depend on what type of favor, but I would be interested in hearing about it.
04/29/2013
Contributor: Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
I would listen but not guarantee participation.
04/29/2013
Contributor: CutiePatootie CutiePatootie
It would first depend who it was. Then I'd listen. We have rules in our relationship so it would have to fall under those for me to consider. I'd hear them out though, that's kinda hot.
04/29/2013
Contributor: RomanticGoth RomanticGoth
I'd be flattered, honestly. I would hear them out, but depending on what it was and the situation... I may or may not do it.
04/29/2013
Contributor: peachmarie peachmarie
Depending on the person I would definitely hear them out. If I were unattached I might think on it.
04/29/2013
Contributor: surreptitious surreptitious
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Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
If your best friend, friend, co-worker, or someone similar approached you and asked if you would help them fulfill a sexual fantasy, would you listen to them and what they want from you, say NO immediately without hearing the details of their request ... more
I'd listen to what they had to say as long as they weren't a complete stranger. I can't think of many instances where I would say yes (basically, it'd be a no unless their fantasy was something like "I want to pay for a high end escort who takes my money, sneers and walks away, and I'd like you to roleplay that escort"). Sometimes I'll even listen to complete strangers go on about it if I'm in the right setting.

I would likely be flattered to have been asked, particularly if I know that there are other people around that the question could have been put to instead. I would not judge someone for their fantasy unless it was something that involved non-consent of any kind, animals or children. I have been stalked before, so if they seem to persist or take my "no" badly, I would likely no longer be comfortable hanging out with them one on one, but unless it became an actual problem beyond my discomfort, I wouldn't confront them about it.
04/29/2013
Contributor: mpfm mpfm
I'm monogomous, so no.
04/30/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
When I was single I helped a close friend out when they were badly "in need" of sex...they were interested in some kinkier things...I didn't have a problem with it, and we are completely cool to this day with one another. We were quite clear of what it was and what it wasn't going to be. It turned out great.

Now I'm in a committed relationship, so I would have to pass on the offer if it came up again.
04/30/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Depends who's asking and what my status is at the time. I'd def be flattered and honored.
04/30/2013
Contributor: hillys hillys
^ exactly. it depends on who is asking.
04/30/2013