Ah, the innate pessimism - "Prepare for the worst so you won't be surprised when it happens." It becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy that way. It's a very exhausting way to live, especially with all the negative "tapes" looping through the mind and continually going on and on about how nothing ever goes right. Found that sort of thinking was tied a lot into my lack of self-esteem and confidence.

I can't vouch for it for everyone, but self-affirmations and yoga helped me tremendously. I also did confidence building exercises (learning from setbacks instead of wallowing in what went wrong) which helped me in recognizing that I do have control over situations and how I react to them. I'm not super positive pollyanna, but I'm slightly more balanced and more realistic when assessing situations in life.

I hope some of this helps in finding a direction to start in. less

That is a great reply!!! I have tried to give just some small ideas, like yoga, to try to help her. If you have any other ideas on what might help, please let me know. I think, like you said, realizing she does have control over the situations would definitely help. I know it is something she has to do on her own. Its just kind of hard to tell her this, when she has this type of problem. Even though I have told her before. I guess I will figure out a way to tell her, without telling her. less