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Contributor: Rin (aka Nire) Rin (aka Nire)
The other day I had an elderly man come in to my place of work and ask about a coworker. Apparently the man is a photographer and she'd agreed to pose nude for him. When I told him that she'd moved away quite some time ago (about two years), he asked if I was interested. I politely declined while shuddering inwardly.

Now, I have nothing at all against nude modeling. It's a lovely artistic subject and it wouldn't have bothered me if perhaps we'd been in a more appropriate setting (like an art college, for example). But... I WAS AT WORK! A pet shop, for Pete's sake! Asking someone something like that while they're working (and the topic didn't even come up through a natural conversational flow)... that just creeped me out!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
CREEPY!
66
A little disturbing, but whatever.
26
Indifferent.
6
Nah, that's not creepy at all.
1
Sorry, but I stopped paying attention at the mention of nude models.
2
Has anyone seen my shoes? ("other" option)
4
Total votes: 105 (92 voters)
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04/11/2012
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Contributor: Secret Pleasure Secret Pleasure
I am a nude model myself and have been for years so I see nothing wrong with that but randomly asking you that at your job yes that is a little creepy i would say.
04/11/2012
Contributor: JessCee JessCee
I like to keep an open mind... but the timing does seem a little odd.
04/11/2012
Contributor: tom fay tom fay
if it was for like an art class or something, that might be ok, it i would be i little unnerved if some guy just randomly asked me to pose for him
04/11/2012
Contributor: funluvinmama funluvinmama
I've taken nude photos before, but if someone came up to me and asked me if I wanted to model, I would be creeped out. That should be something I should decide on, not something someone should come asking about.
04/11/2012
Contributor: Antipova Antipova
I went with the 'a little disturbing, but whatever' option, and I definitely think you made the right response with the shudder-inwardly-and-p olite-decline. And then not giving him one whit of personal information. Depending on the vibe I got, I might even describe him to my manager so they could make a note, and if he was to show up creepily repeatedly they could ban him.
04/11/2012
Contributor: ghalik ghalik
Definitely creepy. If that happens again, I'd report sexual harassment.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
That's completely creepy and inappropriate. I'd talk to your boss about it immediately.

Watch out for nightmares and excessive thoughts about the situation. I know that it seems funny, but even little encounters like that can have serious after effects. If these things come up for you, see a therapist (even if it's just for one session, to completely process the situation). This is sexual harassment and it is unacceptable, you have every right to be upset and even traumatized by the experience, regardless of your stance on nude modeling.
04/12/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Yea...a little creepy...
04/12/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
The other day I had an elderly man come in to my place of work and ask about a coworker. Apparently the man is a photographer and she'd agreed to pose nude for him. When I told him that she'd moved away quite some time ago (about two years), ... more
Hell yea I'd be creeped! I would probably chew the person out for having no more respect than that. Heck, not probably, I know for sure I'd chew em' out!
04/12/2012
Contributor: ksparkles16 ksparkles16
CREEPY!!! lol
04/12/2012
Contributor: anonkitty anonkitty
At a workplace? Definitely creepy.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Alx Alx
Wow. Wrong time at the wrong place. Creepy.
04/12/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
0_o I'd be creeped out, but I'm far too shy to let anyone but my boyfriend and friends on FetLife see even topless pictures of myself.
Though it is sort of odd to make such a request as the persons workplace, borderline rude even considering her boss might overhear.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Incendiaire Incendiaire
He's probably so used to being around nude models, that he become rather blasé about it all, so he didn't stop to consider that it might be out of the ordinary for other people.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Bex1331 Bex1331
I am one of the only girls working in a gaming store and I get tons of creepers but I've gotta say, the all time WORST was a guy old enough to be my dad asked straight out "would you do me?" um. no. He still shops in the store and I just turn my back on him and blatantly ask someone else to help him. I refuse to even talk to him and I have a really high tolerance for creepy but this guy makes me really uncomfortable...
04/12/2012
Contributor: Ciao. Ciao.
There's nothing particularly weird about posing nude on camera, but to be asked in your place of work, with no other context than "this other woman was going to do it" is creepy, and weird, and really inappropriate.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I wouldn't as creeped out by it if I heard that the coworker was going to do it.But a little bit anyway.
04/12/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
In most places of business doing this (asking someone to pose nude) would violate the Sexual Harassment Rules.

YES, this is a creepy as hell! Desiring to pose nude for a life drawing class, or even for a professional photographer is fine if one desires and seeks it out. But, these requests cannot be made in a business environment!! I can't think of a single business where this wouldn't violate about 10 Harassment Rules.
04/12/2012
Contributor: ChickenFeathers ChickenFeathers
And that's when you call the police..
04/12/2012
Contributor: mistressg mistressg
There is nothing wrong with nude modeling, as long as you are comfortable with it. However, that doesn't seem entirely appropriate. The fact that he's asking you while you're in you're place of business, a professional setting. Also, the whole "Oh, she's not here? How about you?" seems a little weird to me.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Khanner Khanner
I'd be very suspect of this dude. I'm no expert on the subject, but I imagine any professional photographer would respect their models' privacy more than to announce she had posed nude for him. Also, if they had worked together he would most assuredly have better contact info than her employment address, and would probably be aware that she had moved.

And like you said, there are more appropriate places to find new models.
04/12/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
That would creep me out as well. It is all relative to the individual, however there are times and places for everything and at work in a pet store is not my opinion of a good time or place.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
i would be flattered, cause it would make me think, "jeez, im pretty enough to be a nude model?" but it would creep me out too if it was someone i didn't know.
specially around here.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by Rin (aka Nire)
The other day I had an elderly man come in to my place of work and ask about a coworker. Apparently the man is a photographer and she'd agreed to pose nude for him. When I told him that she'd moved away quite some time ago (about two years), ... more
Maybe I'd be interested if I get paid
04/12/2012
Contributor: roskat roskat
It's a bit creepy to come into someone's work and ask that. But if the guy is a professional/serious hobbyist it might be just for the art. As a former art student I can say that for the artist there's really nothing sexual about drawing someone who happens to be nude.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Tangles Tangles
I would be creeped out if I didn't know the person or anything about their profession.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
if i were a girl. i would've punched them. but since i'm a guy...i would punch them. XD
04/12/2012
Contributor: Tork48309 Tork48309
Quote:
Originally posted by Antipova
I went with the 'a little disturbing, but whatever' option, and I definitely think you made the right response with the shudder-inwardly-and-p olite-decline. And then not giving him one whit of personal information. Depending on the vibe I ... more
Well said Antipova, I agree.
04/12/2012
Contributor: Various Various
It would really depend on the way the question was asked, but in most cases I would think it was creepy.
04/12/2012