Mine have been fairly supportive (in fact, my parents were relieved when I had my tubal), even if they don't understand how I could not be equipped with a maternal instinct. They accept it as "that's just how Chili is". I did "lose" a friend from junior high who contacted me on FB and wanted to reconnected because she was sure I'd have kids by now, and she was horrified that I didn't even want any ... she grew pretty distant after that.

One place I worked at had all the female employees pestering me to start making babies ("You've been married for seven years! You should have kids already!"). Any time one of them had a baby, they'd leave me to hold it on my break, which they would stretch into a half-hour of me holding their kid, and they'd come back and ask, "Any maternal feelings yet?" "No, but I think it messed it's diaper; your turn."

My friends with kids are okay with me - I've become the "Cool Aunt" type, so they have no problem with having me about. Although they're usually not available for hanging out because of family life, so the socializing is a bit limited. Nobody's resentful about it.

The most I heard before my tubal was "You'll fall in love with your baby when you finally hold it." My maternal grandmother never did, and she had four because it was expected of her - all of her children are in their 50's now and are still going to therapy because of having her for a mother. I wouldn't risk the "love at first site" gamble with a baby's well-being.

People are more sympathetic if there's a medical reason for not having children - there's always adoption so you can conform to society's expectations of normalcy. In the case of not wanting any, you're regarded with suspicion of not being human (good thing I'm already weird, so the vibes don't feel any differently to me).

Nope, not in any way.

I had the opposite problem. I was constantly talking about having a kid from about 18-24, much to the annoyance of my parents. Lately I had been going back and forth from wanting a baby so badly to feeling intimated by the whole pregnancy/raising a child thing, but I'm now pregnant so the deed is done.

I'm still young (I just turned 20) so I haven't felt any pressure or disapproval yet.

No they just pester me to get a boyfriend and get married, I'm sure after that happens I will have more pressure to have kids

Nope not yet.

Yep. I'm engaged and about to graduate college. My best friend has a 13 month old. I'm constantly hearing how I should have a kid now too.

I'm still young (19), so I'm not getting too much pestering about it yet. I often get asked when I'm going to get married and/or move in with my boyfriend though.

People sometimes pester me about having kids. My family doesn't because they know I don't like kids. A friend of mine tells me it'll probably get worse once I get married. She says once she got married people were constantly checking out her stomach and asking if she was pregnant yet. I think that is pretty nosy and rude. I would probably end up telling a few people off if I got a lot of it.

My mom hates that I don't want kids. She wants me to pass on my genetic material hardcore. My boyfriend's parents are also expecting us to have kids but I don't get that since when I went to see him they hated any idea of us having sex.

I know we're young but both of our parents have asked if we are planning kids in the future and I just can't see myself sharing my time between kids and him.

Also, I do have those "approaching 40" friends who are FREAKING OUT about having kids and I think those are the most annoying bunch of people I've ever met because when I say I don't want them and they have been trying to get preggers they give me nasty looks and I say "If you want my ovaries, take them."

my girl friend's friend asked me what I bought her for christmas. AFter she hoped I either got a wedding ring or had impregnated her even though I'm only making $12K.

no one has ever made it an issue for me my whole life & I'm now in my 50's and it can never happen now.