Partners- Have You Been With Too Many?

Contributor: LoveBug721 LoveBug721
I feel like I've been with too many partners because I only ever wanted to be with one person forever. That didn't happen. So I was wondering whats average?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
1-3 Partners
18  (40%)
4-6 Partners
12  (27%)
7-10 Partners
2  (4%)
11-15 Partners
2  (4%)
16-20 Partners
5  (11%)
21+
4  (9%)
I've never been with anyone.
2  (4%)
I don't know.
Total votes: 45
Poll is closed
05/25/2012
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Contributor: solitudinarian solitudinarian
Sexual partners or people you've been in a relationship with?
05/25/2012
Contributor: Geogeo Geogeo
I heard on the radio once about a study done on this and they said 12 partners was ideal, where you likely find the person you're best suited with if you've tested out others. I think being with only one person will make you wake up 20 years from now and say "wow, what did I miss out on?"
05/25/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I just found this article. This study says:

Number of Partners

Males 30-44 report an average of 6-8 female sexual partners in their lifetime (Mosher, Chandra, & Jones, 2005).
Females 30-44 report an average of 4 male sexual partners in their lifetime (Mosher, Chandra, & Jones, 2005).
3% of men have had zero sexual partners since the age of 18, 20% have had 1 partner, 21% have had 2-4 partners, 23% have had 5-10 partners, 16% have had 11-20 partners, and 17% have had 21 or more partners (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).
3% of women have had zero sexual partners since the age of 18, 31% have had 1 partner, 36% have had 2-4 partners, 20% have had 5-10 partners, 6% have had 11-20 partners, and 3% have had 21 or more partners (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).
20% of American men and 31% of American women have had one sex partner in their lifetime (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).
56% of American men and 30% of American women have had 5 or more sex partners in their lifetime (Laumann, Gagnon, Michael, Michaels, 1994).
05/25/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I'm going to go with the average, overall, is 10 and under.

Really, it's nothing to dwell on. Who cares how many people you have been with? Have fun, be safe, and do what you want.

I also found this. Which is fun just to click on. It compares your number to the average. It told me the average for females is roughly 6.6 in the US. Mine is higher because I've had 8. I decided to check males too. It says 11 is the average for them.

If you have time play around with the above link^. It even compares your penis size to the "average" size.
05/25/2012
Contributor: NarcissisticLust NarcissisticLust
Quote:
Originally posted by LoveBug721
I feel like I've been with too many partners because I only ever wanted to be with one person forever. That didn't happen. So I was wondering whats average?
I've had five sexual partners. Some were long-term monogamous relationships and others were short-lived. The person I am dating now has only had one sexual partner, me. Sometimes this makes me uncomfortable because I wonder if he is curious about other people. In addition, although I know this isn't true, I'm concerned he's be hurt by how many people I was with previous to him.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
Quote:
Originally posted by Beck
I just found this article. This study says:

Number of Partners

Males 30-44 report an average of 6-8 female sexual partners in their lifetime (Mosher, Chandra, & Jones, 2005).
Females 30-44 report an average of 4 male ... more
That is terribly interesting. Thanks for sharing that..
05/25/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
I've been with 4.
05/25/2012
Contributor: SaraW0512 SaraW0512
I have had 6 sexual partners. Some were relationships and others were just a play date.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
I've only had 3 partners...so far
05/25/2012
Contributor: M.O.'s Girl M.O.'s Girl
Six partners for me.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by LoveBug721
I feel like I've been with too many partners because I only ever wanted to be with one person forever. That didn't happen. So I was wondering whats average?
I've only had my girlfriend so far. We been together since freshman year in college.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
Well, don't I feel like a slut. I've had between 20 and 30 sex partners, and I'm in my early 20s. I had an oversexed phase in junior high and high school. In the past, say, 5 years, I've only had 2 partners, both of whom were/are significant others.

My significant other has had... he says, "well over a hundred" partners. He's in his early 40s.

Moral of the story: it really depends.
05/25/2012
Contributor: G&L G&L
I'm a rare find in this day and age I've been dating my wife since high school so I have only been with one person.
05/25/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Two. And I, like you, wanted to be with one person for the rest of my life, but that didn't work out too well. :-( I have nothing against people who've been with dozens or even hundreds of people, but for me, sex is about love and commitment.
05/26/2012
Contributor: sexystuffeve sexystuffeve
Quote:
Originally posted by LoveBug721
I feel like I've been with too many partners because I only ever wanted to be with one person forever. That didn't happen. So I was wondering whats average?
I have only been with one
05/26/2012
Contributor: Allison.Wilder Allison.Wilder
I kinda feel like a slut reading these 'averages'. I'm 26 and I've been with 17 people. I had a serious slut phase between partners. I've had 3 serious relationships in my sexual life. The rest of the guys were people that I was casual with until we reached my rule limit and I walked away.
05/26/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I didn't get married until 35 - so my number is pretty high - but I couldn't honestly say how high.
05/26/2012
Contributor: meezerosity meezerosity
2. I'm still young though. I don't think there is such a thing as too many, that is up to the individual. My best friend has had more than 20 and we are the same age but she engages in casual sex and one night stands while I prefer not to do so for my own reasons.
05/26/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by LoveBug721
I feel like I've been with too many partners because I only ever wanted to be with one person forever. That didn't happen. So I was wondering whats average?
The average when studied was 11 on average in 2006 or 2008 (I can't remember).
05/26/2012
Contributor: VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
I've only ever had one partner and I love it that way. But sometimes I wonder about having other relationships and how that would change my perception of things. I don't WANT to but I wonder about it.
05/26/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
3 for me I was an idealist when I was a teen and thought I'd save myself until I got married and I'd go to the US Virgin Islands on my honeymoon and loose my virginity. LOL; it didn't work out that way but each partner was a serious relationship and I wouldn't change it.
05/26/2012
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
I've been with five.
05/26/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
I've had two, my ex husband, and the man I married after him. I only ever wanted one, but I'm glad that I have the man I do now, and I created two beautiful children from my first marriage, so I can't complain too much.
05/26/2012
Contributor: LoveBug721 LoveBug721
Thanks everyone for sharing.
05/26/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
Never been with anyone
05/26/2012
Contributor: minakitten minakitten
17
05/26/2012
Contributor: Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
Quote:
Originally posted by LoveBug721
I feel like I've been with too many partners because I only ever wanted to be with one person forever. That didn't happen. So I was wondering whats average?
I would say that I haven’t been with to many, but in-fact I have been with the perfect amount, one… the man I love.
05/27/2012
Contributor: Upyourreviews Upyourreviews
I understand the feeling. I've been with 14 and also only wanted to be with one, but life didn't work out that way and I made a lot of mistakes in emotional moments.
05/28/2012
Contributor: aliceinthehole aliceinthehole
Quote:
Originally posted by LoveBug721
I feel like I've been with too many partners because I only ever wanted to be with one person forever. That didn't happen. So I was wondering whats average?
i've been with about 45.
05/28/2012