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Contributor: Nashville Nashville
I often think about the things I'll do.. and then the things I'll never do cross my mind. Over the years I've realized those "no ways" have turned into "maybes", although, I do have a few "nevers" that have yet to change.

How about you? What is one sexual thing you know for sure that you'd never do? Whether it be engage in a gangbang, swallow when giving head, have sex in public, or use a cucumber as a dildo, scat or urine play?
06/03/2009
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Contributor: Rose Unlocked Rose Unlocked
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Originally posted by Nashville
I often think about the things I'll do.. and then the things I'll never do cross my mind. Over the years I've realized those "no ways" have turned into "maybes", although, I do have a few "nevers" that have ... more
scat or urine play is a never and will always be a never to me
06/03/2009
Contributor: DreamyLove DreamyLove
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Originally posted by Rose Unlocked
scat or urine play is a never and will always be a never to me
I wholeheartedly agree with you! Ick...
06/03/2009
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
I have so changed and look forward to things that I have said, "no way": Anal, BDSM, swallowing cum are now all part of my life.
Scat, urine play, gang-bangs and some others are, never, and will probably always be; never.
Cucumber reminded me of one of my early toy experiences; it was rather pleasant, cool, and could also be pealed to fit but soon fell apart. Ah silicone, glass and steel.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
This will be a little "out there" coming from me, but mine is

beastiality

Once I went to a little party town in Mexico (YEARS ago when it was much safer), got drunk, and got tricked into walking into a donkey show. That image is permanently seared into my brain in a very unpleasant way.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
I could never, ever engage in any kind of piss/scat play. I am way too clean. Plus, the idea really doesn't turn me on.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Femme Mystique Femme Mystique
Ditto on the urine and scat play. I'd have to say no to asphyxiation too, which terrifies me.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
No scat, no piss, no animals. Never, ever.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Sammi Sammi
And no vomit play ever, either.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Avery Dragon Avery Dragon
Scat play is a never. i used to say that to many things but have changed my stance on a lot. many of the little kinks and fetishes i've got, but the most suprising for me was actually trying watersports. Not the heavy stuff mind you, but while in the shower with each other..I don't know, it feels like it's created a second sense of ownership.
06/03/2009
Contributor: the nibbler the nibbler
Blood, knife or needle play. Blood isn't sexy.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Champagne and Benzedrine (Roland Hulme) Champagne and Benzedrine (Roland Hulme)
I nearly threw up changing diapers, so how scat could POSSIBLY be sexy I can't understand. Women being done by tentacles or rottweilers belongs in cheesy Internet pornography or anime - it's WAY icky and animal cruelty in real life.

Apart from that - anything goes?
06/03/2009
Contributor: Red Red
Most of my "probably not"'s have become "yeps", but all of my "hard hard limits" have remained. But nope, never used a cucumber as a dildo and don't imagine I ever would. Could be fun in a scene, however....?

I heart watersports and bloodplay
06/03/2009
Contributor: Champagne and Benzedrine (Roland Hulme) Champagne and Benzedrine (Roland Hulme)
I used a banana on my wife, once... She was, like, 'what the hell?'

It was in a condom. STRONGLY recommended unless you want to become familiar with Monistat.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Backseat Boohoo Backseat Boohoo
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Originally posted by Champagne and Benzedrine (Roland Hulme)
I used a banana on my wife, once... She was, like, 'what the hell?'

It was in a condom. STRONGLY recommended unless you want to become familiar with Monistat.
Definitely. I would never shove food up in my business, just because I'm anal retentive like that, but if you're gonna do it, at least use a condom.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Oggins Oggins
Poop doesn't scare me because with anal play...sometimes there's poop and that doesn't bother me. It's just an oopsie rather than an ewww but, to be covered in it and frolicking about....umm, no thanks. Not my thing.

As far as golden showers, if I happen to get really excited and pee a bit, who cares? I haven't really experienced this yet but who knows as I age? Maybe I could be like the Gobblin Goo Granny and have some crazy, senile sex! =P Anyway, that aspect of pee doesn't bother me. HOWEVER, I don't want to be pee'd in by any means! That's ick!

Bloodplay doesn't scare me either and I'd be up for trying it. I can be a bit of a wuss though so.....yeah.

I would have to say that my all time never, ever, would also be beastilaity. A total "NO" in my book! A definite NEVAH!
06/03/2009
Contributor: Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by Oggins
Poop doesn't scare me because with anal play...sometimes there's poop and that doesn't bother me. It's just an oopsie rather than an ewww but, to be covered in it and frolicking about....umm, no thanks. Not my thing.

As far ... more
"Maybe I could be like the Gobblin Goo Granny and have some crazy, senile sex!"
That review was way too funny!!! But everytime I go into the nursing homes, I will think about that..hope I can hold it together while I'm there! An image stuck in my mind forever!! LOL
06/03/2009
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
In descending order: beastiality, blood play and electric play (needles, knives scares me like hell), asphyxiation, and urine/scat stuff (although I have no problem with feces dduring anal play).

I think using a fruit or vegetable for self-pleasure is actually pretty cool (using condoms of course) although I would never try it unless my partner was really turned on by it.

Our sex is not bland but we have not done much that is extremely kinky. I wish I could get a good spanking but my man would think I am weird to enjoy it.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Pumpkin Lady Pumpkin Lady
This freaky girl peed in front of me and a group once, onto a towel on the floor. She was super turned on by it, and I was pretty uncomfortable. It was one of those truth or dare games and she blew everyone out of the water.

Didn't like it then, won't like it in the future. Along with scat. Poop ain't sexy.

I said I'd never try anal but now I'm thinking about it. Some things change but some DO NOT.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Naughty Student Naughty Student
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Originally posted by Pumpkin Lady
This freaky girl peed in front of me and a group once, onto a towel on the floor. She was super turned on by it, and I was pretty uncomfortable. It was one of those truth or dare games and she blew everyone out of the water.

Didn't like it ... more
LOL, that reminds me of something I saw on tv. Some drunk woman was angry and peed on a side walk in front of a crowd outside a bar to show how much she disliked the city she was in (I think it was on a show called paparazzi). It's quite hilarious what people do under the effects of alcohol (or when they get "dared" to do something).

Was the girl peeing and saying "I am turned on right now" (which would make me feel awkward)bcs I am wondering how you knew she was turned on.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
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Originally posted by Sammi
And no vomit play ever, either.
Uhh.. yeah
No vomit for me either.

And I wasn't altogether pleased/turned on by the golden shower I received once. It was the smell more than anything I think.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
I think that my absolute limit is anything that could cause harm to my body. As long as something is relatively safe (nothing is 100% safe, after all) and will not cause permanent damage or disease, I try to keep an open mind. I say absolute no to scat play because it's unhygienic and I don't know of any way how it could be NOT, if that makes any sense. Same with vomit and urine. Foods do NOT go near my bits... but I hope to incorporate them into above-the-belt play someday. I'm also not that inclined to have sex in public places/on the beach/in a pool/in the ocean. Not so much that I'm worried about people catching us as I'm worried about bacteria. Beach sand harbors so many fecal bacteria!
06/03/2009
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
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Originally posted by Miss Cinnamon
I think that my absolute limit is anything that could cause harm to my body. As long as something is relatively safe (nothing is 100% safe, after all) and will not cause permanent damage or disease, I try to keep an open mind. I say absolute no to ... more
Not to mention abrasive! I shudder to think of the damage sand could cause if trapped between penis and vagina for very long.

If it involves something unhygienic (ie scat play, golden showers, vomit; also food near my lady bits) or blood, it is now and forever off limits. No gang-bangs, or sharing of partners; no public sex or sexual activities. No animals. No use of recreational pharmaceuticals. Also, nothing beyond vanilla sex if we're drunk. We somehow stumbled into messing around while tipsy once, and that was bad enough. (That experience delayed my forays into anal play for about a year)

Some things that have gone from no-ways to maybes and even yes: sex toys in general, gentle BDSM, anal play (on me by either or us, or on him), and role-playing have all fallen into the Yes category, while strapon sex has wandered into the maybe category.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Red Red
I will add something to the "nuh-uhs" - no head shaving. No disfiguration!

I feel I should pipe in to clarify something that might be misunderstood, judging from the wording used by a number of posters - urine, fresh from the body is virtually sterile, unless there is an underlying UTI...

scat, vomit, however...NOT AT ALL.

not trying to change anyone's mind or anything, just putting that out there.

I'm usually pretty good at "Well, that's just not my kink" but scat play freaks me RIGHT out. I one played with a woman (we did some single tailing, nothing more) who friended me on fetlife. Next think I know, my friend feed is filled with scat play stuff from her. It REALLY tested my ability to be tolerant - in the end I failed the tolerance test and de-friended her.

I try and understand WHY something does it for people when I have such a visceral response to a kink....but that one still defies explanation to me.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
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Originally posted by Red
I will add something to the "nuh-uhs" - no head shaving. No disfiguration!

I feel I should pipe in to clarify something that might be misunderstood, judging from the wording used by a number of posters - urine, fresh from the body ... more
Thanks for clarifying.
My issue with urine was that in my ONE experience, it was so smelly that it burned my nostrils.

Plus - there are so many other bodily fluids I'd roll with.

BTW:

No one has mentioned period play. Thoughts??
06/03/2009
Contributor: Luscious Lily Luscious Lily
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Originally posted by Not Here Anymore f/k/a Happy Lady
Thanks for clarifying.
My issue with urine was that in my ONE experience, it was so smelly that it burned my nostrils.

Plus - there are so many other bodily fluids I'd roll with.

BTW:

No one has mentioned period play. Thoughts??
What do you mean by period play? Continuing to do whatever sexual acts you usually do when you're having your period (as opposed to no sex or no oral till you're done bleeding), or analogous to scat play but with menstrual blood? It's not a type of play I know anything about, honestly.

Red: Thanks for the clarification. While my head knows that fresh urine is sterile, I guess I still have a deep, visceral freak-out response to sexual play involving bodily waste products, sterile or otherwise. (and even if you could sterilize feces, personally I still wouldn't want to use it for sexual play)
06/03/2009
Contributor: imp imp
Scat, vomit, pee and animals absolute no thank you. Ick. My limits on anal and breath play changed and embarking on needle play later this year, I like pushing my own fears.

Periods? I don't know about most other women but I get extremely horny around that time, just before and during. If a partner doesn't mind neither do I.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Pumpkin Lady Pumpkin Lady
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Originally posted by Naughty Student
LOL, that reminds me of something I saw on tv. Some drunk woman was angry and peed on a side walk in front of a crowd outside a bar to show how much she disliked the city she was in (I think it was on a show called paparazzi). It's quite ... more
Oh man, all the telltale signs of one being turned on, minus saying, "i'm turned on." Haha. Rubbin' the boobies, thrusting motions...it was a lot to take in as a young teenager! She must have been a pro.

I would, however, pee on something I didn't like in protest like that character. That's just awesome.
06/03/2009
Contributor: Carrie Ann Carrie Ann
I used to hate vomit. Then I was forced to vomit in a bag and go right on sucking that dick. It was wildly arousing.

Sure, it was smelly and kind of up my nose and my spit was nasty puke scented but the blow job was so loaded with power and force - which are my kinks - that it's now one of my favorite memories ever.

Of course that doesn't mean I want to be puked on as a way to get me hot. Lol.

I just think some things that are "ew, no way!" in most situations can be tolerated in others.

The whole kids, scat, animals limits aren't even worth mentioning to me cuz damned if almost everyone doesn't have them. And those who like that stuff? Usually know where to go to get it and aren't going to ask us.

It certainly IS amazing, though, how our boundaries shift and change as we gain more experience; be it in BDSM or sex in general, there are always things we can do to stretch ourselves and make it that wee bit more interesting...
06/04/2009
Contributor: Rockin' Rockin'
Wow, this is a great thread! I was reading along and am very glad Red pointed out the sterility of most urine. I'm not a watersports player, but I wouldn't be turned off by someone wanting to pee on me. I'd probably be non-erotically interested and want to be in a shower when it happened.

No scat. Yuck. I'm not freaked out by the poop residue sometimes associated with anal play, but it's certainly not a turn-on for me. Also no on animals. I love animals, just not like that.

Breath play seems inviting, but I'm kind of afraid of brain damage or just passing out in general. Anything involving blood seems risky, no matter how sterile everything is. I don't like tending to wounds. And I have enough scars. No more scars, please. No electric stuff, either.

I don't think my period arouses me or my partner, but we'll still go at it like usual (no oral for me, though, which is fine).
06/04/2009