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Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I'm in the process of moving from one location to another 4 hours away. It sucks. Between my partner and me, it's been packaging, driving, packing, writing checks, packing, and rearranging.

Are there any things you do to help make this transition less stressful? Any tips or things you wish you knew when moving like this? Do you have any crazy moving stories?
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Moving sucks
ImaGodiva , Lady of the Lab , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Lildrummrgurl7 , wicked48 , *Camoprincess* , gsfanatic , married with children , alliegator , VeganChick (is Gone) , karenm , Katelyn , Taylor , Rossie , Gunsmoke , evanescentowl , Virgingasms , ViVix , Stagger13 , Trysexual , padmeamidala , sexynola , Ansley , Hummingbird , Septimus , TiffanyW , BrittaniMaree , libbyv , The Vixen , Adnerbmw , sXeVegan90 , Catan , Ms. N , Sera26 , MsDrProfKitty , Dolphin Lady , Real or memorex , Bignuf , RonLee , SourAppleMartini , Marie Hanna , mpfm , TheirPet , treehugger , snowminx , Noelle , boxunderbed , Living Doll , novanilla , j765432
50
Moving isn't that bad
Woman China , SaucyxGirl , LoveX , Cosmonaut , Nezzie13 , PassionateLover2 , eri86 , Kitka , purpleflower1972 , Kitten B.
10
Do I have a story for you
ViVix , TiffanyW , Bignuf
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I don't have any stories (yet)
*Camoprincess* , gsfanatic , sunkissedJess , snowminx , Gamzee
5
CHINCHILLA!
Lady of the Lab , sXeVegan90 , U3H , .kaycat
4
Total votes: 72 (64 voters)
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06/11/2013
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Contributor: ImaGodiva ImaGodiva
IT JUST SUCKS. Really sucks.
06/11/2013
Contributor: Lady of the Lab Lady of the Lab
I recently moved from the East Coast to the Midwest and the physical aspect of packing & moving stunk.

What helped was using a deliverable storage container service rather than a U-Haul. I find renting/driving a U-Haul to be stressful, so loading up the container then letting the service drive it across country was less stressful.

Something I find that helps is getting rid/donating things because then you have slightly less to move.

I don't have any crazy moving stories (yet), but it was interesting driving/moving across country in a snowstorm.
06/11/2013
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I am with you Mwar. I have a long move ahead of me as well at the end of July. It is 6 hours from where I am. I had to do applications online then send the stuff back thru priority mail. Now I am approved for two places but none want to take money now or one has no apartments because the one I was supposed to get was given to someone else. I am pissed about that one. Then renting a truck and all the packing. I have started packing already. Next month is going to be a lot more packing then cleaning. I am not looking forward to it at all.
06/11/2013
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady of the Lab
I recently moved from the East Coast to the Midwest and the physical aspect of packing & moving stunk.

What helped was using a deliverable storage container service rather than a U-Haul. I find renting/driving a U-Haul to be stressful, so ... more
Containers would be nice to have, which I checked into but what they want and how much they want for the people to drive them for you. I don't have $2,000 dollars to give to someone else. Shoot I don't have $593 for the Budget truck I am getting but that beats what those company's want to charge you any day.

I also moved from the East Coast to the Midwest and now I had enough here and am going back East and down to the South.
06/11/2013
Contributor: SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
They key to moving without it actually sucking are as follows:
1. Prior to packing go through everything; Books, clothing, household items either donate what you don't use/want or hold a yard sale.
2.Pack non essentials first. Keeping only items that are needed every day for last.
3. Pay friends with Pizza and beer to help! (lol)

My best friend and I have helped each other pack and also clean up the new place. Normally while we were doing the cleaning at the new apartment the guys were loading the moving truck up.

For good moving boxes ask around at stores. A lot of them are more than helpful in this area and will hold on to them for you. Another plus to them is some of those boxes are designed to hold some weight.
06/11/2013
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
I complain bitterly in regards to moving, but I actually kind of like it. It is like getting food poisoning instead of needing to do a cleanse!!! Two-three days of hell and voila! You are magically better, cleaned from the inside out, and you've lost a couple pounds as well.

Moving... well when I pack, my mind goes crazy with organising. Clothes go into suitcases, and everything else into tote bins for each room. And anything that I have not worn in two years, get tossed. It is a harsh rule, but it saves room and weight fees as well!!!

When I moved my mother from our family home of 26 years, I followed this same rule with her, and she was so happy with the results. This way she had so much less clutter!!!

Unpacking for me is more hell than packing as I cannot seem to decide the new organisation and where to put everything.
06/11/2013
Contributor: Lady of the Lab Lady of the Lab
Quote:
Originally posted by PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Containers would be nice to have, which I checked into but what they want and how much they want for the people to drive them for you. I don't have $2,000 dollars to give to someone else. Shoot I don't have $593 for the Budget truck I am ... more
I don't remember it being that expensive for us... however it was slightly more expensive than U-Haul. I figured I would share it as something I've had success with.
06/11/2013
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady of the Lab
I don't remember it being that expensive for us... however it was slightly more expensive than U-Haul. I figured I would share it as something I've had success with.
U-Haul is always expensive then Budget. U-Haul I found is only good for in state moves or moving from one place to another. Budget is a lot cheaper for long distance trips.
06/11/2013
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Quote:
Originally posted by SaucyxGirl
They key to moving without it actually sucking are as follows:
1. Prior to packing go through everything; Books, clothing, household items either donate what you don't use/want or hold a yard sale.
2.Pack non essentials first. Keeping only ... more
I agree I have a few friends in mind that I can pay with beer and cigarettes and they will be happy.

For moving boxes I have got some totes and I have saved every single Eden box I have got and have packed stuff in those. They come in handy.
06/11/2013
Contributor: wicked48 wicked48
Moving definitely sucks. Thankfully I have friends that will help me when you give them beer and pizza!
06/11/2013
Contributor: tami tami
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
I'm in the process of moving from one location to another 4 hours away. It sucks. Between my partner and me, it's been packaging, driving, packing, writing checks, packing, and rearranging.

Are there any things you do to help make ... more
I only keep things for a year, well if I do not use it after a year has gone by it is thrown out or given away. The less stuff I have hanging around the less stuff I have to pack. Moving is best done all in one shot, good luck
06/11/2013
Contributor: VeganChick (is Gone) VeganChick (is Gone)
I totally agree. Moving sucks!! My advice is to practice radical acceptance, a very helpful DBT skill. That, and proper planning and packing.

Read here.
06/11/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
It's just a lot of work, but as long as you break it up into chunks it can be done
06/11/2013
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Sucks - mostly the transportation part for me. And the fiance wants to move to another country in about two or three years!
06/11/2013
Contributor: LoveX LoveX
I don't mind moving. I don't want to do it every month or even every year. But the few time I have moved, it wasn't to bad. I am an overly organized person, and I keep nothing that I don't use regularly. That seemed to help the most. I just had to put all my stuff in boxes, in the truck & trailer, and then unload and put it in the new house.
06/11/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
moving sucks. and it only gets worse when you start having kids.
06/11/2013
Contributor: alliegator alliegator
Before moving, get rid of everything you don't really need. Try to use boxes that are the same size, it makes stacking them easier. Don't overpack boxes, especially books, because they can get really heavy fast.
06/11/2013
Contributor: Cosmonaut Cosmonaut
I moved from:
1. East coast to West coast.
2. West coast to East coast
3. East coast to West coast.

Roughly 2.5K miles each.

We saw a lot of cool things and places on the way =) Also, we were almost robbed/murdered near Juarez while getting gas. Avoid that area like the plague.
06/11/2013
Contributor: karenm karenm
I've moved states and countries several times. And no matter how much you prepare, it always really sucks.

My main tip is to try to compress clothes down in space bags or just plastic bags that you push the air out of. It saves a ton of space. Also, I read that you should try to put heavy things (like books) in suitcases rather than boxes to make sure the boxes don't rip and you don't hurt your back.
06/11/2013
Contributor: Nezzie13 Nezzie13
My family has always been able to move in a single day. We begin packing after we've decided on the new place. On moving day, we get a U-Haul, call up some friends, and we're good to go.
06/11/2013
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
I hate moving -- that's why we don't move around much.
06/11/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
As a young person I moved a lot - then I moved 3x in 6 year intervals (over 18 years). We've been in our current home for nearly 15 years - and hope to be here about 5 more - it's going to be a huge hassle!
06/12/2013
Contributor: PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
I left it to the pros and just enjoyed the drive to the new abode!
06/12/2013
Contributor: evanescentowl evanescentowl
Quote:
Originally posted by Cosmonaut
I moved from:
1. East coast to West coast.
2. West coast to East coast
3. East coast to West coast.

Roughly 2.5K miles each.

We saw a lot of cool things and places on the way =) Also, we were almost robbed/murdered near Juarez ... more
Same here! Except the robbing part. Everything has gone smoothly. My parents just like to turn moving into a forced family vacation. Last time we stopped in Vegas while it was 105 degrees out. As someone underaged (I was 17 at the time) there was nothing to do... oi.
06/12/2013
Contributor: eri86 eri86
I've only moved once on my own. I loaded and my van and drove. But I left a lot of stuff behind. I'm still not sure if this move is a permanent one yet.
06/12/2013
Contributor: Virgingasms Virgingasms
I just helped a friend move a couple months ago. All the folding boxes and figuring out what'll fit where and making sure nothing breaks was a pain.
06/12/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
I'm in the process of moving from one location to another 4 hours away. It sucks. Between my partner and me, it's been packaging, driving, packing, writing checks, packing, and rearranging.

Are there any things you do to help make ... more
Moving sucks...especially when I've help to move my sister 4 times or so in the last 2 years. One time, I showed up and she was laying on the floor. Her child was running around in a soaking wet diaper, and nothing had been packed. She was supposed to be out that day. She hadn't even fed the baby. I fed both her child and mine, got her child dressed, packed everything, moved everything from the first place to the second, and also set a lot of it up. Anyway, when I look back on that moment, I realize that it was more than laziness or being overwhelmed that made her act like that. She clearly has a bigger underlying problem that needs professionally dealt with.
06/12/2013
Contributor: Stagger13 Stagger13
Quote:
Originally posted by Mwar
I'm in the process of moving from one location to another 4 hours away. It sucks. Between my partner and me, it's been packaging, driving, packing, writing checks, packing, and rearranging.

Are there any things you do to help make ... more
Moving would be one of the things in life I hate the most-The only positive side would be it helps you clear out old stuff you don't want/need anymore. The thought of moving boxes you have not opened in years seems counter productive and usually motivates me to get rid of junk.
06/12/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
I have moved SO MANY times...it sucks more and more every time. I've done long moves and short moves...they all blow. Packing is definitely worse than unpacking. It is a good opportunity to take inventory of stuff and ask yourself "Do I really need to keep this?".

I find when you move often, you find possessions to be burdensome, in the sense of physically having a lot of stuff and re-evaluate things. Sometimes, I wish I could just live with whatever fits in my car.
06/12/2013