I just saw something on FB (I went to find out more about the Eden discount code, and got sidetracked.)

It was a "share" to help with someone's "Honeymoon Fund." "We're getting married this date, and can't afford a honeymoon. Please donate to our honeymoon fund here." WTF? Not only do I not KNOW these people (it was put in my wall by someone who obviously knows them or knows someone who knows them) but, damn, My Man and I didn't actually have a honeymoon. Or not really. We couldn't afford it. So... we didn't have one. We went to Lake Geneva (less than 100 miles from our house) for three days, and saved what money we had to help pay for our house to live in.

What ever happened to "buy the bride and groom a gift IF you go to the wedding and they have to pay for anything above and beyond that." ?

I have to say, I've seen some mercenary things in recent years, but this is the icing on this cake. I don't KNOW these people! Even if I did, I would somehow either ignore their pathetic begging or let them know IF I was coming to the wedding, their wedding gift would be a regular wedding gift. If it was money, they, of course, could use it for whatever they wanted. But, shit. BEGGING on Facebook to people you don't even know for money for a vacation. We haven't had a vacation in several years, because of the economy. So, we don't go on trips we can't afford.

Is this the end all and be all? Did I mention, I don't even KNOW these people?

I almost wanted to put a comment on the post like: "This is a joke, right?" But, I didn't. I just ignored it.

Shee-it. less

My understanding, from the article I read on it yesterday, is that because so many couples live together before they get married that they've already purchased the gifts you would traditionally find on a registry. I don't think it's a terrible idea, but I definitely think there's a certain way to go about it and that you still have a list of items for people to purchase (if they want to and are invited to the ceremony) if they don't want to contribute to a honeymoon for the couple. less

totally NOT what I thought of when I read "mercenary wedding"!

I think it's a be tactless to do this, but times are changing, I guess. I'd never do it, but I can see where some people would.

It's a hard world for the twenty and thirty somethings looking to get married. The job market tanked just when a LOT of people my age were finishing degrees for jobs that no longer existed. More people are moving back in with there parent's and have more debt to boot!

If I knew them, I'd give them $20 and call it good. If you didn't know them...ignore it. You don't know them and they don't know you. less

I'm not least bit surprise. There seems to be a hitherto unheard of sense of entitlement. Everyone seems that they are entitled to a bailout - either by friends, family or complete strangers - even taxpayers.

If someone wants to contribute, that's their prerogative. But they should understand that they are encouraging dependent behavior.

I wish the couple no ill will - but my estimation is that this marriage cannot last. If they are both that lazy and dependent - who's going to bring home the bacon? less

WTF??? What will people think of next??? No, I don't think I want to know. How about, "Lazy, irresponsible, don't want to work or earn my way...please pay it for me."

I think if you are 'responsible' enough to get married you should be responsible enough to budget for it, not ask people for handouts. less

totally NOT what I thought of when I read "mercenary wedding"!

I think it's a be tactless to do this, but times are changing, I guess. I'd never do it, but I can see where some people would.

It's a hard world for the twenty and thirty somethings looking to get married. The job market tanked just when a LOT of people my age were finishing degrees for jobs that no longer existed. More people are moving back in with there parent's and have more debt to boot!

If I knew them, I'd give them $20 and call it good. If you didn't know them...ignore it. You don't know them and they don't know you. less

totally NOT what I thought of when I read "mercenary wedding"!

I think it's a be tactless to do this, but times are changing, I guess. I'd never do it, but I can see where some people would.

It's a hard world for the twenty and thirty somethings looking to get married. The job market tanked just when a LOT of people my age were finishing degrees for jobs that no longer existed. More people are moving back in with there parent's and have more debt to boot!

If I knew them, I'd give them $20 and call it good. If you didn't know them...ignore it. You don't know them and they don't know you. less