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Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
Some people believe making love, having sex and fucking are all the same while others believe the three are all different and unique in their own way.

How do you believe?
Do you have all three forms of intercourse?
List the three ways of having intercourse in your preferred order...please
04/01/2013
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Contributor: captainsgirl captainsgirl
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Some people believe making love, having sex and fucking are all the same while others believe the three are all different and unique in their own way.

How do you believe?
Do you have all three forms of intercourse?
List the three ways ... more
i believe they are all different.
sex to me is like a quickie
fucking to me is hard core and dirty talk
and love making is when its passionate and sweet.
04/01/2013
Contributor: SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
In our sex life they are three TOTALLY different things.

Our preferred order is:
1. Fucking
2. Sex
3. Love Making

It's funny to me that I ask him to make love to me, but then I turn it into hardcore fucking...I guess I just like him to bend me over, pull my hair, call me a dirty fucking slut, and then cum in my face! I use to enjoy making love...but now I prefer to be a whore for him
04/01/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
They are all different things.

Making love - Passionate. Slow, involving foreplay and taking your time. Focusing more on the needs of your partner than your own.

Having sex - Doesn't have a lot of foreplay, isn't strongly connected, strictly just to get off.

Fucking - Fast and hard. Not emotionally connected, focusing only on your own pleasure.

This is how it is in OUR sex life, that doesn't mean it's like that for everyone.
04/01/2013
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
Quote:
Originally posted by captainsgirl
i believe they are all different.
sex to me is like a quickie
fucking to me is hard core and dirty talk
and love making is when its passionate and sweet.
well said.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Hummingbird Hummingbird
Martiniman, your forum questions are always so interesting!

Making love is always preferred, my very top choice, being together with my SO, caressing, touching, pleasuring him just as he pleasures me, what could be better?
Fucking is great when the craving to be together is so great that taking the time to make love takes too long but is wonderful because its more spur of the moment.
Sex to me is solo play and while I do enjoy it and it gets me through the in-between times of partner play it is always my last choice.
04/01/2013
Contributor: jennifur77 jennifur77
Definitely different.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Sbmsvschoolgirl Sbmsvschoolgirl
I think there are different feelings and emotions involved with each.
04/01/2013
Contributor: peachmarie peachmarie
I don't think we ever "make love" it's mostly "have sex" I think i'd like "make love" but that's not where were at right now.
04/01/2013
Contributor: KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
They are all different things.

Making love - Passionate. Slow, involving foreplay and taking your time. Focusing more on the needs of your partner than your own.

Having sex - Doesn't have a lot of foreplay, isn't strongly ... more
That's how my boyfriend and I see it too! We usually make love, but sometimes just need a good fucking. Having sex is for when we are both in a rush and just need a release.

Since we are into cuckolding, I count activities with other men as fucking. It's purely for pleasure; there isn't really a connection between us, other than physical attraction. I'm often friends with the guys, so we get along well, but there isn't a loving relationship attached.
04/01/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
making love is our go to activity in the bedroom. Even after 20 years, we still make love like we were in a brand new relationship.
04/01/2013
Contributor: BlackCherry BlackCherry
Being a bit of a literature nerd here, while I'd certainly say that while the words have different connotations and bring to mind different feelings, all in all, they're really the same thing.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Chelynn67 Chelynn67
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Some people believe making love, having sex and fucking are all the same while others believe the three are all different and unique in their own way.

How do you believe?
Do you have all three forms of intercourse?
List the three ways ... more
I think they are all different and all can be great
04/01/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Sex for us is recreation - so I'd say we 'have sex'. Sometimes we'll cuddle afterwards - and that feels like 'making love'. We don't do wham-bam-thank-you-maa m fucking - it's just never been our style.
04/02/2013
Contributor: mpfm mpfm
They are all different to me. I've been married over 20 years and we do it all.

Making love is passionate and with lots of foreplay. Emotional connection is strong.

Having sex is just get it done. Might be mechanical and routine. Emotional connection is optional.

Fucking is hard and fast and wild. Emotional connection is optional.
04/02/2013
Contributor: raffi raffi
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
They are all different things.

Making love - Passionate. Slow, involving foreplay and taking your time. Focusing more on the needs of your partner than your own.

Having sex - Doesn't have a lot of foreplay, isn't strongly ... more
yes, i agree with this exactly!

my sex life consists of all three of these levels, but mostly making love
04/02/2013
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
Quote:
Originally posted by BlackCherry
Being a bit of a literature nerd here, while I'd certainly say that while the words have different connotations and bring to mind different feelings, all in all, they're really the same thing.
Exactly.
04/02/2013
Contributor: never shy never shy
To me they all mean sex I love having sex fucking making love whatever you want to call it
04/02/2013
Contributor: Adnerbmw Adnerbmw
Id have to say that i agree the three are totally different. for us its
Fucking
love making
Sex
they are totally different, though making love usually turns into fucking.
04/02/2013
Contributor: twelve13 twelve13
In my mind,
Making love has feelings and passion involved. It's slow and sweet.
Having sex is a general term I use for all forms of sex.
Fucking is more rough. BDSM could be involved.

I like a good mixture of making love and fucking. I fuck much more often than make love.
04/02/2013
Contributor: Msmueller Msmueller
I believe they are all different

I think that making love has emotion and is more of a connected sexual experience where having sex is a little more detached and fucking is just having no feelings for the person.

I prefer them in the love, sex, fucking order
04/02/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
I think "having sex" is just the basic act, without much (if any) passion or affection. "Making love" is more affectionate, and "fucking" is passionate.

We fuck about 2/3 of the time and make love almost all of the rest of the time.
04/02/2013
Contributor: Real or memorex Real or memorex
I don't go by these distinctions, mainly because I think "making love" sounds like a cheesy phrase. I refer to all sex as "sex" or "fucking" regardless of the style.
04/03/2013
Contributor: babyrock babyrock
They're all different to us and it depends on the mood which we like the most.

Sex is definitely the least mentally detached one, so the longer sessions usually involve making love or fucking.
04/29/2013
Contributor: misskat misskat
This is what I always say to him...(and we are monogamous)

Sex is when one of us is horny and wants to get laid

Making love is when we want the other one because we love them

Fucking is when we're going fast and hard

I don't like the term "making love." It's just been made so cheesy.
05/01/2013
Contributor: Chastity Darling Chastity Darling
They are different in my eyes..

When I say I wanna fuck I want it hard and dirty, when I say something along the lines of "make love" I want is slow and sensual, and having sex to me is more like a quickie just to make us both cum.
05/01/2013
Contributor: DolphinGirl DolphinGirl
The general act is the same, but the mood and vibe is different. Fucking is more carnal and aggressive, while making love is passionate and intimate. I love both!
05/01/2013
Contributor: Bme Bme
I think of it as two acts either making love or f*cking. Making love is gentle, loving and involves a lot of foreplay and centers around the other's pleasure. F*cking is more assertive and getting down to business.
05/04/2013