The New Intimacy

Are there any loves from your past you think MIGHT have been a mistake to NOT get more serious with? Do you ever try to find out what happened to them?

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Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
I know a number of friends and co-workers, now with social media, have tried to find out what happened to old girlfriends or boyfriends. In some cases, they still have the hots (in their mind) for that person, and think they SHOULD have kept them closer.

How about YOU? Any old flame still smoldering deep in your soul? Do you ever wonder what became of them?
10/10/2011
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Contributor: carenautilus carenautilus
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I know a number of friends and co-workers, now with social media, have tried to find out what happened to old girlfriends or boyfriends. In some cases, they still have the hots (in their mind) for that person, and think they SHOULD have kept them ... more
That's a really interesting question! There aren't any exes I wish I'd stayed with, but I do wish I'd stayed in contact with a certain someone.

We met backstage, and he was lovely. He had curly hair and dark eyes and we hit it off immediately. We had lots of very good sex for a few weeks, and then he moved out of state. It wasn't a heartrending blow, and the relationship had always been casual, but I liked and respected him. And I sometimes wish I had made the effort to stay connected after he moved away.
10/10/2011
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
They were all fairly toxic people, so I don't think that's something I would be interested in doing. If I did ever find myself looking up someone on the internet it would be to see if they were a success or had failed in their endeavors. Either way, I don't think it would change how I feel about them as human beings.
10/10/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I wouldn't redate any of my exes, but sometimes I wonder what would have happened if my (now) best friend and I gave it a chance back in high school when I was dating another guy and he was pursuing me. The guy I dated ended up being a total loser, but I never gave my friend a chance and I regret that b/c he's pretty AWESOME!!!!!
10/10/2011
Contributor: FaerieLove FaerieLove
Yes, my highschool sweet heart. I never EVER got over him. We split about 3 years ago... And it turns out, that we both were still hung up on each other. So much so that we're now getting married next summer
10/10/2011
Contributor: Rarity Rarity
I have one painful regret that I harbour. I've been trying to let it go but it comes back to snip me in the butt.
10/10/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I don't have any old flames I wish I'd stayed with, I still have good friendships with a few of them, and no regrets about the rest. If I'd stayed with any of them I wouldn't be with the man I'm with now, and I'm happy where I am, so I don't entertain what-ifs.
10/10/2011
Contributor: darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I'm still friends with one, the other one, I don't particularly care what happens to him. I don't ever really think about them. I'd prefer to think about now or the future.
10/10/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Nope. I don't miss any of them. In fact, when I think about them and the relationships I had, I think "good riddance". lol I did learn a lot, but I sure don't miss them or wonder what they're up to.
10/10/2011
Contributor: NaughtyNikkie NaughtyNikkie
great topic !!

I am happily married now & have been for almost 2 years (11/9), that "someone" I do still talk to. We were friends before we dated, were together 4 1/2 yrs & have been friends since. 10 years later after the day we met we still talk. Do I wonder what could have been?! Not anymore, it ended in a heartbreak that I couldn't handle & I was left with harsh feelings for him so I vanished one day without a word, moved 800 miles away. He followed & tried to "fix" it but when you leave you future wife in a hospital alone having a late miscarrage (sp?) to go wait for your cousins baby to be born it hit hard & I couldn't forgive him... So that's that, I know what was & what wouldn't have been so that was enough for me
10/10/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by Bignuf
I know a number of friends and co-workers, now with social media, have tried to find out what happened to old girlfriends or boyfriends. In some cases, they still have the hots (in their mind) for that person, and think they SHOULD have kept them ... more
Our first girlfriend I miss everyday and totally regret letting her go. She was the only other woman Sigel ever loved and we always wonder what hapened to her...the break up was so bad that her parents won't tell us anything exept that she's happier away from us.
10/10/2011
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
Good question here!

In a way, there is one girl I miss often, but I wouldn't trade what I have now for what I had then because there was a reason we didn't stay together in the first place.

As for the rest of them, we've almost all stayed friends, but same situation, I left for a reason in every situation. So no, I can't say I wish I'd stayed with someone from my past. I am too happy with the way things are now. Not to mention, I did too much "staying around" back then, and only ended up bringing myself down because of it.
10/11/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
I have, yes. Quite a few instances. I've had an annoying habit of going out with women (most of them I could see getting serious with) who suddenly become wildly successful and move away after only a few months. So either I've got bad breath, or the magic touch. *Touches self* Nope. Ain't magic.
10/11/2011
Contributor: KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
I really rather not go back, I have the best man I could of asked for
10/11/2011