Love and loss (a sad story of the loss of my pet this evening)

Contributor: Peggi Peggi
Tonight is a sad night...and who better to understand and help pick me up than this incredible community?

As some of you who have known either my hubby or I might know, we had a BEAUTIFUL grey and white cat named Stormy. Let me tell you all about this two-colored beauty.

When she was barely weened she and her brother were given away to homes. I adopted her brother, Oreo, who was a lovely shiny black and white. My ex-husband adopted Stormy. He and his family were pretty mean to her, and she lived under a bed because they allowed their dogs to attack her and terrify her. She was flicked in the face for doing "cat" things, like laying in the laundry basket or jumping on the computer desk for attention. She had a crooked nose, because she got flicked too hard as a kitten, and it never went back to normal.

My Oreo passed away in January of 2008, and a few weeks later, the ex's family insisted that if we wanted her, we take her then and there or she was going to the pound for peeing on their clothes (due to, oh, maybe the litter box only being cleaned every few WEEKS?! I would pee on the clothes too!).

We took her. No questions about it, she was to be ours. So, a couple of years later, I met the hubby. The first time my hubby ever came to visit my house after we had begun dating, she took to him INSTANTLY. Due to her upbringing, she was afraid of strangers, yet there are a rare few who she INSTANTLY takes to.

She became "daddy's girl", and from the moment he moved in with us, we were a happy little family.

This evening, Stormy crossed over to the rainbow bridge. She would've been 8 years old on October 25th. She was a tiny little cat, she stayed very little and looked like she was only perhaps a year old. She was a very sweet lap cat.

She had something called mitral-valve prolapse. This is a type of heart condition, which she and her brother both had. It was the same thing that Oreo had passed away from, and it was unexpected in all accounts for her to pass.

She fell over, shook a few times, and she was gone. I watched her shake, I tried to clear her airway and make sure she didn't have something in her throat (I didn't want to believe I was watching this happen...AGAIN!), thought she was faking it, didn't want to believe she was really sick...

I didn't even have time to look up the number for the 24 hour veterinarian, before she lost life. I held her tiny body in my arms, still in shock. I told my hubby what had happened, and we both cried.

Our other cat, who Stormy was like a surrogate mother to, is also feeling it. She is restless and won't allow us to comfort her. She did come to me and lay on me for a brief time, but I think she is also missing her friend.

RIP Stormy, I love and miss you terribly!

10.25.04-06.09.12


This was taken just today, while she lay on my lap:

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Contributor: Peggi Peggi
You all will have to excuse the terrible grammar, I'm still not straight in the head right now, this only happened a few hours ago.

Also, we are having her cremated on Monday, as were our other 2 cats previously.
06/10/2012
Contributor: ghalik ghalik
Oh, I'm so sorry. I had a cat die of mitral valve prolapse too. She looks so sweet. Hugs to you and your other cat.
06/10/2012
Contributor: meezerosity meezerosity
I'm sorry Stormy is beautiful. I lost my first cat, a Siamese, at only 9 years old. He was diabetic and his liver and kidneys failed. This was 08 and I still miss him.
06/10/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Peggi--I am so very sorry about your loss!! I lost my old kitty a month ago and both of our older Shi Tzus a couple months ago and on Tuesday. I am so very sad for you and know how much this hurts. I am just glad you were there for her as she passed so she was not alone and scared. You guys gave her so much love and a good, safe life and I know she loved you so much for finally being safe and loved. HUGE HUGS and a shoulder to cry on!! You both have my deepest sympathies!
06/10/2012
Contributor: Annemarie Annemarie
I, too, understand your loss. I just had to put down my dog, Simba, about a month ago due to congestive heart disease which came on very suddenly. He was 9 years old.

I had him cremated as well. He lives on the coffee table now.

06/10/2012
Contributor: VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
Oh this is so sad! I'm so sorry for your loss. I have a kitty and I've had her since she was a little kitten when me and my boyfriend first started going out. We used to lay together with the baby kitten on my tummy while we talked a lot. She's a big part of our life. She's like our cat baby and I can't imagine what I would do without her. This makes me so sad. Hopefully, remembering that your kitty had a wonderful life while it lasted will make you feel better.
06/10/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I'm so sorry for your loss, Peggi. I understand the bond that we can build with our pets. I remember losing my beloved cat Oreo and how hard that was. Still to this day, almost 7 years later, I think of her from time to time. Stormy looks so precious and beautiful in the picture and I know she appreciated you for giving her such a loving, safe home. (())
06/10/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
Aww Peggi, I am so sorry for your loss! Stormy is certainly a beautiful girl, and I am so happy that she was able to have such a happy, wonderful life with you, your husband, and your other sweet kitty. Sounds like she was a good judge of characters, eh? It's such a comfort to have someone in our lives that we can really count on like that. I know you will all be feeling that void for quite some time.

I lost my dog about 3 months ago, and my poor kitty is taking the loss very deeply as well. Strangely, I found comfort in grieving the loss with him, we shared the same pain, and equally missed our big ol' guy. He is finally starting to come to terms with the loss, but we've spent lots of extra time together. Kitties can sometimes be so stoic, but they do have very tender hearts in those little furry bodies, and their love runs very deep.

I'll be thinking of you and your family, and hoping that one day, when you remember Stormy and her lovable ways - those memories will bring more smiles than tears.

In the meantime, please take care of each other. Grieving is hard work for a body!

06/10/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
Tonight is a sad night...and who better to understand and help pick me up than this incredible community?

As some of you who have known either my hubby or I might know, we had a BEAUTIFUL grey and white cat named Stormy. Let me tell you all ... more
Oh dear, so sorry that this happened. She was gorgeous.
06/10/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
='< That's awful, I had to watch my Gypsy pass in a similarly quick way.
About the only thing that helped me much aside from my boyfriend saying about the sweetest thing ever (told me that when we get to really spend time together I could consider his Link to be my kitty as well) was knowing that she didn't have to suffer long.

Just try to picture your kitty hanging out in the cat version of heaven with a swimming pool of milk, all the tuna she can eat, and a well dressed dog for a butler. Remembering all the special things she did with you, and how you gave her a happy life while she was with you will help too.

When Gypsy passed I didn't have a way to really mark her little grave so I took to GIMP and turned one of my favorite pictures I had of her into a memorial and put it up on dA (and her facebook page), dunno why that made me feel better but it did help a bit.
06/10/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
AWE! I'm sorry to hear about your kitty. My inbox is open if you want to chat.
06/10/2012
Contributor: spineyogurt spineyogurt
Poor kittty
06/10/2012
Contributor: lovekink lovekink
I am so sorry to hear this. A few years back my pit bull died and I was so upset. She went everywhere with me and the rest of the family. About a week after she died I went and had her portrait tattooed on my back. Now she goes everywhere with me. I'm really sorry cause I know how much our pets mean to us.
06/10/2012
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
Thank you ALL for your kind words, and for sharing your pet-loss stories with me! It definitely did help a lot, just knowing that someone out there, even people I have never met in person, care so much about the loss of a loved one.



It means the world to me to know that I have so much love and support, my hubby and I were reading your comments last night before bed, and believe it or not, it was a big comfort.
06/10/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I only just came across this, and I offer condolences as well. They're always our babies. *hugs*
06/10/2012
Contributor: Gracie Gracie
I am so sorry! What a sad thing! I dont really know you, but I feel sad for your loss!
06/10/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Sorry to learn about Stormy. I'm not good with consoling words, all I can say is she's had several wonderful years with you and your husband, and that's probably the most important and happiest thing for her.
06/10/2012
Contributor: SimpleTeaser SimpleTeaser
I'm so sorry for the loss of your furbaby.
06/10/2012
Contributor: Tuesday Tuesday
I'm so sorry to hear this. I lost one of my cats of 13 years suddenly just two weeks ago. My husband stepped out for a few minutes and when he came back in, he was motionless at the bottom of the stairs with thick foam and lots of saliva coming out of his mouth. I don't know what happened to him.
06/10/2012
Contributor: LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
I'm so sorry to hear this Peggy! I know the feeling...I lost my dog that I had since I was a little girl to stomach cancer...I nearly flunked out of high school that year because of it. Not to mention, my Hamster that I posted a picture of in the pets thread a while back died on June 3...I guess that's another reason why I've been so moody over here.

Just know that you made Stormy's life worthwhile. Stormy was a happy cat that had a wonderful and loving family. Do your best to try and think about that and all the good times you and your family shared with her.

And here's some liquor in honor of our deceased best pet pals.
06/11/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Aww, no . This made me tear up. I'm such a big animal lover, like really bad! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Such a beautiful kitty . I always say it isn't fair that they can't live long lives like we do. I have never lost a close human family member so the loss of my dog 2 years ago really got to me. I had him for 16yrs. Toward the end I just kind of knew and would come home at night and lay down next to his bed and just hold his paw and pet him and talk to him. I really thought I was going to have one more summer with him, one more summer taking him to his favorite dairy queen where they make "doggie sundaes". He had a stroke and was completely out of it, he lost control of his bowels, couldn't walk much at all. It was heart breaking to watch it happen that day. I didn't want to go but I wanted him to know how much I love him and that I'm here so I went to the vet when he was put down and held him long after he was gone and just cried. While they were injecting him I just kept petting and kissing him and telling him he is a good boy and I love him. I still tear up recalling that day. We had him cremated and they gave me his little paw print impression in clay with his name. I ordered a necklace online that I found of an angel dog and there is a spot to put ashes in the back. My fiance bought me a stuffed weenie dog and I put Bo's collar on it. It is in bed with me every night still.

It is hard losing someone you love so much. It will get better but you still might cry from time to time (I do). We haven't got another dog yet but I have 3 cats. Maybe a stuffed animal that looks like Stormy will help you heal? It really helped me even though it sounds kinda childish.

Just remember that you made so many years of her life happy and full! You rescued her and that is the best gift that sweet cat could've gotten. I can't stand people that abuse animals. I just want to knock them around! How can you be so cruel to someone that will still love you minuets later and depends on you? ugh, people!

Be happy for the time you had to give her love and attention and spoil her like all animals deserve. Oh geez, now I'm crying . Soooo sorry hun
06/11/2012
Contributor: LadyDarknezz LadyDarknezz
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Originally posted by Zombirella
Aww, no . This made me tear up. I'm such a big animal lover, like really bad! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Such a beautiful kitty . I always say it isn't fair that they can't live long lives like we do. I have never lost a ... more
I actually have a stuffed animal that looks like my beloved dog that died when I was in high school...It really does help and I agree that it's an excellent suggestion. I, too, thought it was childish at first, but I realized that I still love stuffed animals to this day. I don't think we ever can get too old for them since they have such sentimental value. I'm so sorry about your doggie. I truly understand where you're coming from. I still to this day cry about it and it's been almost a decade. I had her ever since I was a baby.

Here's a group hug for you, too, sweetie!
06/11/2012