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misterazor
do you lie to your partner sometimes if it's harmless and makes them feel better?
example..."do my ankles look thick?" absolutely not! (even though they might look a little big) example..."so, you don't mind that i'm
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do you lie to your partner sometimes if it's harmless and makes them feel better?
example..."do my ankles look thick?" absolutely not! (even though they might look a little big) example..."so, you don't mind that i'm balding?" of course not...you look distinguished.
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Thought about voting "no, I never lie even if it makes them cry," but I realized then you'd just know for sure I was a liar! Haha.
I really don't like dishonesty and I do not lie to my loved ones except for sometimes. I have lied to keep from hurting someone -- not to hide some betrayal I've comitted, but if someone I love or am friends with is getting hurt really badly and if I told them for example, "yes, you are single because you are a high maintenance, picky butthole," then it would be mean and hurt them. I've lied about things like when one of my loved ones asks if I want something and I just don't want to burden them. Actually, that is the only lie I tell my partner. I really try to be as honest as possible, and I actually am very honest, but there are things I lie about. I won't betray someone, but I've lied to my partner when he asks if I'm in pain and I don't want him to worry or if I want something (food, drink) and I don't want him to have to fix it. He knows this most of the time and says "I can't trust you because you lie thinking you'll make things easier, so I'll just start doing it for you." He asked if I wanted him to bring me coffee from McDonald's the other night. I said no, but really wanted him to! LOL. So he says now he doesn't know if I'm telling the truth when I say I don't want something.
Those are not lies that hurt someone though. The lies that would hurt someone are ones I avoid at all costs. I will lie if it means inconveniencing someone and only causing myself to do without, but otherwise, the lies are usually kept to that.
Now if you ask me what I did in the bathroom, hell yes I will lie. LOL. I'm not going to ever talk about personal stuff like poop! Ha Ha Ha! I wouldn't lie about how someone looks though. If my loved ones ask me how they look, I tell them the truth because I certainly don't want them lying to me about something like that, and well, when my sisters eyelash has been half blown off by the wind (falsies), I ain't about to let her walk around like that all day! Lol. I definitely tell the truth when asked about looks. I mean, when my family and loved ones ask, it's because they really, really want to know if something looks bad or not. Same reason I ask and I
want to be told.
Most people have this (mostly) misconception that all women want to be told they look fabulous no matter how they really look. This could not be further from the truth for most of us. We don't ask because we want to be told what makes us feel better, we ask because hell, if we really do have snot on our nose, we want to know so we can fix that shit! Lol.
Now the balding thing? I wouldn't actually mind if my partner was balding. I wouldn't lie, but that's not something that would be unattractive anyways, to me.
