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Originally posted by
Martiniman
Freaked out?
Scared?
Would it make you feel good?
Offended?
Proud?
Maybe something else?
It really depends on the person and how they do it. I mean, in the past, I've experienced almost all of those feelings when it's happened. If it's done casually, not in an attempt to pick me up or start anything more than a friendly conversation, I'm usually flattered and wind up thinking about it for quite some time after. On the other end of the spectrum, if it's done in a cheeky sort of way (I once had a salesman stop in the middle of his pitch, look pointedly at my chest and say something along the lines of "Wow. I just can't help but tell you that those are fantastic."), that usually leaves me feeling puffed up too. Especially if the person complimenting me is attractive.
Attractiveness doesn't give someone a free pass, though. If they give off bad or creepy vibes, seem like they're talking to me to impress their friends or go on and on about my beauty in ways that it clearly doesn't merit, I'm mostly just annoyed. I kept a whole wall of phone numbers in my first year of college and almost half of them were free for call (my drunk friends could do whatever they liked with those numbers) because I'd told the guy that I wasn't interested and didn't want his number but he just wouldn't leave.
I don't think that I've ever been offended when it's happened, but I've definitely been freaked out before. There were these two older men who followed me around a club that I was at and kept trying to hold my hand and buy me drinks, and it was actually kind of terrifying. Moreso because they kept appearing out of nowhere, grabbing me and pulling me towards them than because they said that I was pretty, but I kind of took it to be a package deal.