Seems a lot of girls these days have daddy issues. Why?
Ladies, how is you relationship with your father?
07/08/2012
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Haven't spoken to my dad in five years. He's a jackass. Girls that have daddy issues usually have them if they have asshole fathers.
07/08/2012
Very strained. Apparently I'm a terrible dissapointment to him, and I think he is an arrogant bully.
07/08/2012
My dad ran away with another man before I was born so I dont know him.
07/08/2012
Mine is very strained. We don't get along at all.
07/08/2012
I actually have a great relationship with my father. He was a single parent since my mom died when I was a kid and I think he did a great job. I still ask him for advice all the time.
07/08/2012
Story time!
My parents divorced when I was 11, and I "wanted" to live with my mom, with my dad getting visitation; I put "wanted" in quotes because she was total Stockholm Syndrome-ing me and lying to me about my dad and whatnot. My mom bounced around on boyfriends until she met her current husband (so I hear from the grapevine). This boyfriend didn't like me. I was seriously abused, physically and emotionally, during my time living with my mom and her boyfriend, but I didn't realize it until later. I wasn't a bad kid. I had good grades, was taking advanced classes in school.
Anyway, when I was 13, my mom and her boyfriend kicked me out, on a weekend I was to spend with my dad. Told me to pack up all of my things and get out. They dropped me on my dad's doorstep basically. This was super traumatic to me. My dad, of course, took me in. Got complete custody of me. I think, since that time, I spent one weekend at my mom's, and otherwise never saw her again. It's been 10 years now.
I was always a daddy's girl growing up. He was the one that always was there for the important things, like field trips and important events throughout my childhood. We're super close, even if we don't always get along. The rest of my family is super small--basically just my dad's sister--that we have regular interaction with beyond Christmas cards. So, my dad is pretty much all the family I have.
My parents divorced when I was 11, and I "wanted" to live with my mom, with my dad getting visitation; I put "wanted" in quotes because she was total Stockholm Syndrome-ing me and lying to me about my dad and whatnot. My mom bounced around on boyfriends until she met her current husband (so I hear from the grapevine). This boyfriend didn't like me. I was seriously abused, physically and emotionally, during my time living with my mom and her boyfriend, but I didn't realize it until later. I wasn't a bad kid. I had good grades, was taking advanced classes in school.
Anyway, when I was 13, my mom and her boyfriend kicked me out, on a weekend I was to spend with my dad. Told me to pack up all of my things and get out. They dropped me on my dad's doorstep basically. This was super traumatic to me. My dad, of course, took me in. Got complete custody of me. I think, since that time, I spent one weekend at my mom's, and otherwise never saw her again. It's been 10 years now.
I was always a daddy's girl growing up. He was the one that always was there for the important things, like field trips and important events throughout my childhood. We're super close, even if we don't always get along. The rest of my family is super small--basically just my dad's sister--that we have regular interaction with beyond Christmas cards. So, my dad is pretty much all the family I have.
07/08/2012
Much better now. During my teen years it was nothing but yelling and fighting. He was a bit too controlling and over-protective. I understand those thoughts now that I am a parent, but he just went too far with it. I know he loves me though. I am still a daddy's girl even if we did drive each other crazy lol.
07/08/2012
wdanas
My father was either around too much (in all the wrong ways) or not around at all when I was growing up. Now he's old and doesn't have much of anyone for him, and we get along all right. It's just too bad that couldn't have happened earlier.
Even so, I don't really have any "daddy" issues. I'm my own person, not the sum of others' dysfunction.
Even so, I don't really have any "daddy" issues. I'm my own person, not the sum of others' dysfunction.
07/08/2012
It was good, he and my grandparents were the ones who spoiled me.
07/08/2012
My Father has had it rough. He carries a lot of guilt about his drinking and even deeper things that he had no control over. I blame his misinterpreted view of Catholicism. He has TONS of Catholic guilt.
He loves me, I know he loves me, he has told me he loves me, but he is not a very loving person on a day to day basis. He doesn't know how to be, and doesn't seem interested in learning. To learn how to love, a person must begin to love his/herself, and for all that I adore my Daddy he doesn't like himself let alone love himself.
My Mother is also equally damaged and must have all the attention, love, and approval so she has lied, and cheated both my Father and I out of the relationship we could have had. Now he is not blameless because his behavior, in part has created this soul sucking need my Mother carries with her. Competing with a beer bottle is a lose/lose scenario and I have come to terms with what shaped and drives her.
I love both my parents and I wish they could get healthy. I wish we could be a real family...not a sit-com moment. I would gladly take the bad with the good, if there was any chance it could be good.
As it stands I have no relationship with my Father that isn't adversarial and we both wish that could change. Only one of us is willing to do the work to make the change, so we are both still waiting.
He loves me, I know he loves me, he has told me he loves me, but he is not a very loving person on a day to day basis. He doesn't know how to be, and doesn't seem interested in learning. To learn how to love, a person must begin to love his/herself, and for all that I adore my Daddy he doesn't like himself let alone love himself.
My Mother is also equally damaged and must have all the attention, love, and approval so she has lied, and cheated both my Father and I out of the relationship we could have had. Now he is not blameless because his behavior, in part has created this soul sucking need my Mother carries with her. Competing with a beer bottle is a lose/lose scenario and I have come to terms with what shaped and drives her.
I love both my parents and I wish they could get healthy. I wish we could be a real family...not a sit-com moment. I would gladly take the bad with the good, if there was any chance it could be good.
As it stands I have no relationship with my Father that isn't adversarial and we both wish that could change. Only one of us is willing to do the work to make the change, so we are both still waiting.
07/08/2012
My wife has a terrific relationship with her father.
My sister had a great relationship with our dad until his death.
I have a very healthy loving relationship with my daughter.
I'm sorry to hear of the troubles that others have or have had. It doesn't have to be that way.
Here's to a better future!
My sister had a great relationship with our dad until his death.
I have a very healthy loving relationship with my daughter.
I'm sorry to hear of the troubles that others have or have had. It doesn't have to be that way.
Here's to a better future!
07/09/2012
Love my dad! Him and my step mother just came down today to visit actually. We get along great. When I was a young, rebellious teenager, we didn't get along very well but that's because I was young and thought I knew better than anyone (so embarrassing to look back at how I was).
07/09/2012
Not good, but better than when I was younger. It could be worse I suppose. I'm just glad I have no reason to see or talk to him more than a few times a year. I do wish I had a more supportive father figure though.
07/09/2012
Out of my parents, my dad is the "mellow" one. We have always gotten along very well, and continue to.
07/09/2012
My dad and I actually had a very good relationship before my parents divorced, then his second wife tried to sabotage and destroy it (to the point of accusing him of molesting her children so he ended up in jail) (and, no, he did not do any of that). So, I didn't have my father from ages 10-17 - but did end up with a bastard step-father who did do emotional incest (thank God he ran away and mom divorced him).
So, anyway, my parents met and fell in love again my senior year in high school and we've had a good relationship since. Dad's always been easy-going and doesn't interfere in my life (he acknowledges I have my own mind), and we spend Saturdays thrifting and watching Britcoms and listening to Car Talk.
So, anyway, my parents met and fell in love again my senior year in high school and we've had a good relationship since. Dad's always been easy-going and doesn't interfere in my life (he acknowledges I have my own mind), and we spend Saturdays thrifting and watching Britcoms and listening to Car Talk.
07/09/2012
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