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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
What's that saying...

Only boring people get bored?

My husband and I are fond of saying the phrase, I'm not your entertainment center, essentially meaning it's not up to me to keep you interested, invested, or entertained. You should be able to do that on your own (you, as in the general you, not you specifically).

Do you agree or disagree with this sentiment?
04/12/2013
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Contributor: mpfm mpfm
I say a variation of this to my kids (obviously in nonsexual contexts!) I say, "I am not your social director." I think it's good for them to come up with their own entertainment. I've never said it my spouse, but I do agree with the sentiment. I don't think anyone should be dependent on others for entertainment. Come up with your own ideas and figure out how to implement them.
04/12/2013
Contributor: Mwar Mwar
I say that to my friends when they don't know what they want to do and look to me. Sometimes I'll plan things, but sometimes I don't want to.

I say a variation to my partner. Mostly it's that I want him to speak up if he wants to do something.
04/12/2013
Contributor: TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
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Originally posted by Ansley
What's that saying...

Only boring people get bored?

My husband and I are fond of saying the phrase, I'm not your entertainment center, essentially meaning it's not up to me to keep you interested, invested, or entertained. ... more
I like it, and will probably use it when my son gets older (not sexually of course, ew!). In regards to my husband, I don't know if I'd word it quite like that, because he tends to take things literally. I probably will be coming up with my own variation. It suits what I want to say to him, though. I feel like I'm doing all of the work, in regards to keeping it interesting in the bedroom.
04/12/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
I agree with a caveat. When we are apart, I don't want her pining about being with me - to be able to enjoy herself - and she does.

But when we are together - I do take on the role of 'entertainment director'. I enjoy it - but I wish she would take over the 'job' more often. She's starting to - so we're making progress.
04/12/2013
Contributor: spiced spiced
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Originally posted by Ansley
What's that saying...

Only boring people get bored?

My husband and I are fond of saying the phrase, I'm not your entertainment center, essentially meaning it's not up to me to keep you interested, invested, or entertained. ... more
I agree 100%!

That's one of the things I've always loved about my wife, that she has her own interests and her own life. We share a lot together, but we don't need to do all the same stuff or to do everything together.

I also agree that "if you're bored, then you're boring"! Thanks for making me feel better about being easily amused.
04/12/2013