Where do I start?? My dad is in a rest home for 60 days minimum. He is failing fast, but I do still have time with him. My other Shi Tzu is failing, I am going to put her down tomorrow. My daughter has been married 3 years. She is getting a divorce, her husband has been cheating on her. She is 1800 miles away. Her husband also threatened her about taking their daughter from her--he had his girlfriend get on the phone and threaten her as well. My daughter makes plans to come home and changes them constantly--then gets mad at me for making plans and buying replacement furniture for my granddaughter. And a trailer for her--had a great deal on it! She has never worked, and needs a place to live when she gets here. But I guess she will figure out how to rent a place with no money, huh? Oh, yeah..she is pregnant and getting an abortion Wednesday. Even though she knows how I feel about abortion -- she does not care and has created issues in our relationship. i am going to stop right now--post more tomorrow when I get a bit more of a grip. Thanks for letting me vent!!!
I have had the week from hell.....it feels like I am in my own soap opera. How was your week, have you ever had this kind of week?
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Aw! I don't even know what to say, or if there even is anything I could say that would lighten your load. I am sorry though. That is so much to deal with and bless your heart, js250. Here is a hug I'm sure you could certainly use one right now.
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Where do I start?? My dad is in a rest home for 60 days minimum. He is failing fast, but I do still have time with him. My other Shi Tzu is failing, I am going to put her down tomorrow. My daughter has been married 3 years. She is getting a divorce,
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Where do I start?? My dad is in a rest home for 60 days minimum. He is failing fast, but I do still have time with him. My other Shi Tzu is failing, I am going to put her down tomorrow. My daughter has been married 3 years. She is getting a divorce, her husband has been cheating on her. She is 1800 miles away. Her husband also threatened her about taking their daughter from her--he had his girlfriend get on the phone and threaten her as well. My daughter makes plans to come home and changes them constantly--then gets mad at me for making plans and buying replacement furniture for my granddaughter. And a trailer for her--had a great deal on it! She has never worked, and needs a place to live when she gets here. But I guess she will figure out how to rent a place with no money, huh? Oh, yeah..she is pregnant and getting an abortion Wednesday. Even though she knows how I feel about abortion -- she does not care and has created issues in our relationship. i am going to stop right now--post more tomorrow when I get a bit more of a grip. Thanks for letting me vent!!!
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Your dad, you and the rest of your family will be in my prayers and thoughts. I can't imagine having to go through that with my parents and pets. Losing loved ones, in my opinion, is the worst pain on the planet. I hope you and your father get to spend SOO much more time together. I'm sorry you're having to put down your baby I guess for what you're going through, there really aren't words.
Also, I hope your daughter is able to find happiness and I'm sure she will if she's moving close to you I am sorry to hear there are rocks in your relationship right now, but maybe they'll all diminish with a bit of time and rest. Maybe when she's good and away from her husband, she'll take to your wisdom and have more peace and possibly begin to care a lot more.
Wishing you the very best through these struggles. Keep us updated and I hope you get plenty of rest. Who knows, maybe this will bring you and her closer together and you'll have a better relationship afterwards. Sorry, I'm terrible at trying to make a situation better. I know there's not much that would make me feel better about this situation if I were in it, but I wish you lots of hugs and peace and rest and strength and anything else you may possibly need right now.
06/05/2012
I've had an awful week, but nothing that even compares with yours. I hope when you post again that things will have calmed down a bit for you. Sending you lots of good vibes and positive energy.
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Where do I start?? My dad is in a rest home for 60 days minimum. He is failing fast, but I do still have time with him. My other Shi Tzu is failing, I am going to put her down tomorrow. My daughter has been married 3 years. She is getting a divorce,
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Where do I start?? My dad is in a rest home for 60 days minimum. He is failing fast, but I do still have time with him. My other Shi Tzu is failing, I am going to put her down tomorrow. My daughter has been married 3 years. She is getting a divorce, her husband has been cheating on her. She is 1800 miles away. Her husband also threatened her about taking their daughter from her--he had his girlfriend get on the phone and threaten her as well. My daughter makes plans to come home and changes them constantly--then gets mad at me for making plans and buying replacement furniture for my granddaughter. And a trailer for her--had a great deal on it! She has never worked, and needs a place to live when she gets here. But I guess she will figure out how to rent a place with no money, huh? Oh, yeah..she is pregnant and getting an abortion Wednesday. Even though she knows how I feel about abortion -- she does not care and has created issues in our relationship. i am going to stop right now--post more tomorrow when I get a bit more of a grip. Thanks for letting me vent!!!
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my advise for your daughter is to make sure she record or writes down all the threats from her soon to be ex... and to seek legal help and leave the state that she is in to be with you to be more stable.
I'm on the opposite end I'm a 9 hour drive from my family (to be with a man) and planing to move further south in the future ... your giving me a view from my mum's perspective... I don't know about your daughter but my mum is my best friend and the person I go to when i feel lost and cant tell anyone else... I'm guessing your daughter only has you right now and is being torn up inside... its hard on both sides but there will be relief she will come to her senses im sure and move back home and you will be a wonderful grandmum. Sorry if this is confusing but you post has kinda made me emotional thinking about all the things Ive put my mom though in the year sense moving...
06/05/2012
thats awful! I'm so sorry. there is nothing that I could say to make that better. but you are in my thoughts.
06/05/2012
Ugh, so sorry you're going through this! *many tight hugs*
06/05/2012
I'm sorry you are going through so much.
As for your daughter, STOP doing things for her. Let her fail or thrive on her own. (I've had to do this with my own oldest daughter. And I feel NOTHING but relief for it.) As for the abortion, it is totally HER choice, and has nothing to do with how YOU feel about it, she's pregnant, not you. But, it's her choice alone. She's an Adult she needs to make her own choices. Stressing yourself about something you have absolutely NO control over only will make you feel worse.
You can take some stress OFF of yourself by not getting over involved in things you have no ability to change. Stick to the things you DO have the ability to change, and your daughter's choices and behaviors don't fall into that category.
I'm sorry about your dad and your dog.
As for your daughter, STOP doing things for her. Let her fail or thrive on her own. (I've had to do this with my own oldest daughter. And I feel NOTHING but relief for it.) As for the abortion, it is totally HER choice, and has nothing to do with how YOU feel about it, she's pregnant, not you. But, it's her choice alone. She's an Adult she needs to make her own choices. Stressing yourself about something you have absolutely NO control over only will make you feel worse.
You can take some stress OFF of yourself by not getting over involved in things you have no ability to change. Stick to the things you DO have the ability to change, and your daughter's choices and behaviors don't fall into that category.
I'm sorry about your dad and your dog.
06/05/2012
My inbox is always open if you need to vent. Sorry about the things going on for you. I hope everything works out.
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