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Contributor: mariah mariah
i see ALOT of bi.. postings and i just want to say

being bi

isnt anything you don't choise to be bi.. you don't chose to be stright. and you don't chose to be gay.. its just who you are and what you do...
some of you are acting like its a choice.. or it's a fun thing to do..
its more then just that.. its a way people love eachother.. or everyone...


im not trying to start stuff im sorry if it seems like.. but i just wanted to share that... being bi.. gay.. or stright.. is not a choice its who you are.. there is no.. "why" or... "how" or... "what" or... anything.. its just who you are.

no i am not bi
but i love my gays and bi's and strights and i stand up for them
12/08/2010
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Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by mariah
i see ALOT of bi.. postings and i just want to say

being bi

isnt anything you don't choise to be bi.. you don't chose to be stright. and you don't chose to be gay.. its just who you are and what you do...
some of you are ... more
Thanks for sharing your point of view.

No one should attack you for your beliefs, and I hope you feel at ease when stating your opinion (I also hope you do not get offended when others disagree). I do however feel that different people have different thoughts on this subject, as there is no PROOF system that can prove one theory or another, it is all subjective. I may be wording how I feel wrong, but I hope everyone understands.

Different people in different relationships have different kinds of relationships. Every relationship is unique.
12/08/2010
Contributor: J's Alley J's Alley
I agree with the whole "you don't choose" thing, but I can also see why others would feel differently. Viktor is right, no one should get on you because of how you feel.

I really don't like labels because so many people change their minds, are confused, are a little of each, or what the hell ever. I just say it is what it is.

My cousin is a lesbian and people used to ask me "is she gay?" (I lived in the south). I would say..."no...she's herself." Labels just don't work well for me.
12/08/2010
Contributor: firekitten firekitten
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Originally posted by J's Alley
I agree with the whole "you don't choose" thing, but I can also see why others would feel differently. Viktor is right, no one should get on you because of how you feel.

I really don't like labels because so many people ... more
I LOVE that. I've always felt like people make another person's sexual orientation their entire identity. If someone is straight/homosexual/bi sexual/asexual/whateve r that's only part of who they are, it isn't the entire person.
12/08/2010
Contributor: Viktor Vysheslav Malkin Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
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Originally posted by J's Alley
I agree with the whole "you don't choose" thing, but I can also see why others would feel differently. Viktor is right, no one should get on you because of how you feel.

I really don't like labels because so many people ... more
I really like what you said here,. it makes since to me.
12/08/2010
Contributor: Midway through Midway through
I think a lot of it is misunderstanding. Often times we find that society doesn't fully educate on everything there is that can be encountered in life. Pretty much everywhere I go in real life I'm always in a state of educating people. It's just something I enjoy doing. It can be on anything from the use of sex toys, to what pansexuality is, to why snakes aren't vicious predators. I feel like if we act less defensive when someone says something about who or what we are, and we instead explain, and answer questions, often times people open up. If someone makes an ignorant comment on bisexuality, like saying it's a choice, then if you decide to explain and educate kindly why it's not a choice, rather than getting defensive and clamming up over it, you can really change their outlook. Just a thought. (Not saying anyone has been defensive in this thread at all! Just explaining how I feel about it based on what I've encountered in real life. Everyone on this forum has been fantastical as far as I've experienced )
12/09/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by Viktor Vysheslav Malkin
Thanks for sharing your point of view.

No one should attack you for your beliefs, and I hope you feel at ease when stating your opinion (I also hope you do not get offended when others disagree). I do however feel that different people have ... more
This. Eden is a very open and welcoming forum (for adults). We have our tiffs here and there but I have yet to see someone get bashed for something of that sort. I am so comfortable here that I can say anything , things I wouldn't even be able to tell a partner for a looooong time lol. Maybe it's courage from being behind the computer screen but it's awesome.
12/09/2010
Contributor: KnK KnK
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Originally posted by mariah
i see ALOT of bi.. postings and i just want to say

being bi

isnt anything you don't choise to be bi.. you don't chose to be stright. and you don't chose to be gay.. its just who you are and what you do...
some of you are ... more
No offense kiddo, but why do you feel the need to get all preachy? If you're talking about the post that I think you are, that's one ignorant comment out of an entire welcoming and supportive community.

Besides, that one person received a lot of backbiting if I remember correctly, so save yourself some air...I mean text
12/09/2010
Contributor: KnK KnK
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Originally posted by KnK
No offense kiddo, but why do you feel the need to get all preachy? If you're talking about the post that I think you are, that's one ignorant comment out of an entire welcoming and supportive community.

Besides, that one person ... more
Sorry, this probably came off bitchier than I meant. This just felt like a speech. There's really not a lot of room for discussion if you just state your belief. The discussion boards are intended for discussion...
12/09/2010
Contributor: fghjkl fghjkl
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Originally posted by cherryredhead88
This. Eden is a very open and welcoming forum (for adults). We have our tiffs here and there but I have yet to see someone get bashed for something of that sort. I am so comfortable here that I can say anything , things I wouldn't even be able to ... more
Cherry - I sooo understand what you're saying. I feel like I can say anything and no one will judge me.

Thank you for sharing your opinion on this Mariah. It definitely can be a touchy subject for some. I, personally, don't give a shit wether someone chooses to be gay or not. For me, it's way more about the person and their heart.

I judge people. I judge people by their personality and their heart. Gay, straight, bi, pan, tran, black, white, purple.. whatever haha
12/10/2010
Contributor: mariah mariah
i'm sorry.. i did't mean to make some of you angry..
12/10/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by fghjkl
Cherry - I sooo understand what you're saying. I feel like I can say anything and no one will judge me.

Thank you for sharing your opinion on this Mariah. It definitely can be a touchy subject for some. I, personally, don't give a ... more
Unfortunately I think it is natural for humans to judge. Some way more than others, but I think everybody does it naturally.

I judge as well, I try not to and have been getting better at it, but sometimes it is so hard when you feel like the other person or people in question have malicious intent,ya know?
12/12/2010
Contributor: cherryredhead88 cherryredhead88
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Originally posted by mariah
i'm sorry.. i did't mean to make some of you angry..
You didn't make us angry, but there are plenty of threads on this topic already floating around the forums. In fact I think there is a whole section. Most people like to keep subjects to minimal threads (to my understanding).

I know I don't want to see billions of threads on the same subject just because someone doesn't want to search the forum. It will get seen, because you would be bumping the thread.

I will admit, however, that for a while I was too lazy to search the forums and started some threads myself to get quicker answers. I did not get good feedback that way lol.
12/12/2010