Last night for about three hours, I was reading posts on the forums.. I find a lot of the discussions really interesting and I've learnt a lot in the very short amount of time that I have been here, but a lot of the terms used here I am not sure what they mean.. I would also like to know why certain terms are used for describing something..

Here are a couple of examples of words I wasnt sure what they meant:

- calling people "vanilla"
-calling people "unicorns"

I think for many people who are new to the forums, this would be a useful thread for them... There were other terms I wasnt sure of their meaning but I didnt write them down. If there are terms you use frequently that a new person may not understand, please post them below. It'd be super helpful!

Thanks for the help! less

plain as in sexually? It seems as though they were talking about people who were crusty and snobby? lol... Or is it plain looking? Also, where did this term come from (if you know).. and if it means plain sexually, are vanilla people those who just do it missionary? Sorry, so many questions! less

Unicorn usually refers to a non-monogamous bisexual women. See the post by aag for references: link Although I've seen a few other more niche definitions for unicorn this is probably what there referring to.

Think of vanilla as being on the opposite end of the spectrum as kinky. So the vanilla side would be missionary, lights off, on a bed, to procreate etc and the kinky side would be whip chains leather dungeon etc. Inevitably what falls on one end of the spectrum as opposed to the other is going to be subjective. less