How much of a tip do you leave after a really expensive meal?

Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
We often tip 20% for dining out, and if it is a small bill (such as a diner type breakfast), we will tip even 25 or 30% (the poor server works just as hard, and has to make a living...their salaries are usually near to nothing). However, if I am at a fancy restaurant, and end up with a $200 dinner bill, is it right to tip $40 (20%)? Does that server work any harder then the one at the Outback Steak House or Denny's who ends up with a $5 or $6 tip?

I am just never sure how to feel about this?

Anyone want to chime in?
12/08/2012
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Contributor: T&A1987 T&A1987
15%-20% regardless of the meals price, depending on service, unless it's really cheap. If there's bad service, it will shrink to 10% or 5% but only if the problem is something the server could control. If it's a small order, like a 50 cent cup of coffee, I may put 1 or both quarters from my change in the tip jar.
12/08/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Always 20%, unless the service was exceptional, then it'll be rounded up higher. I've worked in food service - their wages are several dollars below minimum wage, even those who work at expensive places.
12/08/2012
Contributor: Kat and Aaron(aaron) Kat and Aaron(aaron)
Never less than 20%, generally more. For inexpensive meals rule of thumb is $5 per member of our party.
12/08/2012
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Depends...generally 20% + or - depending on the service. More on cheaper meals.
12/08/2012
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
As a base they get 15-20%. If they do awesomely (or it's this one restaurant in town that's local and we LOVE) they might get that bumped up to like 40%. If they treat us like crap they can get it bumped down to like 5%. It all depends on the service!
12/08/2012
Contributor: Rod Ronald Rod Ronald
Always $50. If I konow I'm going somewhere fancy, I will always pull out $50 for a tip. I know those kids must go through hell working there.
12/08/2012
Contributor: kdlt kdlt
I'm usually lost when it comes to tipping at various 'qualities' of restaurants so I appreciate the commenters' insights!
12/08/2012
Contributor: AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
Someone waiting tables at a less expensive eatery ($5-$6 tips) will usually turn a table a few times in the same time frame that your server waits on only your table at a more expensive place ($40 tip). My guess is that most people will also have a much higher expectation of service and attentiveness to details at a $200 dinner than one that cost $30.

As for the argument that is often made that they make almost nothing per hour... They chose to take a job paying very little (i.e. $2.00/hr) because they have the opportunity to make much more with the inclusion of tips.

If a server waits on two tables per hour and earns $5.00 tip per table, that totals $12.00/hr. I've never understood why so many express sympathy for a server when so many other hardworking individuals are earning less than $12.00/hr without any opportunity to supplement their salary with tips/commissions.
12/08/2012
Contributor: ToyGeek ToyGeek
In the more expensive restaurants, the server is expected to share that tip with the bartender and bus boy, and in some cases other folks in the kitchen, and that share is not based on the tip you leave, but rather on the bill itself. So if you walk out without leaving a tip at all, the server is still expected to give those folks that set amount, even though it would now be coming from their own pocket directly. Leaving less than twenty percent at a fancy restaurant is poor etiquette at best. You chose to eat the two hundred dollar meal, so it's too late to get frugal once the bill comes.
12/08/2012
Contributor: Voir Voir
I don't really eat at restaurants but when I would go out with my parents it would really depend on the quality of the server. Usually my dad would leave between 10 and 15 dollars if he had the cash on him. For some exceptional servers he's left up to 25 dollars.

what I don't like is more recently more and more places have the tips go into a pool and at the end of the night all the tips are split evenly. This is basically fucking the good servers over because they are paying out to those who don't do their job. It basically eliminates the incentive to do one's best or more because it's taking up for the slack of those who do poorly that. Not every table tips and the server should be able to keep what they make for themselves considering how shit their pay usually is.
12/08/2012
Contributor: koola1d88 koola1d88
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
We often tip 20% for dining out, and if it is a small bill (such as a diner type breakfast), we will tip even 25 or 30% (the poor server works just as hard, and has to make a living...their salaries are usually near to nothing). However, if I am at a ... more
i think you should tip on the quality of the service. did he/she stay on top of getting you drinks and went out of their way to make sure you had everything right with your order and did a fantastic job? OR did they just take your order give you one refill after you had to ask a time or 2, did they have a friendsly attitude? If they had good customer service and you have a high bill give what you feel is right, if they had poor to terrible customer service then again use your judgment on how much you wanna give them.
12/08/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I always do 20%+ regardless of the size of the bill.
12/08/2012