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Contributor: Ansley Ansley
What do you think qualifies a person as high maintenance? Do you think it is interchangeable with "someone who knows what they want"?
07/17/2011
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Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
My experience with "high maintenance" is when the person just sucks up as much of your time and attention as possible and then makes you feel guilty if you want to do something else without them.
07/17/2011
Contributor: CafeSabroso CafeSabroso
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
My experience with "high maintenance" is when the person just sucks up as much of your time and attention as possible and then makes you feel guilty if you want to do something else without them.
Yeah, I would agree that the guilt-tripping is the defining characteristic
07/17/2011
Contributor: Envy Envy
I think of when you have to practically play parent to them and do everything for them. Just my opinion though, not exactly sure what it really means, but yeah, lol.
07/17/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I have family members who are very high maintenance. JR pretty much hit it on the head. They want all your time, and they dont care if you are busy taking care of your own family.
07/18/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
JR nailed it. i think anyone who consumes most of your time or else, you suffer their wrath. pretty much anyone who is incredibly selfish and expects to be waited hand and foot
07/18/2011
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I agree with JR and Ms. Spice. To me it has nothing to do with knowing what they want, it's more related to being selfish and immature and then melting down completely when they don't get their way.
07/18/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
I think they are selfish and insecure.
07/18/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
I think of high maintenance as someone who needs a lot of time and attention. Like if you spend all your time working out that person's problems exclusively without an equal back-and-forth. Of course there will be times when one person needs more attention than the other, but if it's constantly the one person taking and the one person giving, that's high maintenance.
07/18/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by Ansley
What do you think qualifies a person as high maintenance? Do you think it is interchangeable with "someone who knows what they want"?
No, in my opinion, it is someone who selfishly thinks their 'needs' are higher and more important than anyone else's, who puts their time ahead of others and who also has no regard for living financially or emotionally within their means.
07/18/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by El-Jaro
My experience with "high maintenance" is when the person just sucks up as much of your time and attention as possible and then makes you feel guilty if you want to do something else without them.
Pretty much this exactly. I've had experience with people like this, so has my husband, so have a lot of my friends. High maintenance people suck to deal with a lot of the time.
07/18/2011
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Jul!a
Pretty much this exactly. I've had experience with people like this, so has my husband, so have a lot of my friends. High maintenance people suck to deal with a lot of the time.
That's why we moved to Oregon, one of the reasons is to stay away from our moms and my older sister. My married sister is the worst of them all, expecting my husband to fix something at her place every weekend. The worst case was asking him to adjust their thermometer, I don't understand why her husband can't do it himself, with the manual and all!
07/19/2011