have you ever picked up on a good friends attempt to remove themself from your life? how did affect your trust of people.
Have you ever had a friend try to dump you?
12/25/2012
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yes but we were both going different directions in life so i didnt blame her.
12/25/2012
I've never been dumped but I tried to "dump" a friend (we had different morals, goals and lifestyles) so I was honest with her and said I couldn't be around her (drug use, etc). She went crazy and enlisted her brother and friends to absolutely torment me every few nights by egging my house, paintballing my mom's car, TPing my place, and eventually lighting off fireworks at our wooden porch and nearly starting a fire. I had to get a restraining order on them. :/ Yikes.
12/25/2012
Can't say I've ever had this happen to me.
12/25/2012
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nope.
Originally posted by
misterazor
have you ever picked up on a good friends attempt to remove themself from your life? how did affect your trust of people.
12/25/2012
No, but I did "dump" someone. She was a drama queen and constantly had petty issues with everyone around her. She would then dump her petty issues on me, which was stressful and really made me dislike her. I finally had enough after she started spreading crap about someone sexually harassing her (when he did not) and told her to grow up. Every time a younger guy would start talking to myself or another friend, she'd start acting slutty and talking about adult subjects no one wanted to hear about just so she could "steal" the guy away. I don't really need people like that in my life, so it doesn't bother me at all.
12/25/2012
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lol quite the quip =)
Originally posted by
AwesomeAmanda
yes but we were both going different directions in life so i didnt blame her.
12/25/2012
I've never dumped or been dumped as a friend, what has happened with a lot of friendships is just with busy schedules we had less time to stay in touch and the friendship just faded away.
12/25/2012
Yes but we were both doing it, we just grew apart
12/25/2012
Yea, I've had a few friends who drifted away, but it's almost always a mutual thing
12/25/2012
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Yup
Originally posted by
misterazor
have you ever picked up on a good friends attempt to remove themself from your life? how did affect your trust of people.
12/25/2012
Yes---she had issues with how my husband and I got together--many people did and I lost quite a few "friends". The real ones stuck it out with us though!
12/25/2012
I have dumped friends because we had grown apart.
12/25/2012
Never had it happen to me. I have grown apart, but never dumped
12/25/2012
Yes. Long story short, my best friend, started dating my other best friend. They were not friends. They knew each other peripherally. The girl I had known 7 years and the guy I had known 6 years. Basically the girl did not want me hanging around him anymore because she was jealous of our friendship and thought he wanted to be with me (if that was the case it would have happened in 6 years). She told him that she would only go out with him if he stopped talking to me. He said that wasn't fair, and tried to maintain both my friendship and their relationship, but she ended up breaking up with him. I'm no longer friends with her anymore. It's so juvenile, I couldn't be bothered. She doesn't know it yet.
12/25/2012
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My best friend from high school came to me while I was pregnant with my oldest daughter and said, "It's me or him." meaning the guy I was pregnant by. I told her she was being very unfair and asked why was she doing that. She didn't tell me he was cheating. She just walked away. I miss her and wish I would have tried to understand but I was stupid. I haven't seen her in 16 years and there isn't a day that goes by where I don't think of her.
Originally posted by
misterazor
have you ever picked up on a good friends attempt to remove themself from your life? how did affect your trust of people.
12/25/2012
No, but I did do the dumping once. We resolved some of our issues and reconciled a few years later, though.
12/25/2012
My best friend in school waited till 4 days after my birthday when I invited him to my birthday dinner at a restaurant to tell me bluntly to my face he "wasn't interested in talking to me anymore." It came with no real warning signs so I was pretty pissed off. I haven't really had a "best" friend since. I keep a close circle of less than 6 people who are more or less just as "best" to me. Maybe that incident has affected how close I let people get to me, but I've never really thought on it and specifically attributed it to that.
12/25/2012
yes. I had a friend kinda be distant now im careful with how close I let people get to me
12/26/2012
Only on facebook, not in real life. Even on facebook, I sent the person a message, found out why they'd unfriended me and am now friends with them again.
In regular life, I only have a small handful of close friends and we've all been intensely loyal over many years and lots of craziness and hardship.
I did dump one friend years ago because he lied about me in an unsuccessful attempt to steal my girlfriend at the time. The saddest part was that I was getting ready to dump the girlfriend anyway and if he'd waited a couple of weeks I'd have encouraged them to get together.
In regular life, I only have a small handful of close friends and we've all been intensely loyal over many years and lots of craziness and hardship.
I did dump one friend years ago because he lied about me in an unsuccessful attempt to steal my girlfriend at the time. The saddest part was that I was getting ready to dump the girlfriend anyway and if he'd waited a couple of weeks I'd have encouraged them to get together.
12/26/2012
Hasn't happened to me yet.
12/26/2012
no but i have some that i would like to dump
12/26/2012
Never had that happen to me.
12/26/2012
Never had that happen.
12/26/2012
Yes and it did hurt a lot, especially because I never knew why they suddenly didn't want me in their lives after years of friendship.
12/26/2012
I've not been dumped by a friend, but I've dumped a friend. My best friend from high school. He wasn't very good at maintaining an actual friendship with me come senior year. We were best friends, but we couldn't hang out with each other because he liked some girl and wanted to get close to her and I just needed to understand that. Though I suppose it could have been him dumping me there, but it was more.. I was the friend on the back burner when he had nothing else to do suddenly. After we graduated, I finally realised the situation I was in and told him that if he was going to continue treating me as a second-rate friend, then we couldn't be friends anymore. I was just done. I couldn't keep taking his friendship back after being abandoned by him.
12/27/2012
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