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Has EF changed the way you interact in your day-to-day life?

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Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
With having been here for a few years, discussing 'no-no' subjects in a frank manner has helped me relax enough in talking with other people in real life instead of just hiding in the back and not saying anything.

What really surprised me was something I said at the college. Since my business communications class is in one of the computer labs, we're able to get a quick response from the lab tech on anything we need related to our computer usage. He's a rather cute (young) guy who is very sweet and helpful. Our instructor (who regards anyone under the age of 30 as someone she'd love to adopt) had commented after he left, "I just want to take him home so he can work on all my family's computers and fix the programs on them and stuff." I blurted in response, "I'd like to take him home, too, but for other reasons."

Those around me had a great laugh and a little "OMG, J SAID that??", but it was sort of a revelation to me of how EF helped me become less inhibited in my opinions in public situations ... especially knowing that there are people who can relate and aren't brave enough to say it themselves. On the other hand, just being comfortable enough to talk around other people is an even better result of hanging out here.

Anyone else find their social skills a little more relaxed since joining EF?
10/15/2011
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Contributor: Ghost Ghost
Not really. I have always been that way around friends and strangers (in certain situations). But I am a scientist and that kind of joking is really not appropriate where I work. We save it for after hours. ;3
10/15/2011
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
Hmm, what other reasons would those be Chilipepper?

I find it more comfortable to talk about sex toys around acquaintances and friends, even ladies at work. A few have even started asking me questions about "Good toys".

I have always been pretty open about sex in general, but I freely give advice more than I use to.
10/15/2011
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
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Originally posted by ToyTimeTim
Hmm, what other reasons would those be Chilipepper?

I find it more comfortable to talk about sex toys around acquaintances and friends, even ladies at work. A few have even started asking me questions about "Good toys".

I ... more
Pretty much this for me too. I've always been pretty open and out there, but since I've been here I can talk about sex and toys and stuff a lot more easily around people.
10/15/2011
Contributor: NaughtyNikkie NaughtyNikkie
Nope. I always been social & blunt in sex talk..
Only diff is now I talk about EF.
10/15/2011
Contributor: - Kira - - Kira -
Count me in the I've always talked about sex group. Now I just have more recommendations for people than before and a good website to send them to.
10/15/2011
Contributor: Sir Sir
No, it really hasn't. I've always said what's on my mind, regardless of its content.
10/15/2011
Contributor: GravyCakes GravyCakes
it hasn't changed my day-to-day life interactions any.
10/15/2011
Contributor: M121212 M121212
Hmm.... it's hard to say for me, because when I joined EF it was part of this whole bigger transformation that was going on in my life. It's hard to pull apart EF from all the other stuff that was going on. I'm a bit more open, but more importantly I'm more relaxed about sexual subjects. I'm less likely to bat an eyelash over certain things.
10/15/2011
Contributor: The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary The-IT-Guy-And-My-Secretary
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
With having been here for a few years, discussing 'no-no' subjects in a frank manner has helped me relax enough in talking with other people in real life instead of just hiding in the back and not saying anything.

What really surprised ... more
Slighly because I budget time to be on the forum and test toys now.
10/15/2011
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
I talk to my friends way more openly about sexuality and masturbation. I was pretty open before, but now I'll tell people exactly what I think about certain sex toys, whereas I never talked about my toys before.
10/16/2011
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
(EF Review Program Mentor)
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Originally posted by NaughtyNikkie
Nope. I always been social & blunt in sex talk..
Only diff is now I talk about EF.
LOL You took the words right out of my mouth
10/16/2011
Contributor: K101 K101
No it hasn't changed anything really except for my knowledge about a lot of things, but I wouldn't say it has changed the way I act. I'm still the same with sex and sex talk. I will talk about it and discuss what's appropriate at the right times, but I've always been like that. I'm pretty comfortable with talking about things like we do here.
10/16/2011
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I've always been the type of girl that talks her mind regardless if its appropriate or not.
10/16/2011
Contributor: EJ EJ
I think it has to some degree. My best friend and I were already fairly open with one another about sex stuff, but now we talk even more openly, and we compare and suggest toys on a pretty regular basis.
10/16/2011
Contributor: Darling Jen Darling Jen
Chili, you are ALL sorts of awesome! I would be one of the people who thought it but would not be brave enough to say it! You're my hero! I'm so glad to hear you're getting comfortable, open, and brave! It's definitely a sign of growing self-esteem.

I have noticed myself changing a bit. I'm much more comfortable opening up to people and have even shared a little hint at what I do "in my spare time" with new friends. No details, of course, and they are not on the list of privileged few who get to know my screen name but they see me in a whole new light and I just grin and say, "Yeah, it's always the quiet ones". And now there's even one guy at work that will randomly whisper, "So... did you get anything new this week?" I've tried to convince him there's guy things on the site but he's not comfortable enough with himself to try yet.
10/17/2011