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Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
I searched and couldn't find another post about this, so hopefully I'm not duplicating.

I am just curious, for you women out there, have you ever been attracted to a gay male? Whether physically or sexually? I have, but I find it so weird, because I know they are gay, so I'm thinking, what am I doing? I will never have a chance! So am I just weird for being attracted to gay males, or are there more of you women out there who do the same thing?
09/11/2010
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Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
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Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
I searched and couldn't find another post about this, so hopefully I'm not duplicating.

I am just curious, for you women out there, have you ever been attracted to a gay male? Whether physically or sexually? I have, but I find it so ... more
I've never been, but I can kinda see what you're getting at. I'm attracted to straight girls all the time, even though I don't have a chance with them. (Unless Katy Perry comes on and they think it's "cool" to make out with me )
09/11/2010
Contributor: Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I have been, and I don't think it's abnormal. People are attracted to certain features in people whether they be physical traits or personality characteristics and there's no 'off' switch in our minds to say that we can't be attracted to a certain person that has these traits even though they're not attracted to us.
09/11/2010
Contributor: twilightsun twilightsun
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Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
I searched and couldn't find another post about this, so hopefully I'm not duplicating.

I am just curious, for you women out there, have you ever been attracted to a gay male? Whether physically or sexually? I have, but I find it so ... more
In high school, I had crushes on several guys who turned out to be gay. They hadn't come out yet.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
Not since high school, my best friend was a guy who turned out to be gay, he didn't come out until after high school...but man I had the hugest crush on him in school because he was always such a nice guy. For a while he had said he had a crush on me too lol so the day he came out to me I was like "oh ok, well that's cool..explains the lack of girlfriends..so..does that mean you never had a crush on me????" he tried saying that he actually did..but I don't buy it!

Anyway, I think it's normal even if you know the guy is gay because attraction isn't really based on reason..it just happens!
09/11/2010
Contributor: buzzvibe buzzvibe
Oh, yeah. I worked with a really hot gay guy once. He was loads of fun to be around and a shameless flirt.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Miss Cinnamon Miss Cinnamon
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Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
I searched and couldn't find another post about this, so hopefully I'm not duplicating.

I am just curious, for you women out there, have you ever been attracted to a gay male? Whether physically or sexually? I have, but I find it so ... more
You're not weird Most women I know in RL have had major crushes on gay men at some point, as have I. I was intensely attracted to one of my best male friends during a period of time when we both identified as 100% homosexual (I no longer define myself as such, but I believe he still does). I found out later that he had a similar crush on me around the same time.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I was madly in love with one of my best guy friends my sophomore/junior years in high school - he was into showtunes and drama and everything. He slept at my house a lot because my mom realized he was as queer as a football bat and knew he wouldn't do anything to me. But, God, I wanted him to, and I just didn't notice he was gay (he said he wasn't). Thinking back on it, he was likely bi at the time because he did have crushes on other girls and wasn't conflicted about it. He did admit at one point he was tempted to crawl up on my bed and molest me, but he never did - we didn't even kiss during the whole time we knew each other. By the middle of junior year he finally realized I was serious about wanting him and he backed off from our friendship. I probably scared him into exploring his 'gayness' more ...
09/11/2010
Contributor: Jenniae09 Jenniae09
Strangely enough my friends refer to me as the lesbian that goes out with girls, or girly guys... All of my male partners (except the one I'm with now) have been bisexual more towards guys.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
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Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
I searched and couldn't find another post about this, so hopefully I'm not duplicating.

I am just curious, for you women out there, have you ever been attracted to a gay male? Whether physically or sexually? I have, but I find it so ... more
I was once attracted to a particular gay male but in my defence (lol if I need one) he wasn't open and I didn't know he WAS gay. He was flattered but at the same time admited he was more attracted to my husband! Sigel was flattered and we became good friends.
09/11/2010
Contributor: FVWhitechapel FVWhitechapel
I fell in love with TWO gay guys who hadn't come out yet, in high school. Ridiculous. But I'm still in contact with them both! Nice guys.

We're also sure one of my exes is a latent homosexual, but he hasn't come out yet, either. He'd be so good as a gay guy! =(
09/11/2010
Contributor: Blinker Blinker
Yeah, I've been attracted to a gay man, and we had sex. I knew he was gay, but it still happened. We were both horny and drunk and available so why not? We were good friends.
09/11/2010
Contributor: Liz Liz
I had an intense crush on one of my closest guy friends in high school, but I also remember feeling like the dynamic was a little strange between us and maybe it would be best if I kept my feelings to myself. I chalked it up to him just not liking me "like that," and never said anything about it.

He came out to our circle of friends a few years later. Other than, I've never been attracted to a gay man to my knowledge.
09/11/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by twilightsun
In high school, I had crushes on several guys who turned out to be gay. They hadn't come out yet.
See I seem to be attracted to (at least two that I know of) fully "out" gay men. I just feel it's weird to feel like that because I know I will never have a chance because they are GAY, and out and I don't know.
09/12/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by buzzvibe
Oh, yeah. I worked with a really hot gay guy once. He was loads of fun to be around and a shameless flirt.
Gay men usually take care of themselves more and dress nicer and that just attracts me, plus yes they are usually loads of fun to be around and they are silly and flirtatious and maybe that's what attracts me.
09/12/2010
Contributor: Envy Envy
I have been, yes. More towards bi men, though, but a few gay guys too. I like the fem aspect of them, they just seem more intune emotionally and all, and I like that.
09/12/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by Envy
I have been, yes. More towards bi men, though, but a few gay guys too. I like the fem aspect of them, they just seem more intune emotionally and all, and I like that.
But see with bi men, you can still have a chance, because they still like females. So I don't see that as weird. But with gay men, it just seems weird to me, because they ONLY like men, so it's almost like I'm wasting my time, but they are still too cute!
09/12/2010
Contributor: Jul!a Jul!a
I definitely have a bad habit of flirting with gay men, and for a while, I was kinda getting attracted to one of them. He was just about everything I was looking for in a guy, except for the whole deal with not wanting anything to do with my lady bits, lol. Like ToriRebel said, we're attracted to certain features and characteristics and can't always control it. I don't think you're weird for it
09/13/2010
Contributor: Alegria Alegria
I have been, twice. I just seem to love their personalities more than most straight males.

For the record I've only been attracted to two straight guys, one of whom I'm dating right now.

I don't get crushes very often =)
09/13/2010
Contributor: Trashley Trashley
i have this thing where i cant crush on people who dont crush on me. affection and desire is quite attractive to me :]
09/14/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by Jul!a
I definitely have a bad habit of flirting with gay men, and for a while, I was kinda getting attracted to one of them. He was just about everything I was looking for in a guy, except for the whole deal with not wanting anything to do with my lady ... more
Well that's good. At least I'm not the only one! They just seem to be so fun and outgoing and flirtatious, and make me feel good about myself. I don't know, they are just too sweet, and unavailable to me. Haha.
09/14/2010
Contributor: sexysweetieshan sexysweetieshan
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Originally posted by Trashley
i have this thing where i cant crush on people who dont crush on me. affection and desire is quite attractive to me :]
That makes sense I guess, but I've definitely been attracted to people who weren't attracted to me at all. Ever. Haha.
09/14/2010
Contributor: lamira lamira
I definitely have and imagine many other women have also. If someone is attractive both physically and mentally, sometimes I cannot help but to have that little sexual fantasy.
10/17/2010
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
I did once in my 20's. Tried to turn him but it didn't work. He was the best looking guy I'd ever seen.
06/29/2013
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
...not that I'm aware of, though there's no accounting for the guys I crushed on in High School since I can't find most of them.
I wouldn't say it's unusual to find yourself attracted to anyone really, you like what you like and sometimes he/she may be married, significantly older/younger, or homosexual.

It's how you choose to act on those feelings that matters, not that you have them.
^_^
06/30/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by KyotoAngel
...not that I'm aware of, though there's no accounting for the guys I crushed on in High School since I can't find most of them.
I wouldn't say it's unusual to find yourself attracted to anyone really, you like what you like ... more
"It's how you choose to act on those feelings that matters, not that you have them. " Exactly!!!

What she said ^^

I am often attracted to gay men, but that's because I am attracted to the same things in people and some are bound to be off limits to me. I also am attracted to some musicians or celebrities just because of looks, but I know they are inaccessible, just as I know a gay man is as well. Attraction is attraction and doesn't mean anything to me. Like KyotoAngel said, it's how you act on the attraction that matters. And I would never act, or dwell, on any attraction that would set me up for failure. I can see it being a problem if you are only attracted to inaccessible people, however. Now that would be a problem that would need some therapy to resolve.
06/30/2013
Contributor: mr115393 mr115393
The only male I was ever really attracted to was gay. He was a year or two older and got into a lot of trouble and got suspended and drank and pierced his own tongue, and I pretty much thought he was the coolest human being in the world. I realized that we could only be friends though, and I think that was part of the reason I was able to be so into him. I think I knew even then that I was gay and it was nice to be able to have a straight crush that wouldn't have to go anywhere.
06/30/2013
Contributor: lana'sart lana'sart
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Originally posted by sexysweetieshan
I searched and couldn't find another post about this, so hopefully I'm not duplicating.

I am just curious, for you women out there, have you ever been attracted to a gay male? Whether physically or sexually? I have, but I find it so ... more
I like them but not really physically into them
07/03/2013
Contributor: KeroWolf KeroWolf
Always, but I shrug it off when I find out they're gay.
07/03/2013