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Contributor: MamaDivine MamaDivine
My neighbor and her husband are trying out the whole dom/sub thing. They've been doing it for a few weeks now and decided that they would "act normally" in public and keep their relationship of the Dom/Sub lifestyle behind closed doors. I was wondering, how do YOU handle your dom/sub relationships? Do you keep your lifestyle behind closed doors? Just around friends/family or are you public with it? Also, if you are public with it or do it around friends/family-what kinds of things do you do? I find that most of this dom/sub stuff is usually sexual ( I know close to nothing about it, but the basics, so I am just wondering how others manage it in public and around others.)
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We are private with it-Keep it behind closed doors
2  (22%)
We are "public" with it around friends and family only
We are very public about it, keep it out in the open
It depends/There are some folks that know/see our dom/sub sides
5  (56%)
Let me tell you in comments how we handle our dom/sub relationship......
2  (22%)
We do not practice a dom/sub relationship
Total votes: 9
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04/13/2012
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Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
It depends...
04/13/2012
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
In the past we were totally open about it, but now we're more subdued. I'm just as obedient as in private, but people chalk it up to me being really devoted, not a D/s relationship.
04/14/2012
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
It's hard for us to be public about it, since we're not currently in the same physical location, but since the majority of our activities/tasks are sexually orientated, we wouldn't be open in public about it, simply because we don't want to get arrested (though late at night in the park is a must).
04/16/2012
Contributor: Entropy Entropy
We live in a small, conservative, rural community and don't want our kid subjected to ridicule on account of our lifestyle. We play in public sometimes, but it's discreet and hidden (signals, toys, etc.).
04/16/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
Long distance, so nothing can be done. Although we both believe in the complete equality of partners in the relationship in both public and the day-to-day matters ... sex is where it is completely D/s, with a little bit of D/s just around the house.

At least that's how we agreed. When we do get back together, we'll see how it works out.
04/16/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Every couple is different and it would take months to explain the "whole Dom Sub thing" to someone.

Most people see us as a "traditional family." For a good part of our marriage, he worked and I raised kids etc. I have worked outside the home and am now part time (just had a patient cancel just as I got to her home for a home visit. Crossed wires from the Agency. *SIGH*)

I have no problem serving him in public. I'll get him a plate at parties, bring him a beer etc. Most people just see us as being playful and getting along well.

We don't have sex in public, obviously.
04/16/2012