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Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay 02/16/2012

Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook? If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?

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Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook? If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship? (52 posts)
Contributor: BlooJay BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
Yes
Ghost , Wildchild , AMTTT , Peggi , CreamySweet , Fun with Dick & Jane , ~LaUr3n~ , Lucidity , GravyCakes , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , DreamWolf , GONE! , kittycatgirl , Vanille , JessCee , froggiemoma , kroucena , acessorie , Love Perpetua , Scott Ghost , Aberrant , biancajames , Teacookie , BiJess , BuckeyeGal04 , OrangeKushBB , padmeamidala , HugsAndBites , ellejay , dv8 , SJ88 , Lock , unfulfilled , Clubbinseals
34  (42%)
No
bsgs , rawsonbr , Breas , ksparkles16 , Lizzy , K101 , Brandonn , Beck , UnknownGirl , Subbi , ladychristie , Graniteal , Destri , bayosgirl , Undead , Mr. E , darthkitt3n , eeep , vampyroteuthidae , calliope , MissCandyland , Silverdrop , averageguyextrodinarypleasure , mpfm , Ms. N , Curiouscat , pinkzombie , Kayla , Hallmar82 , Kitt Katt , geliebt , RavenWings , AJvil , GoneBabyGone , potstickers , Rossie , Jon S , Stinkytofu10 , MistressDandelion
39  (49%)
Other
ViVix , El-Jaro , Nazaress , indiglo , Diabolical Kitty , Secret Pleasure , catsin
7  (9%)
Total votes: 80
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Contributor: bsgs bsgs
i do not have any contact with my exes, theyre exes for a reason, and ive also never had any desire to stay friends with them
02/16/2012
Contributor: Ghost Ghost
I am only friends with one ex, my first boyfriend (from 10 years ago).
02/16/2012
Contributor: Wildchild Wildchild
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
There have been problems in the past.
02/16/2012
Contributor: rawsonbr rawsonbr
I have him as a friend, but we don't even have contact. I tend to forget he is on there.
02/16/2012
Contributor: T&A1987 T&A1987
I've only had one ex and she unfriended me a long time ago.
02/16/2012
Contributor: Lizzy Lizzy
When an ex still wants you as a "friend" after, you have to wonder why.
02/16/2012
Contributor: Peggi Peggi
I am friends with multiple ex's on facebook. It's not an issue at all with my current relationship because we talk about everything and I am not going to cheat or anything and that's already known.

Besides, one of those ex's is one of my best friends, the mother of 2 kids I call my own as well, and if he had an issue with it, we'd have problems!
02/16/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
I always say Ex's are Ex's for a reason! I try to avoid any kind of contact with mine. I've had an Ex message me asking a strange question about what I use to whiten my teeth! Lol. But other than that, I made it very clear that I wanted no "friendship". It's not a good idea. It sounds nice and the whole idea of being in a relationship and staying friends with Ex's sounds so good to most people, but it's truly a recipe for disaster. Things won't always go wrong, but it's far, far too easy and why risk unecessary strain on a relationship? I can't think of many reasons to have regular friendly contact with an EX while you're in a relationship... not many reasons that would be considered faithful anyways.

I guess having an EX on your friends list, but never talking to them isn't horrible? I mean if you're with someone I don't see much of a reason for doing that, but whatever. I just think having regular friendly contact with an ex can't be truly innocent and it's kind of a tiny bit betraying... in most cases anyway.

What it boils down to is no, I wouldn't think it's a good idea at all.
02/16/2012
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
I always say Ex's are Ex's for a reason! I try to avoid any kind of contact with mine. I've had an Ex message me asking a strange question about what I use to whiten my teeth! Lol. But other than that, I made it very clear that I wanted no "friendship". It's not a good idea. It sounds nice and the whole idea of being in a relationship and staying friends with Ex's sounds so good to most people, but it's truly a recipe for disaster. Things won't always go wrong, but it's far, far too easy and why risk unecessary strain on a relationship? I can't think of many reasons to have regular friendly contact with an EX while you're in a relationship... not many reasons that would be considered faithful anyways.

I guess having an EX on your friends list, but never talking to them isn't horrible? I mean if you're with someone I don't see much of a reason for doing that, but whatever. I just think having regular friendly contact with an ex can't be truly innocent and it's kind of a tiny bit betraying... in most cases anyway.

What it boils down to is no, I wouldn't think it's a good idea at all.
02/16/2012
Contributor: CreamySweet CreamySweet
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
I am friends with the guy who popped my cherry, another guy I did in high school, two guys who realllllllly wanted to do me in high school and the guy I was engaged to before it failed and then I met my husband. Husband knows...no issues at all. Do two of the four still want to knock boots with me? Hell yes. Lol. Again hubby knows and no issue. Its a long way from the internet to bedroom.
02/16/2012
Contributor: Brandonn Brandonn
No reason to be. Why be a phony.
02/16/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
I am not even on FB except for my EF stuff.
02/16/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
I no longer have a facebook, but I used to be friends with ex hookups, which caused problems.
02/16/2012
Contributor: BobbiJay BobbiJay
I am friends with a couple of my exes. We left on good terms and remained friends. It has never caused any problems with my relationships.
02/16/2012
Contributor: Lucidity Lucidity
Just one. Hasn't caused an issue in this relationship because it was almost ten years ago.
02/16/2012
Contributor: Subbi Subbi
I ignore my ex's. I want nothing to do with em.
02/16/2012
Contributor: GravyCakes GravyCakes
i'm friends on fb w/ both of mine, & actually used to hang out w/ one of them occasionally before i moved. my bf doesn't care. he trusts me & knows it's innocent.
02/16/2012
Contributor: ladychristie ladychristie
I don't want anything to do with my ex's it causes drama
02/16/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
No it does not.
02/16/2012
Contributor: DreamWolf DreamWolf
SHEESH I WANTED TO VOTE FOR NO!!! ~lol

I am friends with one of them and it causes no problems at all, he is nice, not pushy, I don't need more...
02/17/2012
Contributor: Destri Destri
My hubby and I are good friend with one of my ex-husbands, and we keep in close touch on Facebook. So no, no problems at all.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Undead Undead
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
No I am not
02/17/2012
Contributor: Angelica Angelica
I am with an ex I dated for a month about 4 or 5 years ago. So he wasn't a serious relationship and it doesn't cause any problems with my current relationship.
02/17/2012
Contributor: darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
No. I deleted and blocked one because he kept stalking me on there and on a few other sites. I don't have any exes on there now and would not add them as friends.
02/17/2012
Contributor: vampyroteuthidae vampyroteuthidae
Nope.
02/17/2012
Contributor: calliope calliope
I have been friends with exs no its not a problem.
02/17/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
Hard to vote. Yes, I'm friends with an ex-lover on FB. No, it isn't causing any problems in my relationship. He was with me a long time ago, we've both moved on and are happy just being friends. We're all adults.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Vanille Vanille
Yes, I am friends with them. They don't cause any issues as I no longer 'play for their team'. I have one who won't get the hint though, despite having a girlfriend.
02/17/2012
Contributor: El-Jaro El-Jaro
(EdenFantasys)
My last ex and I haven't spoken since I dropped her stuff off at her dorm. Otherwise, there're only two ex's I'm intentionally not in contact with on FB.
02/17/2012
Contributor: froggiemoma froggiemoma
My ex husband is on my friends list. We have kids together so I put pics up on there of the kids and he keeps up with what they are dooing that way. Doesn't bother current bf.
02/17/2012
Contributor: Nazaress Nazaress
I voted "Other" because I'm only friends on Facebook with exes who "don't matter" i.e. high school boyfriends and ones I dated when I was even younger than that. They don't cause problems. I've only had one serious boyfriend besides mine now and I'm not friends with him. I hate him.
02/17/2012
Contributor: MissCandyland MissCandyland
Nope. No reason to be.
02/18/2012
Contributor: indiglo indiglo
I'm not on Facebook, so I avoid these problems altogether.
02/18/2012
Contributor: Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
I am friends with one of my ex's but we don't speak.
02/18/2012
Contributor: Scott Ghost Scott Ghost
I'm friends with quite a few. Even during the days of myspace, I was to.
02/18/2012
Contributor: Nissa Nissa Nissa Nissa
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
I was but I also left facebook recently.
02/18/2012
Contributor: averageguyextrodinarypleasure averageguyextrodinarypleasure
Nope. I want my wife to know I'm only with her
02/18/2012
Contributor: Aberrant Aberrant
I am friends with an ex on facebook, and it isn't weird because there are absolutely no lingering feelings, and we rarely talk. I would only have a problem with it if there were lingering feelings, or an abnormal amount of contact.
02/18/2012
Contributor: biancajames biancajames
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
I am single presently, and still FB friends with a guy I have a fling with. It bugs me to see him on the site since he blew me off, but I feel like a defriend might make things weird...blerg.
02/18/2012
Contributor: pinkzombie pinkzombie
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
No way!
02/18/2012
Contributor: padmeamidala padmeamidala
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
I am friends with my ex husband on facebook and it hasn't caused any problems for me.
02/18/2012
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
I don't have any exes but I wouldn't want my wife friends with her ex since we have had problems before.
02/18/2012
Contributor: geliebt geliebt
Mine deleted his facebook account, so no.
02/18/2012
Contributor: ellejay ellejay
I am, and it's fine.
02/18/2012
Contributor: RavenWings RavenWings
No desire. I know he fb stalks me though
03/05/2012
Contributor: AJvil AJvil
Quote:
Originally posted by BlooJay
Are you friends with any of your exes on Facebook?

If you are, does it cause any problems in your current relationship?
Nope
03/05/2012
Contributor: GoneBabyGone GoneBabyGone
I have one ex, he was terrible. I made sure to block him so he cannot snoop on me and I cannot see him.

My fiancee is friends with a lot of women. Some exes, some he wanted to do stuff with but was only friends.

It took me a while to be okay with it. I figure he's humping my leg and sleeping in my bed every night what do I have to worry about?
03/06/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
I am friends with one of my exes, friends with one guy that wanted to date me when I was a teenager, and friends with one that would love the chance to date me now, but it doesn't cause problems.
03/08/2012
Contributor: catsin catsin
My oldest ex and I are friends, but none of the others. I usually stay friends with them for a little while after the relationship has ended and then find it's too challenging to keep them around. Either I'm too nostalgic for them or I become paranoid that they're just using FB to stalk me.
03/31/2012
Contributor: Lizzy Lizzy
Quote:
Originally posted by RavenWings
No desire. I know he fb stalks me though
haha how creepy is that
04/01/2012
Contributor: Clubbinseals Clubbinseals
yup
04/01/2012