I cringe when I see my husband rest his elbows on the food crumbs he's dropped on the dinner table, and it does not bother him a bit. Do you think messy eating habits are inherited? Or should I blame his mom, who is also a sloppy eater for not teaching him to eat tidily when he was young?
Do you think messy eating habits are inherited?
02/19/2012
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Blame his parents for not teaching him proper manners. We've gone to pains to teach our boys good table manners, and the results always show whenever we're out to eat/at someone else's house, etc. invariably, our 3 year old has better manners than most of the adults!
He puts his elbows on the table? Yikes.
He puts his elbows on the table? Yikes.
02/19/2012
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Blame his up bringing for sure.
Originally posted by
Rossie
I cringe when I see my husband rest his elbows on the food crumbs he's dropped on the dinner table, and it does not bother him a bit. Do you think messy eating habits are inherited? Or should I blame his mom, who is also a sloppy eater for not
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I cringe when I see my husband rest his elbows on the food crumbs he's dropped on the dinner table, and it does not bother him a bit. Do you think messy eating habits are inherited? Or should I blame his mom, who is also a sloppy eater for not teaching him to eat tidily when he was young?
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02/19/2012
While I do think we learn those kinds of habits as children, once we're of an adult age we're responsible for our own behaviors. No one has to behave a certain way because that's what their family did, or that's how they were raised. We are all individuals capable of (and responsible for) changing our behavior.
I don't think it's fair to blame the mother of a grown man for his behavior. If a young one has bad manners, sure that can go to parental training (or the lack there of), but not the manners of a grown man.
I don't think it's fair to blame the mother of a grown man for his behavior. If a young one has bad manners, sure that can go to parental training (or the lack there of), but not the manners of a grown man.
02/19/2012
I think that you learn all your habits when you are young. By watching the habits used around you.
02/19/2012
He's a lot more careful when he eats out, seems like he only does that when he's eating at home, drives me nuts! Thank goodness my son hasn't pick up that awful habit from him, since I've been teaching him table manners at a very early age. Back in those days when we still live in the same state, I do not serve dinner at home when my mother-in-law visits, we always treat her out to avoid any sloppy messes (she always drops food allover the table AND on her clothes!).
02/19/2012
Yes, childhood habits have a lot to do with a person's habits in adulthood, but we also reject a surprising amount of what we learn as children, so it's hard to tell definitively. I wasn't taught a lot of the mannerisms and good habits that I now practice. By the same token, my partner was raised by a very orderly person who insisted he perform certain good habits, yet today, you simply cannot make him put his clothes in the hamper. At all.
02/19/2012
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He puts his elbows on the table only when he eats at home, sometimes I think he's doing that on purpose to drive me crazy.
Originally posted by
Eliyahu
Blame his parents for not teaching him proper manners. We've gone to pains to teach our boys good table manners, and the results always show whenever we're out to eat/at someone else's house, etc. invariably, our 3 year old has better
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Blame his parents for not teaching him proper manners. We've gone to pains to teach our boys good table manners, and the results always show whenever we're out to eat/at someone else's house, etc. invariably, our 3 year old has better manners than most of the adults!
He puts his elbows on the table? Yikes. less
He puts his elbows on the table? Yikes. less
His mom and his younger sister (they live together), allow the sister's kids to eat running around the house. Imagine a kid eating a juicy peach walking on the carpet, juice dripping from his hands!
02/19/2012
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I don't think that is an inheritable trait. It's learned. I'd blame the parents. A child learns from whoever is raising them and if no one corrects the behavior then they don't know any better. If it's an older child, like grade school I'd still blame the parents or whoever is raising the child but they should be able to see how different their behavior is from their peers and get an idea of what is acceptable, but still it's a young child and we can't expect them to so much care how they appear to others. The parents need to do some changing to get the child to behave better.
Originally posted by
Rossie
I cringe when I see my husband rest his elbows on the food crumbs he's dropped on the dinner table, and it does not bother him a bit. Do you think messy eating habits are inherited? Or should I blame his mom, who is also a sloppy eater for not
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I cringe when I see my husband rest his elbows on the food crumbs he's dropped on the dinner table, and it does not bother him a bit. Do you think messy eating habits are inherited? Or should I blame his mom, who is also a sloppy eater for not teaching him to eat tidily when he was young?
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02/19/2012
I would have said all learned before I had my son. I'm a super messy eater and my son watches me eat more than anyone. My husband can eat even the messiest food neatly. My son has been a neat eater since he started eating by himself. In contrast, my mom is a super neat eater and tried her best to teach me the same. I cannot eat without spilling all over myself. I just lack the grace needed I guess.
02/19/2012
Chewing loudly... my parents do it, by brothers do it... oh gawd I sure hope I don't!!!!
02/19/2012
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Blame the parents for not teaching manners.
Originally posted by
Rossie
I cringe when I see my husband rest his elbows on the food crumbs he's dropped on the dinner table, and it does not bother him a bit. Do you think messy eating habits are inherited? Or should I blame his mom, who is also a sloppy eater for not
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I cringe when I see my husband rest his elbows on the food crumbs he's dropped on the dinner table, and it does not bother him a bit. Do you think messy eating habits are inherited? Or should I blame his mom, who is also a sloppy eater for not teaching him to eat tidily when he was young?
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02/20/2012
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