Whether or not it's by choice.
Do you think being a virgin says something about someone?
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No, I believe virginity is a social construct and everyone has a different definition of "virgin." It has no bearing on a person's personality at all.
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Does it mean something?
Never understood the obsession with the state of it.
Never understood the obsession with the state of it.
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No, it's their personal business.
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It says they haven't had sex yet.
There are some people who just don't think it's something to rush into or that it's that great of a thing, and that's a-ok by me. Whatever makes them happy. But, if they fear sex, that's another story.
There are some people who just don't think it's something to rush into or that it's that great of a thing, and that's a-ok by me. Whatever makes them happy. But, if they fear sex, that's another story.
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No, all it says is that they haven't had sex for whatever reason they choose.
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Never having had sex says absolutely nothing in itself.
If they haven't done it because they haven't met the right person, or don't feel ready, or have turned down someone that they didn't feel comfortable with, I generally think it indicates a significant amount of self-respect.
If they haven't done it because they have been too busy or too distracted with life, well, that's their business but I don't think it necessarily says anything about them.
If they haven't done it because of some religious belief, well, that's their business as well. I think religion often encourages suppressive and antiquated ideas and often those ideas are misogynistic, at least in origin, and against our very nature. I have a hard time agreeing with people's religious beliefs, especially on topics like this, but to each their own.
If they haven't done it because they are clinging to some ideal that it will make them sullied or damaged, or if they are afraid of sex, then they have fallen victim to an antiquated, misogynistic myth, or, in the case of men, they have fallen victim to an overblown social construct based on the aforementioned antiquated, misogynistic myth.
If they have done "everything but" put a penis in a vagina, or if they haven't done it because of some infatuation with the mystical, magical hymen, then apply what I said about the antiquated misogynistic myth and multiply it exponentially.
If they haven't done it because they haven't met the right person, or don't feel ready, or have turned down someone that they didn't feel comfortable with, I generally think it indicates a significant amount of self-respect.
If they haven't done it because they have been too busy or too distracted with life, well, that's their business but I don't think it necessarily says anything about them.
If they haven't done it because of some religious belief, well, that's their business as well. I think religion often encourages suppressive and antiquated ideas and often those ideas are misogynistic, at least in origin, and against our very nature. I have a hard time agreeing with people's religious beliefs, especially on topics like this, but to each their own.
If they haven't done it because they are clinging to some ideal that it will make them sullied or damaged, or if they are afraid of sex, then they have fallen victim to an antiquated, misogynistic myth, or, in the case of men, they have fallen victim to an overblown social construct based on the aforementioned antiquated, misogynistic myth.
If they have done "everything but" put a penis in a vagina, or if they haven't done it because of some infatuation with the mystical, magical hymen, then apply what I said about the antiquated misogynistic myth and multiply it exponentially.
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I wouldn't want to date someone who is one but I don't think it says anything bad about someone. If it's by choice I respect that and if it's not by their own choice then they just haven't met the right person yet.
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Ah! The voice of reason, lol. 24-year-old virgin here, and I'd hate to think people were judging me based on my sexual choices. Some of the other comments seem awfully judgemental toward some of the reasons people may choose not to have sex.
Originally posted by
RavenWings
No, it's their personal business.
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That it's their choice not to have sex, or that they haven't found someone they were interested in. Otherwise, nope, doesn't say a thing positive or negative
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Yeah, all of this. I'm not usually all in people's business about why they haven't had sex yet, but if someone shares their reasons, apply above on what I'll think about it.
Originally posted by
charletnarouh
Never having had sex says absolutely nothing in itself.
If they haven't done it because they haven't met the right person, or don't feel ready, or have turned down someone that they didn't feel comfortable with, I generally think ... more
If they haven't done it because they haven't met the right person, or don't feel ready, or have turned down someone that they didn't feel comfortable with, I generally think ... more
Never having had sex says absolutely nothing in itself.
If they haven't done it because they haven't met the right person, or don't feel ready, or have turned down someone that they didn't feel comfortable with, I generally think it indicates a significant amount of self-respect.
If they haven't done it because they have been too busy or too distracted with life, well, that's their business but I don't think it necessarily says anything about them.
If they haven't done it because of some religious belief, well, that's their business as well. I think religion often encourages suppressive and antiquated ideas and often those ideas are misogynistic, at least in origin, and against our very nature. I have a hard time agreeing with people's religious beliefs, especially on topics like this, but to each their own.
If they haven't done it because they are clinging to some ideal that it will make them sullied or damaged, or if they are afraid of sex, then they have fallen victim to an antiquated, misogynistic myth, or, in the case of men, they have fallen victim to an overblown social construct based on the aforementioned antiquated, misogynistic myth.
If they have done "everything but" put a penis in a vagina, or if they haven't done it because of some infatuation with the mystical, magical hymen, then apply what I said about the antiquated misogynistic myth and multiply it exponentially. less
If they haven't done it because they haven't met the right person, or don't feel ready, or have turned down someone that they didn't feel comfortable with, I generally think it indicates a significant amount of self-respect.
If they haven't done it because they have been too busy or too distracted with life, well, that's their business but I don't think it necessarily says anything about them.
If they haven't done it because of some religious belief, well, that's their business as well. I think religion often encourages suppressive and antiquated ideas and often those ideas are misogynistic, at least in origin, and against our very nature. I have a hard time agreeing with people's religious beliefs, especially on topics like this, but to each their own.
If they haven't done it because they are clinging to some ideal that it will make them sullied or damaged, or if they are afraid of sex, then they have fallen victim to an antiquated, misogynistic myth, or, in the case of men, they have fallen victim to an overblown social construct based on the aforementioned antiquated, misogynistic myth.
If they have done "everything but" put a penis in a vagina, or if they haven't done it because of some infatuation with the mystical, magical hymen, then apply what I said about the antiquated misogynistic myth and multiply it exponentially. less
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well said!
Originally posted by
Lildrummrgurl7
No, I believe virginity is a social construct and everyone has a different definition of "virgin." It has no bearing on a person's personality at all.
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All it says about them is they haven't had sex yet.
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No - whatever reason they have is good enough for me. Sharing one's body is one of the most personal decisions one can make, and no matter what their reason, it's a perfectly good one.
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Right. It's their decision, but i'm naturally going to have opinions if they choose to share their reasoning, whether or not i share those opinions. My opinion is rather immaterial unless i'm planning to or hoping to sleep with the person, though.
Originally posted by
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Yeah, all of this. I'm not usually all in people's business about why they haven't had sex yet, but if someone shares their reasons, apply above on what I'll think about it.
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