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Contributor: aluminummm aluminummm
Among my queer friends, we generally seem to be on good terms with the first people we ever had sex with. But my straight friends seem to have a completely different experience in that department. I was curious-- do you still talk to the first person/people you had sex with? Feel free to share details as to why or why not
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
yes
29  (35%)
no
48  (57%)
it's complicated
7  (8%)
Total votes: 84
Poll is closed
09/19/2012
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Contributor: Checkmate Checkmate
Sure we talk to each other, we're married!
09/19/2012
Contributor: Lioncub Lioncub
Oh Heck no!!!
09/19/2012
Contributor: TiffyPixie TiffyPixie
Quote:
Originally posted by Checkmate
Sure we talk to each other, we're married!
us too.
09/19/2012
Contributor: ellieprobable ellieprobable
We did for several years but not any more.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
I checked "it's complicated." I actually stayed on good terms with my first boyfriend for a long time after we split. Sadly, he passed away a few years ago.
09/19/2012
Contributor: deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by Checkmate
Sure we talk to each other, we're married!
Aww sweet
09/19/2012
Contributor: sodapin sodapin
Haven't had sex D:
09/19/2012
Contributor: Anne Anne
Yes, they are still my friend.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
Nope, we haven't communicate for years.
09/19/2012
Contributor: charletnarouh charletnarouh
Yes. We're good friends. He was my first, and only boyfriend, back in the dark days before I came out. He's a good guy. Unfortunately, he's, well, a guy.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
My first partner was 40+ years and 2500 miles ago - no we don't talk - but that has nothing to do with being straight or gay.
09/19/2012
Contributor: Mamastoys Mamastoys
NO thank goodness...ex is long gone from where we live!!
09/19/2012
Contributor: brevado brevado
Lost touch with that person a while ago
09/19/2012
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Nope, she had too many issues and we drifted apart
09/19/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
Nope. Sometimes I miss him. But he's moved on, and so have I, I guess.
09/19/2012
Contributor: AmethystSmoke AmethystSmoke
No, it was nearly thirty years ago and we didn't have much contact after the relationship ended. Then I heard he moved to another state a few years later.
09/19/2012
Contributor: edeneve edeneve
hell no!!!
09/19/2012
Contributor: Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
Yep, every day. We live together.
09/20/2012
Contributor: justme23 justme23
Quote:
Originally posted by aluminummm
Among my queer friends, we generally seem to be on good terms with the first people we ever had sex with. But my straight friends seem to have a completely different experience in that department. I was curious-- do you still talk to the first ... more
Still dating him
09/20/2012
Contributor: travelnurse travelnurse
No that was more than 20
09/20/2012
Contributor: sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
No, we don't.
09/20/2012
Contributor: PepperPot PepperPot
No. It's not that I would refuse to speak to him if I saw him, but I don't have any particular reason to contact him now. Last I saw he was married with a new baby... I dodged that one personally, but I genuinely hope they're happy!
09/20/2012
Contributor: Pixel Pixel
No. My first time involved roofies...I have no idea who the guy was.
09/20/2012
Contributor: Alyxx Alyxx
Well, I do still hear from him from time to time, and we slept together again once a couple years ago. I was by no means his first, but he has had a thing for me ever since we dated briefly back in high school. When I hear from him it's usually him beating himself up for letting me go or wanting to hook up, but he's married now, and I am very very happy in my relationship. So for the most part I try to ignore him nowadays. As for the second person I had sex with, we are still very good friends.
09/20/2012
Contributor: MK434 MK434
No way!
09/20/2012
Contributor: glasskitten glasskitten
Hells to the NO! Hopefully, I never will again.
09/20/2012
Contributor: Artishok Artishok
No!
09/20/2012
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
Quote:
Originally posted by aluminummm
Among my queer friends, we generally seem to be on good terms with the first people we ever had sex with. But my straight friends seem to have a completely different experience in that department. I was curious-- do you still talk to the first ... more
I'm straight, and I still talk to the first person I had sex with.

I live with him! We're married.

We had an Open Relationship about a year after we got together for several years, so I've had other lovers (and he's older, so he had lovers before and while we were Open) but we ended up together and are still in love.

I actually know a number of straight people who are still friends with their first lover or other lovers.

I'm on good terms with an other of my ex-lovers as well.
09/20/2012
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by aluminummm
Among my queer friends, we generally seem to be on good terms with the first people we ever had sex with. But my straight friends seem to have a completely different experience in that department. I was curious-- do you still talk to the first ... more
In this day of complete interconnected lifestyles, we both decided to find out what we could about our past lovers....and went on Facebook, Google...etc, to find what became of them. Neither of us could find many of these people. We tried. No go. SO...no clue where they are or what they are doing and thus, NO, we sure don't talk.
09/20/2012