Not a lot of people, pretty much no one other than my boyfriend knows how "kinky" or high my sex drive is and I just don't feel comfortable telling. I did try to tell a best friend once but I don't think she understood. It's hard to find people that won't call you a freak, or someone you can have a regular fun conversation with about toys, and experimenting positions in the bedroom with. Should be a regular flowing conversation if I had it my way, I'm not ashamed but my sex life can come off as offensive to others. Do you experience this?
Do you openly tell close friends about your sex toys/sex life?
05/13/2013
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There are definitely people I know who I would NEVER talk to about my toys/sex life (my bf's friends, acquaintances...) but I do have a handful of friends who love to let their freak flag fly like I do so we have lots of great conversations about kinky stuff. My close friends either join in or aren't my close friends haha (I don't toss them out but I tend to have an open/blunt way of things so if they don't like it they usually get out early). That first mention of sexual topics is always a little shaky, like "are you going to think I'm a freak?" and some friends do take a little coaxing but they come around but I've found that we're all really freaks on the inside ^-^
05/13/2013
I have a few people I'd talk to about it. There are more I'd answer questions for if it'd be helpful, but otherwise not saying anything
05/13/2013
A couple friends know I bought a vibe, but that is it.
05/14/2013
All of my friends in my close knit group know about eden, and my activity on the site as well as my ever growing toy collection. We've always been a group of friends unafraid to talk about our common intrest in kinks and sex and are comfortable discussing such in public places (like a coffee shop).
05/14/2013
I don't talk to any real life friends about sex or sex toys. Back when I was younger I did, but not anymore.
05/14/2013
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Very close friends, but I am now aiming more toward being silent about it. People just aren't all that trustworthy.
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.kaycat
Not a lot of people, pretty much no one other than my boyfriend knows how "kinky" or high my sex drive is and I just don't feel comfortable telling. I did try to tell a best friend once but I don't think she understood. It's
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Not a lot of people, pretty much no one other than my boyfriend knows how "kinky" or high my sex drive is and I just don't feel comfortable telling. I did try to tell a best friend once but I don't think she understood. It's hard to find people that won't call you a freak, or someone you can have a regular fun conversation with about toys, and experimenting positions in the bedroom with. Should be a regular flowing conversation if I had it my way, I'm not ashamed but my sex life can come off as offensive to others. Do you experience this?
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05/14/2013
There are a few people I'm able to talk about toys and sex with. Not in great detail though. I was able to talk to a friend this weekend (she and her husband came over to hang out), and was able to show her EF. I talked her into buying her first vibe a couple of months ago (she's in her late 40's). I'm able to talk to her about sex and toys. She's not judgmental and contributes to the conversation. I do have friends I can't talk to about my sex drive (which is usually off the charts) or my toy collection (aka my obsession). My mom found out about my toys, and I made the mistake of talking to her about them. Now she brings them up randomly, or is always cracking jokes in front of people. Tells people I'm a sex addict and/or a sex freak. She thinks it's cool and funny, but it's not funny to me. It's one thing if she were to joke with family around or something, but she does this with her friends that I barely know. Ugh, it really pisses me off.
05/14/2013
I talk about sex with my partner. And the occasional awkward conversation with my sister. I can't imagine talking about it with anyone else.
05/14/2013
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I from time to time talk to one or two friends i have about sex, as for the toys i keep it to myself.
Originally posted by
.kaycat
Not a lot of people, pretty much no one other than my boyfriend knows how "kinky" or high my sex drive is and I just don't feel comfortable telling. I did try to tell a best friend once but I don't think she understood. It's
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Not a lot of people, pretty much no one other than my boyfriend knows how "kinky" or high my sex drive is and I just don't feel comfortable telling. I did try to tell a best friend once but I don't think she understood. It's hard to find people that won't call you a freak, or someone you can have a regular fun conversation with about toys, and experimenting positions in the bedroom with. Should be a regular flowing conversation if I had it my way, I'm not ashamed but my sex life can come off as offensive to others. Do you experience this?
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05/14/2013
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Originally posted by
.kaycat
Not a lot of people, pretty much no one other than my boyfriend knows how "kinky" or high my sex drive is and I just don't feel comfortable telling. I did try to tell a best friend once but I don't think she understood. It's
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Not a lot of people, pretty much no one other than my boyfriend knows how "kinky" or high my sex drive is and I just don't feel comfortable telling. I did try to tell a best friend once but I don't think she understood. It's hard to find people that won't call you a freak, or someone you can have a regular fun conversation with about toys, and experimenting positions in the bedroom with. Should be a regular flowing conversation if I had it my way, I'm not ashamed but my sex life can come off as offensive to others. Do you experience this?
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05/14/2013
Once I've gauged just how daring the friend is then I decide whether to talk to them about it or not.
05/14/2013
It's not something I feel comfortable talking about at all, so that definitely extends to friends, etc. I'd like to get better at talking about it, but even if I did, I don't think it's the sort of thing I'd speak casually with friends about, that seems awkward.
05/14/2013
I am completely open about my sex life. Most people don't want to hear about it, but there are a few that i can go into tiny detail with
05/14/2013
Nope. Most of my friends would look at me differently. Makes me question just how good of friends they are though.
05/14/2013
when i moved into my first apartment, my 3 roomies & i pulled out our vibrators so we could see what we all had, compare, & make suggestions. by this, i do not mean that we let each other use them or used them in front of each other or anything. we just sat in the living room holding them up & explaining our experiences w/ them.
05/14/2013
All of my close friends know about them, but if I was friends/acquaintances with someone who was very prudish or I knew wouldn't approve, I doubt I'd ever bring it up for fear of making them uncomfortable.
05/14/2013
A select few, but that's about it. None of my friends know exactly what all toys I own though.
05/16/2013
If they follow my blog they already know I mean I don't care who knows about my sex toys and that I use them it is my choice an my body most people I tell about my toys always want to know what works great and where they can get them
05/16/2013
I have one close girlfriend i tell everything to...i think everyone should have one person other then there bf/gf that they can talk about anything and not feel like they will be judged
thats how you know you have a true friend : )
thats how you know you have a true friend : )
05/16/2013
A few, I have a ton of friends in the bdsm community. No one really knows the extent of it though. The only person that knows everything I have and enjoy is my boyfriend.
05/16/2013
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