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Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Do you follow what your heart? Or are you more of a "thinker" in making decisions? Maybe you do both or one or the other in certain situations?

I usually follow my brain, but listen to & am influenced by my heart.

Some things I have a knee jerk response to & follow my heart right away, for example, if I see animal cruelty.

How about you?
03/31/2013
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Contributor: LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
I'm 50% logical, 50% emotional.
04/01/2013
Contributor: mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
80% heart, 20% head. My head usually just gets in the way...haha, I'm way over analytical if I go with my head.
04/01/2013
Contributor: eri86 eri86
I take both into account. I don't want to make a completely emotional or emotionless decision.
04/01/2013
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I consider both but there's more emphasis on the logical and analytical.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Zingy Zingy
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Do you follow what your heart? Or are you more of a "thinker" in making decisions? Maybe you do both or one or the other in certain situations?

I usually follow my brain, but listen to & am influenced by my heart.

Some ... more
I mostly follow my brain, which tends to keep me single. But sometimes me heart sneaks in, and I end up getting close to people
04/01/2013
Contributor: Martiniman Martiniman
My heart leads the way most often, but in certain areas of life I think with my brain first. I think it really depends on the situation, but I'll lean towards heart.
04/01/2013
Contributor: js250 js250
I use both. My first response is my heart, then my head and a bit of my intuition follows. It really depends on the situation.

Great questions, by the way!!
04/01/2013
Contributor: TheirPet TheirPet
Maybe 70% logical 30% emotional.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Rossie Rossie
For me, it's about 80% logical, and 20% emotional.
04/01/2013
Contributor: KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
Initial reaction is with my heart. If I see some sort of injustice (like racism, animal cruelty, abuse, etc.), I will act based on my instincts. For major decisions, I employ both logic and emotions.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Living Doll Living Doll
A combination of the two.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
I've followed my heart (or insecurity, take your pick), so everyone told me to use my head and I did. Then a major situation with C happened ... logic said to end it all and forget he even existed. After asking around, I was told to use my heart this time (since the insecurity had finally been throttled quiet) and I went with my gut. It worked out.
04/01/2013
Contributor: K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Do you follow what your heart? Or are you more of a "thinker" in making decisions? Maybe you do both or one or the other in certain situations?

I usually follow my brain, but listen to & am influenced by my heart.

Some ... more
Psh! I listen with my penis. LOL. I'm just kidding, but I couldn't resist. Ha. Ha.

Honestly, I think I listen to my heart way over my brain. I don't know that I'd even know if my brain was the one doing the speaking! Lol. I think I'm to used to going by my heart, but it actually works out for me. Or maybe it's a balance of the two (heart & brain). I don't know, but I definitely think my heart is louder than my brain most of the time.
04/01/2013
Contributor: married with children married with children
my brain for most everything. I find that feelings just tend to cause trouble.
04/01/2013
Contributor: Chelynn67 Chelynn67
Quote:
Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Do you follow what your heart? Or are you more of a "thinker" in making decisions? Maybe you do both or one or the other in certain situations?

I usually follow my brain, but listen to & am influenced by my heart.

Some ... more
Both..they fight each other..lol
04/01/2013
Contributor: surreptitious surreptitious
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Quote:
Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Do you follow what your heart? Or are you more of a "thinker" in making decisions? Maybe you do both or one or the other in certain situations?

I usually follow my brain, but listen to & am influenced by my heart.

Some ... more
I'm really not sure which I tend to follow. I think that I'm very different depending on different situations. When it comes to things like my education, work life or anything money-related, I'm a head thinker. When it comes to things like what friends I make, when I state my opinion and when I choose to hold back, I'm definitely a heart-headed individual.
04/02/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I use both. My first response is my heart, then my head and a bit of my intuition follows. It really depends on the situation.

Great questions, by the way!!
Thanks for the compliment! I wasn't too sure if anyone would reply, but you never know & I got some good replies!
04/02/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by Chilipepper
I've followed my heart (or insecurity, take your pick), so everyone told me to use my head and I did. Then a major situation with C happened ... logic said to end it all and forget he even existed. After asking around, I was told to use my heart ... more
I'm happy for you that everything worked out! What a leap of faith to follow the advice given & quash a lifetime of insecurity. It's quite inspirational for me.
04/02/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
Psh! I listen with my penis. LOL. I'm just kidding, but I couldn't resist. Ha. Ha.

Honestly, I think I listen to my heart way over my brain. I don't know that I'd even know if my brain was the one doing the speaking! Lol. I ... more
You got me good with that! I left it wide open, didn't I?

I would have guessed you use your heart more & I believe that's one of the reasons everyone loves you so much! You have a generous, kind heart so it doesn't lead you astray!
04/02/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by surreptitious
I'm really not sure which I tend to follow. I think that I'm very different depending on different situations. When it comes to things like my education, work life or anything money-related, I'm a head thinker. When it comes to things ... more
Love the "heart-headed" description, very clever!

You know, I think you just described me, I'm very similar in what I follow & when!
04/02/2013
Contributor: Sera26 Sera26
I try to stick with my head but sometimes my heart wins out.
04/02/2013
Contributor: Eugler Eugler
I try to be 50-50.

At some aspects I'm more brain-centered like buying stuff or planning my life.
In relationships I'm more heart-centered.
04/02/2013
Contributor: bratcat bratcat
Quote:
Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Do you follow what your heart? Or are you more of a "thinker" in making decisions? Maybe you do both or one or the other in certain situations?

I usually follow my brain, but listen to & am influenced by my heart.

Some ... more
I have to admit i'm very much the same, specially when it comes to animal abuse or jokes on behalf of assault victims (like rape and domestic abuse). Most always i will give a lot of thought to something and calculate my response/action i will take but it's almost always influenced by my heart.
04/02/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
70-80% brain, the rest heart
04/03/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Quote:
Originally posted by bratcat
I have to admit i'm very much the same, specially when it comes to animal abuse or jokes on behalf of assault victims (like rape and domestic abuse). Most always i will give a lot of thought to something and calculate my response/action i will ... more
As long as our hearts are "pure", we can only benefit from their influence, right? And some things just don't give you time for more than a visceral reaction. I find when studying what I did, after the fact, that I wouldn't have done any differently had I the time to ponder my decision. A lifetime spent in self-reflection helps with this.
04/07/2013