Do you have that one person you were stupid over?

Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Recently, my friends and I discussed that it seems everyone has that one certain guy or girl that they are stupid over. No matter what that person does (cheating, lying, etc.) the person can't seem to give their partner up and call it quits until they beat the dead horse to dust. Have you been stupid over one person for an extended period of time?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I have been stupid over a guy/girl.
47  (77%)
I haven't ever been stupid for an extended period of time over a guy/girl.
10  (16%)
I'm currently being stupid over a guy/girl.
3  (5%)
Other. Explain.
1  (2%)
Total votes: 61
Poll is closed
04/26/2012
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Contributor: Beck Beck
I did have one. He was my Ex boyfriend. I was stupid over a lot of shit with him. I'm so glad he is out of my life.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Kissy Kissy
It really does feel good to make the realization that yes, you were, at one point, and now you get it, and are sooooo over it!
04/26/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
Oh yes... He was just so incredibly charming that he could easily talk his way out of anything.

Find him cheating? Okay, upset for a few minutes, then he talks, and I was just so charmed by him that I thought "well it's only a little sex...not a big deal!"

Glad he's out of my life.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
My ex-husband ... overgrown child, passive aggressive, couldn't hold a job, had the libido of a dead fish ... stayed with him for ten years (nine of them in marriage) because I was afraid of being alone and losing my writing partner ... then I found myself about to jump off a bridge and decided he was the one who had to go, not my own life.
04/26/2012
Contributor: 31 Flavors 31 Flavors
Stupid is a very kind word for what I put up with.
04/26/2012
Contributor: KyotoAngel KyotoAngel
Just one, my first boyfriend was a cheating prick and my best friend at the time (who had dated him before me, but didn't mind my going out with him) kept warning me but I chose not to believe her.
I wound up heartbroken and miserable, I really should have listened to her.
04/26/2012
Contributor: powerandintent powerandintent
I was with my most recent ex for 2 years and all he did was lie to me, and use me for a place to stay. He brought me down day after day and I didn't know how to get rid of him so I just dealt with it.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Falsepast Falsepast
Yes.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Badass Badass
I was like that with my ex.. totally dumb and totally blind.
04/26/2012
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
yup
04/26/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
Oh, yeah....bad, bad deal!!!
04/26/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
I realized I was being stupid over him, so I left.
04/26/2012
Contributor: badk1tty badk1tty
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
Recently, my friends and I discussed that it seems everyone has that one certain guy or girl that they are stupid over. No matter what that person does (cheating, lying, etc.) the person can't seem to give their partner up and call it quits until ... more
I wasn't so much stupid, as trapped due to finances and a child. That's long over, thankfully.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
Oh yes. Still am.

My heart flops and my stomach drops when I see him. I wish I had no reaction when I see him... but I'd never wish I'd never met him.
04/26/2012
Contributor: richsam richsam
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
Recently, my friends and I discussed that it seems everyone has that one certain guy or girl that they are stupid over. No matter what that person does (cheating, lying, etc.) the person can't seem to give their partner up and call it quits until ... more
yes i have and still with him
04/26/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
Yes, high school, young, stupid, naive. NEVER again. I wish I had known now what I didn't know then. If only I had more self esteem, which I still don't but I will never allow someone to cheat on me like that ever again and try to convince myself it didn't happen or whatever. Never again will I let a man put his hands on me, spit on me, call me dirty names or tell me how to dress. It was my first long term relationship (2yrs and some) and I wish I would have known this isn't okay and that despite him telling me no one else would want me that SOMEONE would and not all guys are lying, cheating, abusive assholes.
04/26/2012
Contributor: pootpootpoot pootpootpoot
Absolutely, and I still am. He would give me bad news on the phone or via text or email and I would be so upset, and go see him with the sole intention of picking up my stuff and leaving him for good, but as soon as he greeted me I'd forget all about whatever he did. Since we aren't dating we don't have that kind of problem anymore, but he could still get away with anything if he wanted to.
04/26/2012
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
Sort of. Nothing so bad as the examples given, but I've definitely acted quite irrationally where a few (a lot) of women were concerned.
04/28/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by Kissy
It really does feel good to make the realization that yes, you were, at one point, and now you get it, and are sooooo over it!
I'm envious. I'm chronically stupid over one guy. Hopefully one day I will be able to say the same thing!
04/28/2012
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
I am so grateful to everyone who responded to my post! I definitely needed to know that I wasn't alone in my situation. However, I almost wish that I was alone. I'm sorry for everyone who has to deal with being treated so much lower than their worth! <3
04/28/2012
Contributor: CindyH CindyH
i think ever one get that one that they are stupid over
04/28/2012
Contributor: Terri69 Terri69
Oh yes, I wasted two years on stupid!
04/28/2012
Contributor: VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
I was in love with a 19 year old when I was 15. He loved me too but he lived far away (we talked online a lot) and our age differences really bothered him. He totally abandoned me without explanation (it was because of the distance, age, ect ect.) and I was completely heartbroken for YEARS. Wondering where the hell he went, what was wrong with me, ect. I'm 24 now and last year I found him online and we talked again for the first time! It was nice while it lasted I guess. He took off again without explanation. He has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend and even though it would never work I'm still so stupid and so in love with that guy. I can't stop thinking of him and the years just roll by. It's awful. I know it's over but I'm so...stupid. ugh.
04/28/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
When I was a kid I let my Ex boyfriend get away with lying, cheating, but screw that crap! That hasn't happened in a long, long, long, time. I'm not going to be anyones doormat.
04/28/2012
Contributor: hyacinthgirl hyacinthgirl
The ex I was with for five years. Cheated, lied, locked me in a room, raped me, neglected me, treated me like a nuisance... and I would start crying with joy every time I got to see him.

I'm so glad I don't have to deal with him anymore. Him leaving was the only good thing he ever did for me.
04/28/2012
Contributor: Peaches2000 Peaches2000
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
Recently, my friends and I discussed that it seems everyone has that one certain guy or girl that they are stupid over. No matter what that person does (cheating, lying, etc.) the person can't seem to give their partner up and call it quits until ... more
Yes, but I learned a lot and grew as a person during that time. I wouldn't want to repeat it, but I wouldn't change it.
04/28/2012
Contributor: jmex83 jmex83
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
Recently, my friends and I discussed that it seems everyone has that one certain guy or girl that they are stupid over. No matter what that person does (cheating, lying, etc.) the person can't seem to give their partner up and call it quits until ... more
I don't know any one that hasn't gone through this lol.
04/30/2012
Contributor: Sex Positivity Sex Positivity
Absolutely. I had an abusive boyfriend I was completely stupid over. So glad that's over.
04/30/2012
Contributor: sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
Yes...in high school. I was infatuated. So dumb...
04/30/2012